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The University Daily Kansan
Thursday, February 10, 2000
the student perspective
Calling all dogs! and their owners! come to a POOCH WALK!
When: Saturday, February 13, 1:00 p.m.
When: Saturday, February 15, 100 p.m.
Where: Start at South Park, end at Bone Appetit,
125 E. 10th (2 routes: 1 mile and 3 miles)
Why: Walk your dog for a great cause!
Snacks and drinks for dogs and owners will be provided
(Dog owners and non-dog owners are welcomel!)
Walk your dog to benefit the American Cancer Society and
Breast Cancer Action, Inc. Sponsored by the Bone Appetit Bakery.
Long-distance lovers find ways to celebrate couple's holiday
By Brooke Hesler
Kansan correspondent
As many couples prepare for this Valentine's Day with flowers, candy and romantic dinners, Paul Robinson, Wichita freshman, will spend the day alone.
Robinson said this Feb. 14 would be different, because instead of seeing his girlfriend, he would have to settle for a phone call. But it isn't because she doesn't want to see him, it's because she lives too far away.
"It makes us value the time that we have together a lot more."
"I don't have a car, and the one that she has isn't reliable enough to get her here," Robinson said. "Valentine's Day is on a weeknight, and we both have school."
Jamie Bredahl
Robinson met his girlfriend, Danielle Perez, in high school and has tried to maintain the relationship during college. He said Perez still lived in Wichita where she attends college, and although they made the drive to visit each other several times a semester, the relationship had encountered rough spots.
"The hardest part is that after a while you start looking at other people," he said. "When your girlfriend is there, it's a physical reminder. She trusts me immensely."
Sabetha freshman
though, and I do have the will power not to cheat."
Jamie Bredahl, Sabetha freshman, said she met her boyfriend in high school and that he still lived in Sabetha. She said that this Valentine's Day the two planned to meet in Topeka to go to dinner together.
Bredahl said that it would be better if the two could see each other more, but long-distance relationships had their benefits, too.
"It makes us value the time that we have together a lot more," she said. "Because we don't have very much of it. We almost never argue."
Zia Uddin, Overland Park freshman, also said he planned to see his girlfriend on Valentine's Day. However, unlike Robinson and Bredahl, Uddin said he lived less than an hour away from his girlfriend.
"She's not that far away," he said. "I'm sure I'll see her on Valentine's. We'll probably go out to dinner."
Uddin said that he and his girlfriend had dated since winter break but that the relationship had already been trying.
"One of the hardest parts is having to say goodbye a lot more than you want to," he said. "The phone bill also gets expensive because I call her every night."
In his book, Loving your Long-Distance Relationship, Stephan Blake, relationship expert, states that e-mail is a good way to stay in touch with that special someone. He also points out that it's cheap.
Uddin said he tried to e-mail his girlfriend at least twice a week.
"It doesn't really matter because e-mail can't substitute for hearing her voice," he said.
Robinson said he hadn't regretted his decision to continue dating his girlfriend.
Some women take over Valentine's date planning
"She's just the nicest girl," he said. "She's very forgiving, and she just understands me. We can make fun of each other all the time. We have a unique way of showing our love."
By Carrie Nodgaard
Kansan correspondent
As Valentine's Day approaches, many students are dreaming of the perfect date. But for many, nothing romantic comes easy.
Rather than wait for their favorite guy to make Valentine's Day plans, some female students are taking matters into their own hands.
Ashley Shroyer, Sterling sophomore, said the best way to avoid disappointment was to take care of the details.
"Sometimes I feel the safest way to guarantee a nice evening is to plan it all myself," she said. "Guys try hard, but it's
impossible for them to know exactly what girls want. Girls are harder to please, but they also seem to have better judgment and taste when it comes to a perfect evening."
Shroyer said that it helped when women planned the dates because it showed the men what they wanted.
Yet not everyone thinks that letting women take control of the evening is the best way to make a perfect evening. Some think the guys should try harder.
Ryan Deo, Shawnee junior,
agrees that women should let
men know what they expect, but
men should plan the activities.
"In any relationship, it is traditional for the guy to be the leader. So it should be his responsibility to plan the date." Deo said.
"Sometimes I feel the safest way to guarantee a nice evening is to plan it myself."
Ashley Shroyer Sterling sophomore
"Sometimes finding out what women want takes more effort from the guy because girls are often apprehensive about opening up. They don't want to say anything that would hurt the
relationship. If both are open to honest communication, everything becomes much easier."
Kate Obermueller, Wichita sophomore, said she thought that romantic planning should be left to the men but that women shouldn't expect men to be hopeless romantics all of the time. She said that often the perfect date was not planned.
"Guy's are expected to be romantic year-round — on birthdays and holidays and just in general," she said. "It would be nice if girls took over the planning on Valentine's Day so a couple could do nice things for each other. However, the perfect date isn't something you do, it is being with someone you love."
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