By Jessi Crowder and Chris Tackett
Should you be a tiger or a kitten in bed?
I had a great relationship end two years ago and since then I've dated around a lot. The problem is that I'm not finding anyone nearly as good as what I had the first time around. Am I just not looking hard enough?
— Ryan, junior
Jessi: They say nothing measures up to your first love, but I think that's bologna. The reason the people you're dating aren't meeting your expectations is because you've placed your ex on a pedestal. Though it may have been a great relationship, you need to move on and admit to yourself that that person is no longer deserving of that position.
Chris: Where are you looking? I don't get this "looking for the right person" crap. If your ex was the type of person you want to be with, that's fine. But when you're dating you can't compare every girl to your ex. At least you shouldn't. For whatever reasons, that relationship didn't work. Hmm, what could that mean? Oh, she was not perfect! So stop trying to find someone exactly like her!
Q. Ever since I came to school, my parents have been bugging me to find "that special girl" to spend the rest of my life yet, but I'm not sure I'm ready yet. Should I start looking for her, or should I just enjoy my time in college?
Andy, freshman
Chris: Your folks think you're gay. No, seriously they do. They think you're gay, and for them the only way to prove you aren't is for them to see you dating girls. Next time they bring it up tell them you're not ready to get married because you're having too much fun boning random chicks. Two birds, man.
Jessi: Some people come to school to get married. Some people come to get an education. Some come to get plastered...And some come for all three. In this case, I wouldn't head your folks' advice. Be a big boy and focus on your goals now, not theirs. If you're not ready for a serious relationship, tell them so and then discuss what goals you do have in mind (minus the ice cream man-plan.) Hopefully, your parents will be understanding and supportive.
James, sophomore
Do girls like things rough or gentle in the bedroom? I'm confused as to what I should be doing.
Jessi: It varies for each woman. Sometimes, they like it rough 'n tumble, and other times they want sex to be gentle and romantic. Either way, make the woman feel loved, wanted and pleased. Chris: Jessi is totally wrong. Every single girl likes it rough, messy and the exact same as the time before. And if they tell you differently, they are liars. And whores. If you haven't laughed at this且, you need to try actually having sex and you'll soon realize that Jessi is completely right. There's no steadfast, fool-proof method in bed There doesn't even need to be a bed! Just go out there, do what feels good, pay attention to the noises, make sure the girl isn't crying, do what she telis you, and you should be OK.
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