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Couple: Sherene & Ryan
They've been together happily ever since. Oh, and she got the beer, too.
- Katie Moyer
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With Brian Bratichak and Jessica Crowder
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Haddad, then a sophomore, had honked at a woman who had pulled out in front of her, gaining the attention of the guy in the car one lane over. The guy, Ryan Courtney, Lawrence resident, applauded her road rage. The two drove slowly next to each other and Haddad asked him if he was 21. Courtney shouted back that he wasn't, so Haddad drove on in her quest. But as they pulled up next to each other at the next stop light, he asked if she wanted some beer and said he could call a friend to get some. They pulled into a parking lot, where he got her number, and "the rest is history." Haddad says.
As Sherene Haddad, Lee Summit, Mo., senior, drove down Iowa St. in Lawrence two years ago, she was looking for someone to buy her beer. But what she found was true love.
I just started a long distance relationship and I am known to be quite a party animal. What are some precautions I can take so that I respect the fact that I am in a relationship without hiding in my apartment every night? -Trisha, Junior
Brian: If you really want to pursue this relationship, but you also want to say very close to Jack Daniels, then you'll need to explain things to your far-away boyfriend. Make sure he knows what you do when you tend to get a little crazy on the weekends. I'm sure he somewhat knows how you are and he'll respect that. As for what you should do, get a buddy when you go out at nights. Tell him or her to watch you, to let you get crazy, but to make sure you don't go over the top. Don't be bogged down by wondering if your boyfriend is going to be offended by what you do. As much as he deserves to have a faithful girlfriend, you deserve to be yourself. Maintain your identity, but at the same time, stay true to your boyfriend. He's
Jessica: Brian's advice is superb, especially the buddy system and cluing him into your weekly shit-faced shenannigans. I say live your life the way you're most comfortable while moving the relationship up on your list of priorities. Relationships, especially "LDRs", are hard work, so don't let the adage "out of sight, out of mind" get the best of you. Keep yourself busy, but make sure you schedule trips to be together. Maybe upgrade your cell phone plans, too. It seems like this out-of-reach stud means a lot to you if you're willing to change your reputation to be with him. If you work at it, I'm sure it'll be worth it.
worth it.
When I have sex with my girlfriend, I think about her having sex with my friends. Is this just something little, or am I a pervert? - Andrew, Sophomore
Brian: Seems to me as though you are very strange Andrew. Most guys don't like it when their girlfriends flirt with other guys, yet you think about her being with other people. There is definitely something bizarre there. The first thing you might want to consider is that you might not be fantasizing about her with other guys, but about the other guys. If you really don't think that's the case, then try a few things while you're in the sack. Keep your eyes on her and her body. Constantly touch her to remind
yourself of where you are. Tell her to scream your name to keep the attention on you. Anything you can do to keep your mind off the other guys. If none of that does anything, consider working your lisp and look into colleges in San Francisco.
Jessica: Said in my best British accent: You nosty wankal Take a cold shower and rinse those filthy thoughts from your sick mind. I don't really think you're a perv, Andrew, but I do think you have some kinky, imaginative fantasies. I'm just glad you're not dreaming about her doing kitty cats or something worse (think large mammals). Would you go so far as to want these fantasies played out in actuality? Probably not. Your fantasy isn't harming anyone, so I think it's kosher. Weird, but kosher. Maybe include yourself in the fantasy next time?
Whenever I tell my boyfriend "I love you" lately, he never says it back. He said it once a few weeks ago and now I'm worried. What's going on? - Alyssa, Freshman
Jessica: Alyssa, relax. You're placing too much of an emphasis on words and not on actions. Does he treat you right? Do you feel loved despite the absence of those three little words? I think you can definitely overuse "I love you" to the point where it loses its flavor. Make sure that you mean it when you say it and you're not just probing for an insincere, regurgitated line. If you just need more verbal reassurance, let him know that a balanced combination of words and actions works best for you.The trick to all this is being secure enough within yourself that you don't even need to hear "I love your's" at every opportunity, just when the moment strikes.
Brian: I love you. There, did you feel that, the romance bulging from my words, the love lingering in the air? No, you did not. So what, your boyfriend said "I love you" to you once? For all you know he was just saying it to you because he messed up big time. Maybe, for just a fluttering second, he really did feel love for you. Or he might have just said it to see what kind of a reaction he would get from you. Seeing how he hasn't said it since a few weeks ago, you should realize that when he said it initially, it didn't mean as much as you thought it did. Don't try to force him to repeat those words. Let him take his time and pace himself. For him, your relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. He needs to be able to take it easy for a while, then allow him to give it his all once he's ready. It will serve you better in the long-run.
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