Volume 124 Issue 144
kansan.com
Friday, April 27, 2012
FEATURE
happened. I was a little bit nervous, I don't know about her." Lisa, now smiling, shakes her head when asked if she was nervous, and replies with an immediate no.
That trip to Anaheim where they first met was one of their best memories because they were also able to go to Disneyland together. "We got to go to a special part of Disney with a lot of rides and food," Hal says. "That was really fun." Within a year of dating, Hal told his mom that he was moving to Lawrence for Lisa. That was five years ago, now the couple is currently living together, going through their everyday tasks by each other's side.
thriving in the community
Although Lisa and Hal are able to live alone, together in an apartment in east Lawrence, they still receive support from Cottonwood, an agency whose mission is to help people with disabilities shape their own future. Cottonwood is considered a full-service agency that serves more than 580 people by offering day programs, residential programs and employment programs. In Lisa and Hal's case, it provides them with different employment opportunities through contracts with Cottonwood as well as different places in Lawrence.
Hal works five days a week at Cottonwood and the nonprofit organization the United Way, to support people with developmental disabilities in Lawrence. Lisa is also employed at Cottonwood and spends two days a week at McDonalds as well. Peggy Wallert, the director of community relations at Cottonwood, worked directly with Lisa and Hal and believes it's a remarkable feeling to be a part of something that is making such a difference in people's lives. "There is a lot more that I take home every night than I could possibly give," Wallert says. "You learn so much, it's like being in a 'Cheers' environment. Everyone knows your name and wants to share with you. Hal and Lisa, and all the people that work here are tremendous."
While working during the day keeps both Hal and Lisa busy, they are able to spend their nights together cooking dinner, watching TV or going to different Parks and Recreation activities. "They make each other laugh and help each other when they are sad," says Lisa's mom, Angie Barcus. To cheer each other up after a long days' work, Lisa gave Hal a cassette tape while Hal surprised Lisa with sacks of candy. They also make sure to help one another around the apartment, and always cook dinner together. "A great thing about them as a couple is they are so complementary with their strengths and weaknesses," Barcus adds.
As far as bills go, they both split their payments equally, each paying 50/50. They also have their own, individual lease on their apartment, and when it comes to groceries, they buy their own separate things." "They have a staff person from Cottonwood pick them up and they always schedule their rides whether that is to the store, work or night activities," Barcus says. Technically, Barcus and Lisa's dad are her guardians, but they still urge her to make her own decisions and are amazed by everything she has accomplished, including being together with Hal. "I think everybody should have a partner in life," Barcus says. "They are a great couple, and it is neat to see that yes, it can happen. I hope all people regardless if they have a disability or not can have what Lisa and Hal have."
Just like any couple, Lisa and Hal have experienced different obstacles in their relationship. When they first started dating, Lisa had some medical problems that were hard for Hal to handle. "Hal was very concerned about Lisa," Barcus says. "That was probably the worst obstacle they have dealt with, but Hal was very supportive, and they did very well working together to get each other through it." The two aren't perfect though, as they do fight from time to time. Usually when they argue, they can work it out themselves, but once in a while they will turn to Barcus for help to sort out their problems. "Sometimes Lisa or Hal will call me and say what happened," Barcus says. "I try to listen and give them their options of what they can do."
Another topic that the couple must deal with is the possibility of having children of their own. Barcus has discussed her concern with Lisa about having children and the possibility that if she did, her children would be likely to have Down syndrome. Resource specialist Carroll says that because Hal does not have Down syndrome, there is a 25 percent chance that the couple's children could be born with the disorder. "They definitely know the issues and the fact that if Lisa ever became pregnant, there is a chance of having a child with Down syndrome,"
Barcus says. "I think they understand that along with the physical parts of their relationship."
natural ties
One organization that's become prominent in Hal and Lisa's lives is Natural Ties, a KU organization founded in 1988, that strives to integrate people with developmental disabilities into college life. The KU Greek system plays a significant role in Natural Ties as it was started by the fraternity Sigma Alpha Epsilon after they formed a bond with a boy who has developmental disabilities and made him an honorary member of their fraternity. It was then they decided to create an organization that could help many people with disabilities living in the community. Now, almost every fraternity and sorority on campus are paired with one or more people with disabilities and are able to engage in different activities with them. Lisa has participated in Natural Ties for the past 10 years, while Hal has participated the past six.
