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The University Daily Kansan
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Wednesday, July 7, 1999
ROOMMATES They Become MONSTERS
Forget about feeding them baby food because what goes in gets spit back out.
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also to talk back.
Forget about setting the baby on a blanket to be content with a rattle. Forget about quiet trips to the store — be prepared for the toddler to reach back into the grocery cart and scramble a carton of eggs when you're not looking.
Marriage a challenge couples must meet
Learn to appreciate the relief that comes with the realization that your two-year old has made it through his birthday party without biting any guests.
As the years go by, the challenges change, but they never go away.
When asked to write about weddings, I cringed, knowing all too well that a successful wedding does not ensure a successful marriage.
After all, 100 percent of marriages have a wedding—whether it is a courthouse ceremony or a full-blown extravaganza—but only 50 percent of marriages survive.
I was once a starry-eyed bride. At 21, I believed in happily-ever-after.
If indeed it could be termed a "game" at all, the question would be: Are we willing to work on this marriage every single day and to do all we can to make it be all it can be for as long as we both shall live?
The guessing game is no longer about plucking petals from a daisy, saying, "He loves me, he loves me not."
In an ideal world, even as the icing droops down the cake on a hot July day, as the ring bearer wipes away his tears and braves a smile, and as the hesitant father gives his daughter away, the trip down the aisle is, or should be, a journey for life.
wasn't so happy anymore.
Things just weren't right, and
by that time it seemed too late to
make them right.
John is a Tonganoxie graduate student in journalism.
And now, three years after that, I wonder if the situation were right, would I dare take the chance again? Would I dare believe in happily-ever-after ever again?
I made one more trip down the aisle, this time finding a truly happy marriage. But three years later, he died.
But 16 years later I realized it
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Independence Day is safely behind us, and Americans are now enjoying the dog days of summer. (Or is enjoy too strong a word? But I digress...)
With nary a bank holiday in sight until the end of August, there just isn't much to do except try to beat the heat and look for other reasons to throw a party.
With that goal in mind, this week's trip through the Wide Wide Web is devoted to weddings. Most people associate weddings with summer, thus the subject of this column.
So unless anyone knows a reason why I shouldn't proceed, let us do—and what this columnist has written let no editor put asunder.
www.elegantbridemagazine.com
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This is the online version of Elegant Bride Magazine. It contains a lot of useful information for the brave soul who wants to plan a wedding on her own.
There are links to other wedding planning resources on the Internet and even a free demo version of wedding planning software from Microsoft. There's also a FAQ (list of frequently asked questions) about how to plan and stage a wedding.
www.wedding411.com
This is another site devoted to planning the perfect wedding. It includes links to various merchants who sell wedding paraphernalia, such as flowers, cakes and formal attire.
It also has links to other wedding- planning sites and personal home pages that couples have created to share their special day.
■ http://marriage.about.com/
msusyow.htm
This is about.com's marriage page. It has links to pages from how to make sure the marriage will last longer than the wedding cake in the freezer, to how to plan an unforgettable ceremony.
If you want to have a theme wed
ung or incorporate other traditions into your ceremony, this is the place to find them. It even has a great link to wedding toasts from around the world.
http://underwire.msn.com/
underwire/tspersonal/
miss/manners.asp
Now, that you have the planning under control, visit this site to learn how to keep guests under control. This is Miss Manners' column on the Web.
Although not all the questions and answers have to do specifically with wedding etiquette, many do. And if Miss Manners can't help you be excruciatingly correct, no one can.
www.weddingcircle.com/
This site is a clearinghouse for all you need to know about weddings.
It covers everything from how to judge the diamond in the engagement ring that is costing you two months' salary to information about bridal wear.
Jennifer Roush
jroush @ kansan.com
about bridal registries and advice on marriage.
www.theknot.com
I saved the best for last. This site has everything a bride or groom could possibly want or need to know about getting married, planning a wedding, financing the ceremony and picking a honeymoon spot.
It's really much too complex to describe here. Just point your browser to this site if you're trying to plan a wedding. Trust me, you'll be glad you did.
Roush is a Lawrence senior in journalism.
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