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Monday, February 5, 1973
University Daily Kansan
Book Review
Wedlock: Must It Be So Confining?
By MARY LIND Entertainment Editor
In a period of increasing disillusionment with traditional institutions and of confusions about the why of social norms, a book has been written which suggests an alternate approach to the most stringent institution of our culture-marriage.
"Open Marriage, A New Life Style for Couples," (287 pages) by husband-and wife anthropology team Nena and George Carr. The book shows that no person can be all things to another.
Through chapters entitled, Living for Now, Realistic Expectations, Privacy, Open and Honest Communication, Flexibility in Roles, Open Companionship, Equality, Identity, Trust, and Love and Sex without Jealousy, they set their guidelines. Their goal is the development of a "realistic" everchanging relationship which invites continual renewal and expositions.
"Open Marriage," presents the contrasts between what the O'Neills term a closed marriage and some revolutionary concepts toward and alternate approach. They view real-life relationships as revolve around actualizations of self, but engage in sharing and respect one another,
rather than totally depending on their mates.
They abhor stagnation and growth sting, which they feel is one of the major pitfalls of closure marriage and which, they say, appears when partners become involved in presenting a united-couple front and lose their individuality.
According to the O'Neills, a married person should not feel that he is losing his mate when the husband or wife cultivates interests outside the marriage. They insist that with acceptance, individual growth can be channelled back into the most intimate part of a relationship, bringing new dimensions and a freshening of the union.
Many of the ideas are so logical in the realm of consideration for someone you love and live with, that it is difficult to understand why closed marriages flourish at
This book isn't a heavy reading load on the psychological aspects of a modern marriage contract or a "How To Improve Your Relationship in 10 Easy Steps."
you care, that good sex will solve all your problems in marriage, that you are not a complete person without becoming a parent, that you don't love your mate if there is conflict between you, that sacrifice is the true measure of love, and most important, that you will fulfill all your needs, economic, physical, sexual, intellectual and emotional?
What is logical about the assumptions that, once married, you will have constant attention, concern, admiration and condolences. The world doesn't ever be lonely again, that jealousy means
It's a nice dream, but in the opinion of the O'Nells these expectations are unrealistic and have led to some of the disillusionment. The O'Nells produced our current high divorce rates.
"Open Marriage" is not the final word on successful relationships, nor are its concepts for everyone. The book does not deal with that person whose basic personality
leaves him ill-suited for independent relationships and only briefly talks about, the effect of children on an open-marriage situation.
However, "Open Marriage" does off *a* in an innovative look at important elements of *mess* with
If you ever believed, "that marriage is forever, that you belong to someone and someone belongs to you, that jealousy means you care, that the ultimate goal of marriage is having a child, that you should save all your pennies for that house in the city, that you want to fulfill all your needs and that you would be never lonely or sexually dissatisfied again," then maybe this is a book you should read.
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'Last of Fat Eccentrics' Describes 'Mad' Publisher
To those of us who have grown up choring at the idiosyncrasies placed in Mad magazine, "The Mad World of William M. Gaines" by Frank Jacobs (268 pp.), a book written by Bill Gates and his father–figure and publisher would not expectedly be dry and humourless.
Jacobs wastes no time in assuring us that it will not be. Immediately after the title card, he states that "the book are real, and any resemblance to fictitious characters is purely coincidental." If he has truly written an account of what he was doing, people, his statement is indeed applicable.
By ROGER OELSCHLAEGER Kansan Reviewer
There are quite a few bizarre and often amusing anecdotes recounted in the book. "Mad" fans will be happy to know that 43 man Squamish is still alive and kicking (fruilipping, perhaps) in Berea, Ohio. One of the most uprappent incidents is the murder of the Unarmed Party" which a Mad staff threw for 100 people whom he thought unpleasant.
He is a man who hates exercise and loves food, and has more cases of Burgundies than he does pairs of trousers. He is the man with the most serious comings with the horror comics of the 1950's, began
Jacobs refers to the book as a biography of William M. Gaines, but it is more succinctly described as a writer's bird*e-view of a "Mad"场, Gaines, who is portrayed as the "Last of the Great Fat Ecentrics", is the king of this world.
Surprisingly enough, however, it is revealed that Don Martin, the maddest of the Mad artists, is really just a normal-appearing, non-s psychotic individual whose insanity only emerges when pen meets paper.
Although Jacob's book is a trifle too unorganized at times, it nevertheless is interesting reading and a must for anyone interested in it. A must for a comic book or a satire magazine.
The people characterized do at times resemble fictitious persons, but only if they are removed from the context of their Mad world. It is questionable whether Alfred E. Neuman himself could have described the situation more faithfully.
A Visual Radio Show Aired by Cablevision
By DEBBY CONNOR
Kansan Staff Writer
For the insomniacs in town, a new dimension has been added to late night TV. Sunflower Cablevision's 'Are We On Yet?' hosted by 21-year-old Tim Bradley, presents a revolutionary format: it's a radio show you can watch.
"Are We On Yet?" is aired from 10:30 p.m. to 2 a.m. on Monday through Saturday on Channel 6. The program often includes live acts, vintage and experimental films and various visual effects, but the main thrust of the show is playing of rock music from the mid-1970s. Bradley, as he is still in front of the camera while the music is playing.
"It is a tricky program to do," Bradley said. "On the radio, as soon as the music starts, the disc jockey is forgotten. On this program, I'm still there during the music. I sometimes feel compelled to carry on in my head and it makes me feel very awkward."
Bradley says the success of the show can be gauged by the number of calls he makes, from 30 on a week night and often as many as 150 to 200 on Friday and Saturday. According to Bradley, the calls come from people of all ages. Callers from 10 to 16 years old are callers from 10 to 16 years old.
"Most callers seem fascinated with the idea of seeing the person to whom they are speaking on the phone. Many call just to chat. I wonder what the psychological implications are of talking to your TV set or seeing it talk back to you," Bradley said.
Bradley admits that "Are We On Yet?" still is a dull show visual. The different format requires the viewer to rearrange his ideas about TV. According to Bradley, the idea is to have music to listen to and then, when there is something to be seen, to watch it.
Several solutions to this problem are being worked out by the "Are We On Yet?" staff. Bradley says he has been trying to contact local student film makers and musicians to appear on the show. Another effort is the Community by providing information and discussions about various service organizations in Lawrence.
"People feel that when the TV is on, they can watch to watch and add to their. The idea of just having a video is very new."
Bradley says he is also interested in making several technical improvements in the show. One of these would be to go to FM stereo. In this way the listener could receive the show on his stereo and then tune in on the TV when there is something to watch.
Both Bradley and Dave Stringer, director of the show, say that "Are We On Yet?" a lot of potential, but that it is often difficult to discern because of the newness of the format.
"As far as we can tell, we are the only TV disc jockey show in the country," Bradley said. "We don't have anything to go by, one to call up for advice. The possibilities are unbounded and it's very frustrating to know at times what could be done if we had access to lots of money or the Beatles or something."
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