Bitch moan
With Brian Bratichak and Jessica Crowder Please send your questions to bitch@kansan.com
I find that every time I get close to someone, I think that I'm falling for them. It doesn't matter if I'm already involved with someone or just getting out of a relationship. How can I distinguish infatuation with actually liking someone? — Riley, junior
Brian: Here's what you need to do, Riley: grow up. It's simple. Remember when people would run around in third grade and say they were in love with this person or that person one day, a different person the next. You are still at that stage and you're twenty-something. You need to start distinguishing having a good time with someone from thinking you could spend your life with someone. Just because you feel comfortable around a girl doesn't mean you need to pursue a long-term relationship with her. If you can't get out of the mindset you're in now, you might as well go back to elementary school. Just remember, girls down there are much less experienced. Start out slowly.
Jessica: Infatuation is based on lust, and lust is quick. Liking someone or potentially loving someone takes time. You have to see someone in several different lights before you can truly love them in all their glory.
My boyfriend is obsessed with quickies and he wants them all the time in places where we could be caught. I want to try it, but I'm so nervous. How can we make a quickie work and still enjoy it?
— Kaylee, sophomore
Brian: Romantic music should only help the mood of your romantic evening, not set it. What you do before (movies, walking around, dinner, flowers, etc.) should be what sets the mood for the night. If you really want some ideas, try Boyz II Men's Legacy CD, Solomon Burke's Don't Give Up On Me or anything by one of the boys from the Ratpack: Sammy Davis Jr., Dean Martin or Frank Sinatra. If none of them work, stick with what you always do. Get naked and tell her what you want.
I'm looking for some music that might help set the mood for a romantic evening with my girlfriend. What songs will help me get her into bed? — Ben, senior
Jessica: So you're wantin' some babymakin' music? I'm fairly certain that Luther Vandross, (may he rest in peace) is the one to thank for many a man getting laid back in the day. Personally, I have to credit Marvin Gaye and Al Green as favorites who haven't failed me yet. Going along with Brian's recommendation for Boyz II Men, nothing is sexier than the bass voice serenading you in "I'll Make Love to You." Mmmm. Basically, I recommend classic, soulful R&B to do the trick.
Jessica: Public quickies sound like oodles of fun, don't they? If your guy is dead-set on a publicized scene, you set up the situation. Seduce your boyfriend in the kitchen when you know that your roommates are out of town for a weekend. He doesn't have to know that, though. Play along. If he's a true exhibitionist, any sign of an audience will get him excited. When his roommates are home, pull him into the bathroom and lock the door behind you. Once again, play along as if his roommate may walk in at any moment. Use your imagination and good luck!
Brian: While everyone loves the rush of possibly being caught, few people love to get caught. If you are too scared to be too public, but still want to dab in exhibitionism, try a park on a very dark night, a car in a parking lot or in the stacks of Watson library. That way you can still do your English homework while getting some at the same time.
It took a couple years for Jason Sigler and Meredith Winkelmann to recognize their love compatibility, but their friends knew it right from the start. Sigler, Leavenworth senior, and Winkelmann, St. Louis senior, both University of Kansas golfers, first met at athlete orientation their freshman year. Some common friends saw the potential
Howwe met
Couple: Meredith & Jason
and tried to pair them up, but the two weren't up for it. It wasn't until Sigler and Winkelmann had a class together their junior year that they started hanging out. The two have been clubbin' happily together for a year and a half.
- Katie Moyer