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Monday, May 8, 1972
University Daily Kansam
Single Mothers Accepted
Editor's Note: This is the first of a two part series about the single mother. The second part deals with the unwed father.
By KAREN KLINKENBERG
Kragen Schweitzer
"When people ask me what my husband does, and I say I am a lawyer," she replied with the idea. I was surprised. I expected them to react like that.
Carol Anderson is a single mother. She is one of a growing number of unmarried girls who have kept their babies.
"I did not decide to keep Heather at the very first. I did not decide to stay. I did not decide to keep getting closer and closer to when I was going to have her and we had just come together and I was heather. Heather is Anderson's 7-month-old girl. As many single mothers, Anderson, who is 21, is staying with her."
SHE WORKS nights at a drive-in restaurant for $40 a week to support Heather and herself. She pays some money from her father.
Pamela Graham, 21, is a single mother of 9-month-old twin girls. She was born in New York that keeping the child after one became pregnant was not the case.
"It is an individual decision. You have to be almost sure you are willing to commit yourself. You need to answer for every one," she said.
Graham, who also has a part-time job, is taking classes by television from Washtenham and is teaching them psychology and sociology. She lives with her parents, who care for the twins when she is not
When single women get pregnant, most of them would have to use a contraceptive they usually cannot because of financial reasons. Sometimes the reactions of people at home are similar to how people react to keep her baby. People's reactions also make the situation good or bad if the woman does not want to get pregnant.
ANDERSON AND Graham both stayed home when they were pregnant.
Anderson said she thought most people accepted her keeping Heather.
"My mother's father is the only one who can kill you, even me yet he still does not mean me. And my mother, who is in Texas, has not seen Heather."
"My friends, well, there are these three girls one them does not come over as much, but the other two, they just love Heather. They get her and help me they get and they really help me out a lot too," she said.
But Graham said other towns peoples' reactions have bothered her a little.
"If I did not live here, I would
BECOMING A mother and suddenly having the responsibility for a life other than one's own is something that is hard to come by, ends up being rewarding, according to these two women.
feel fine about it. But it is a small town and they just have a certain opinion and they stick with it forever and ever," she said.
"Having someone that needs you and that you can do something for," is what Graham likes about being a mother.
Anderson could not think of any real problems they had.
"The only thing is that I wish I did not have to work and could stay with her more. We seem to be good at it, and we sure have enjoyed it," she said.
Both Anderson and Graham
themselves pregnant have sought
the help and sympathetic ear of
the Kansas Children's Service
The league, though primarily an adoption agency, devotes a large part of its work to counseling unwed mothers.
RALPH HERERA, a worker for the Kansas Children's School, helps new girl come to us the first thing we do is let her talk and tell us her
"Some come in a panic and are
immediate to get away from home and get money for medical expenses," he said.
"I want to be safe."
There seems to be more acceptance of the idea of keeping children in a nursery or kindergarten diminishing supply of babies to women keeping their children.
how she accepts herself being a girl, and how her feelings are for the boy involved. Was it a long-standing relationship or something that was different?
They then discuss her parents, he said, and whether she wants to stay at home or go away. Some parents want to know her parents to know at all, he said.
Model Lease Aids Renter
The purpose of the pamphlet is to assist students seeking off-campus housing by alerting them to the basic physical and sanitary requirements pertaining to a building or room, the law regarding occupancy, the actions of owners or owners, and the responsibilities of tenants.
Also included in the pamphlet is a summary of the city of Lawrence ordinance No. 3749 concerning discrimination in housing. The ordinance lists discriminatory practices, the laws that apply to engaging in such practices, and exceptions to the ordinance.
HERRERA ESTIMATED OUT of 50 women that had been in contact with him,15 have decided to keep their children.
The model lease is an example of what to expect in housing agreements. When charges would be handled and shows how a contract should read regarding the responsibilities of the handlord and those of the tenant.
When a woman is considering keeping her child, Heredia said, they ask her to consider many things. A few of these are: how old she is and if she feels responsible enough to care for help.
By JOHN PATRICK MAHER
Kansas Stall Weiter
THE "OFF-CAMPUS Housing Information" pamphlet contains a summary of the Lawrence Minimal Housing Council, which devised a set of standards for the occupants, the standards for the use and occupancy of dwellings, the requirements for rooming houses, the rules for inspection of dwelling units and the policies of the Kansas community housing.