Andrew Edmunds from Prairie Village, and Mike Lierz from Saint Joseph, Mo., both sophomores and members of Beta Theta Pi fraternity, have been paired with Lisa and Hal since the start of their freshmen year. Every Wednesday they drive over to Lisa and Hal's apartment to pick them up and take them to a Natural Ties event, such as holiday parties, movie nights and game nights. "They love events where they can eat," Andrew says. "Hal likes Cherry Coke and Lisa likes Dr. Pepper." Hal agrees with this statement saying that their favorite event is when they go out to eat at CiCi's Pizza. Although Andrew and Mike did not know what to expect before their first time meeting Lisa and Hal, they have developed a friendship with them that continues to grow every day. "They always remember everything you say," Mike says. "We've gotten really close the past two years. We absolutely consider ourselves friends with them."
For some students, Natural Ties is all about forming bonds with people they normally wouldn't interact with. Codirector and senior Erin Atwood, Topeka, has been involved with Natural Ties since her freshman year and thinks the organization is really good for college students who don't know how to act others who have disabilities."Natural Ties puts you in a very laid-back, relaxed environment," Atwood says. "Going to these
events and being with the same people every week, you really do become friends." Hal and Lisa know just about everyone at Natural Ties as they have formed many lifelong friendships through the expanding organization. "There are about 100 ties," says Caroline Godfrey, social coordinator, junior from Leawood. "We have really grown. Sometimes it is challenging because you have to plan a big enough space and enough food for 200 people. But it is definitely worth it when you see that moment where everybody is having a good time, the energy of the event is up and you can tell there is no stress living in that moment."
fireworks
Lisa remained very quiet throughout the evening, listening intensely to everything Hal said. It wasn't until my last question that she sat up, eyes wide, ready to speak. "I have something to say," she said in a gentle voice. She turned to look at Hal for a brief second then turned back to me. "When I first met him it was kind of like fireworks shooting off." That answer says it all. Regardless of their disabilities, it is safe to say Lisa and Hal share a love that anybody should envy, a love that outweighs it all.
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FILM
Documentary prompts race discussion in schools
Patrick Monroe, a senior from New Berlin, Wis., looks through a lens to focus a shot for his documentary. The documentary features the "Can We Talk" program at Free State High School, which focuses on racial issues in public schools.
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Sylvia Yimer, a graduate student in the School of Social Welfare, went to visit the program "Can We Talk" at Free State High School. "Can We Talk" is a localized part of a national program. Yimer said her visit was driven by her interest in race equality in public schools.
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Yimer said the program was meant to facilitate understanding of different races and reduce the academic performance gap between white students and students of minority groups. She said she was surprised by how unrecognized the program
A group of University students is producing a documentary called, "Courageous Conversations about Race," a program encouraging high school students to face racial issues.
Monroe said it was great to know that Sylvia was as dedicated as he was to filming and directing.
Last September, Yimer brought the documentary idea to a University student club, the Documentary Film Society. The student club was just established by then. The president of the club, Patrick Monroe, a senior studying film, was excited to hear about the idea.
"Film can be used to make change and be the outlet for voices that are marginalized to be heard," Yimer said. "These kids wouldn't get an opportunity to get their stories heard without someone giving that to them necessarily."
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The program is inspired by the book "Courageous Conversations about Race — a Field Guide for Achieving Equity in Schools," by Glenn Singleton and Curtis Linton. In February, Yimer and Monroe flew to San Francisco to interview and film Singleton.
Yimer said Singleton was personable. The author set aside more than four hours of his day to meet exclusively with Monroe and Yimer.
"It was easy to tell how passionate he was about his work and how eager he was to help us," Yimer said. "The interview with Glenn is by far the most important interview for the film."
"As a filmmaker, I hope this will be a calling card not just for me, for the club, but for KU," Monroe said. "We want to show people what KU students are capable of."
Monroe said a lot of work needs to be done to make the documentary successful and he hoped they could eventually send the documentary to film festivals. He hasn't yet announced a release date.
During spring break the team conducted an interview with a Free
anything solid to work on," Monroe said. "Then Sylvia called me with this golden idea."
Monroe said the project would expand through the school year and develop into a 70-minute feature.
State High School student who said to have benefitted from the program. Yimer said their next goal was to set up an interview with Tim Wise, one of the leading authors on race and racism in America.
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