IF ANY University of Kansas: student thinks he has grounds to move to campus housing or his landlord's reaction to a housing problem, he should file.
Students looking for off-campus housing for the summer or fall term should get a copy of a handbook, "Information pamphlet and a model lease to review before signing a contract for an apartment."
The pamphlet and model lease are available through the Off-Campus Housing Office in McCollum Hall, the People-to-People Office in the Kansas Union and offices of the dean of men, the affairs, the dean of men and the dean of women in Strong Hall.
Campus Housing Committee
Besides meeting the standards set
for the building, every dwelling must
be maintained in good repair by the
owner or landlord and be fit for
use. A "public officer," appointed
by the city of Lawrence, to inform
the owner of the "Minimal Housing Code."
The style of life she has planned for the child and how she feels it would be with a baby.
THE PUBLIC OFFICER may determine that a dwelling is unfit for human habitation if he finds an object that would cause the dwelling (1) leaining or buckling interior walls; (2) damaged or deteriorated wall; (3) walls with improperly distributed loads; (4) damage by wind, fire, or other causes which endanger the occupants; (5) occupants; (6) dilapidation, decay, insanitation or disrepair which is likely to cause sickness in the health, safety, or welfare of the occupants or other people; (7) leaving or extinguishing the building in case of fire or panic; (7) defects in the structure increasing the risk of injury, accident, or other calamities.
—Her emotional strength.
The public officer may enter and inspect a building or room for fire insurance, not the same lawrence, not of the same household, firm or corporation, file a petition with the public office to be admitted unfit for human habitation or whenever it appears to the public office that the building is unfit for human habitation.
ALSO, UPON the filing of a complaint with the Off-Campus Housing Committee, the city of Lawrence may be requested by the committee to have the public inspect the premises in question.
habitation and close it. If the owner lance a fire, he will dwell in the dwelling, without complying with the code, he may be fined $10 to $100 or put in the cage. The cage must be insulated.
The public officer can serve a notice to the owner or landlord specifying what repairs or alterations are required on owner or landlord will normally be given 30 days in which to comply. If the repairs or alterations are not made, the landlord will dwelling as unfit for human
The community she will live in. What effects it might have on her social life.
- ATTITUDES IN the immediate family towards her keeping a baby.
The city ordinance concerning discrimination states that it shall not rent or lease a dwelling to any person or to impose unusual and extraordinarily burdensome and extraordinarily leasing or leasing of a dwelling on anyone because of the race, color, religion or national origin of the
THE ORDINANCE also states that it shall be discriminatory for any person to discriminate in the service of services to any dwelling because of the race, color, religion or origin of the person living there.
-How being pregnant has affected what she thinks of herself.
The ordinance sets a fine of up to $100 or a jail sentence of not more than 30 days or both will be required. The ordinance varied of violating the ordinance
Any landlord whose rooms or apartments are listed with the Off-Campus Housing Office in accordance with the statement agreeing to meet certain basic requirements concerning the dwelling and any other amenities discriminatory towards any renter or prospective renter.
Anderson said she was grateful for the opportunity to have someone talk to her at the Kansas City League when he was pregnant.
Graham said she did not think being a mother "was going to be all this much work."
"one of (the twins) is really quiet and the other is really loud," Anderson said. "and one can stand... and the other one knocks her down and laughs."
Anderson said, "I am just feeling sick." and she (heather) is happy.
"I just went and talked with Mrs. (Betty) Hodges (another social worker at the center) and she said the whole decision was not to not, but to not, and she talked about what it was going to be like and problems I might run in to. I am glad I had her to talk to, she really understood, and she said "I would have cared," Anderson said.
PERSONS IN THE Lawrence community threatening suicide can be rescued by organization staffed 24 hours each day with para-professional help.
Dr. Raymond A. Schwegher, director of University Health Services, agreed with Schroeder that most often it was not school counselor but suicide threats, but rather personal problems. He said that after adjusting to university life, students tend to take examinations and in spite of risk, but often become anxious trying to fit into the job.
Figures released by by Headquarters showed that during the last year it was contacted by 80 percent of students about an average of three times each month. Of this total, 40 to 50 per cent were students at the university.
During the 1970-71 academic year, 16 persons who had made suicide gestures were seen at the Mental Health Clinic. Of the 16 in contact with the clinic, none were recalled, only one death in the last nine years among persons who had contacted the clinic.
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