Volume 124 Issue 83 Thursday, January 26, 2012 kansan.com for the JA along the The JA against th and their Aggies in that win pionship anticipate against M looking th serious m The C2 Hoiberg, the Big 12 of being pic eighth on Sat the Cyclom of th De ne sh In the Lawrence fight and the second rebound is impress Jayhawks team in b games or Iowa newcom Royce W Minneso the Cycle matchup collected four assist In con is T-15th reb centence in steals can play and is a opponent Defen biggest especiali Robinso him throw away froie for v because players, Young, white. LOVE DEAR MIGNELLE I have only had sex about five times and I have two questions. One: why haven't I had an orgasm yet? My boyfriend is not well endowed, with a potato sized penis. I do feel something, but I haven't climaxed. Two: When will it stop hurting when he goes in? It definitely doesn't hurt as bad, but it still hurts for the first couple of thrusts. Please help me! -Pain with Penetration DEAR PWP. I've said it before, and I'll say it again: inexperience leads to apprehension. Your inability to orgasm and the pain you experience during penetration may be the result of inexperience, on both sides. You mention your boyfriend is not well-endowed and I think you have the impression a large penis is necessary for female orgasm. If you read last week's column, you would understand the average male is 5 to 7 inches erect. Coincidentally, the average depth of a female is around $5\frac{1}{2}$ inches. For one reason or another, males and females seem to "fit." Now, you also mention, although not long, he has what you describe as a "potato." Am I to assume you mean the penis is short and thick? A large girth may be one factor contributing to the pain you're experiencing. Large girth coupled with a lack of lubrication can most certainly cause uncomfortable, even painful, penetration. I would suggest you start by exploring your own body. Take an hour to yourself, lay on your bed, find a stimulating song or movie, and touch yourself. Only by knowing your own body will you be able to give direction to your partner. Caress your skin, nipples, labia, and outer vagina. Gauge how quickly you become lubricated. At this point, you might want to use either your fingers or toy internally. If you're finding difficulty in achieving arousal, take a break, regroup, and try this exercise another time. Don't put pressure on yourself to experience intense orgasms every time you either masturbate or have sex with your partner. The brain is the most powerful organ for sexual satisfaction. Finding a calm and inner peace will allow you to open up to the experience of pleasure. So, here's what you can do with your partner. After discovering how you can stimulate yourself, allow him to put on his safari hat and do some exploring on his own. Encourage him to caress, kiss, and lick your body. Practice extended foreplay and oral sex. Do everything but penetration! Gauge how quickly you become lubricated. Hopefully, you will find an increase in lubrication, as well as promote relaxation and enjoyment. Finally, I always recommend keeping lubrication on hand (water-based, silicone, flavored, etc.), as well as a few sex toys for experimentation and variety. Sex is meant to be enjoyed, but learning about your body and its needs is the first step. Michelle MacBain, Kansas City, is a graduate student in Communication Studies. She studied Psychology and Human Sexuality at KU and the University of Amsterdam Program includes works by Franz Schubert, Gabriela Lena Frank and Johannes Brahms STRING INSTRUMENT EXPLORATION Cello, Violin and Viola *Free and Open to the Public* Sunday, Jan. 29, 1:30 p.m., Lied Center Americana Music Academy instructors will be available to help you try your hand at the cello, violin or viola. LIED CENTER OF KANSAS Order Today • liedku.edu • 785-864-2787 Catch of the Week DANIELLE MOCCIA HOMETOWN: Atchison, KS YEAR: Fifth-year senior MAJOR: Journalism and Spanish INTERESTED IN: Men MAJOR TURN-ONS: Foreign accents, long hair, intelligence. A guy has to have a sensitive side, and like animals and kids. But he also has to be manly enough to cut down a tree. Only hypothetically though, because he's got to be a tree hugger. MAJOR TURN-OFFS: Bad teeth, frequent usage of the word "bro", unhealthy eating habits. I hate it when guys don't wash their hands after going to the bathroom, that's disgusting. HOBBIES/INTERESTS: Traveling, playing gui tar, speaking/learning Spanish, reading, writing, watching "30 Rock" CELEBRITY CRUSH Conan O'Brian, he's hysterical and dreamy. Or Zooey Deschanel, she's cute. WHY I'M A CATCH! I know how to assemble a food processor and I will never make you watch "Glee" with me. THEME SONG TO YOUR LIFE: "Leaving on a Jet Plane" by John Denver. I'm a travel slut and am always going somewhere. FAVORITE LAWRENCE HANG-OUT. Probably any grocery store where there's free samples. A problem area on defense for the Jayhawks is defending the perimeter, particularly the three-point line. Led by Chris Babb, Chris Allen, Scott Christopherson and Tyrus McGee, Iowa State leads the Big 12 in three-point field goals. White is also capable of knocking down three-pointers. This season, the Jayhawks have struggled with blocking three-point shots. Big 12 opponents have shot 122 three-point shots against the Jayhawks, which is the most in the conference. The Cyclones are hungry to prove they belong amongst the Big 12's elite as well as in the NCAA Tournament field, so the Jayhawks should be prepared for the challenge. For a team that has very thin depth and must count on their starters both offensively and defensively, the Jayhawks have little room for error. ETHAN PADWAY - Edited by Amanda Gage ETHAN PADWAY epadway@kansan.com twitter.com/UDK_B12Fball was a second ranked high school quarterback on rivals. com. Senior quarterback Dayne Crist's career at Notre Dame was underwhelming considering he By transferring to Kansas, Crist gets a chance to start over and wib Crist over and will "To walk in the door and have a guy who carries himself the way Dayne does is good for everyone on the team." Weis said. "Plus, he's a resource for these guys to know who I am." be reunited with the coach who recruited him to Notre Dame, Charlie Weis. Crist was a five-star recruit. according to rivals.com, and committed to Notre Dame and Weis his junior year of high school. Weis would only be around two years with Crist before he was fired in 2009. "I feel so much more comfortable doing the things Coach Weis asks me to do," Crist said. "That's why I committed to him the first time at Notre Dame." After redshirting a year and serving as Jimmy Clausen's backup in 2009, Crist became the starter for the Fighting Irish in 2010. He started nine games and threw for 2033 yards, 15 touchdowns and seven interceptions before a ruptured left patella tendon ended his season. In 2011, Crist won the starting job but was benched after completing seven of 15 pass attempts in the first half of the season opener. "I don't think you can look at anything that has happened with Dayne Crist in the past two years," Weis said, "As far as I'm concerned, it's null and void. I knew what I had two years ago when I left there, and I'm fired up to have him now." At Kansas, Crist is able to play immediately because he still had one year of eligibility when he graduated from Notre Dame. It is the same NCAA rule that allowed quarterback Russell Wilson to play immediately for Wisconsin last season, where he led them a berth in the Rose Bowl. "When I started thinking about leaving and taking my fifth year elsewhere, he was the first person I called." Crist said. "He was always supportive first and never gave biased answers." Crist's narrowed his decision to Wisconsin and Kansas before choosing Kansas. Weis's relationship with Crist was a factor in his decision. He really had my best interest in mind at all times" Crist will only be able to play at Kansas for one season, but he hopes his effect can last longer than that. The football program will try to recover from a stretch where it has lost 26 of its last 29 games, including its last 12 conference games. "Kansas fans should be really excited because Dayne Crist is a motivated guy," sophomore quarterback Jake Heaps said. "He's a great worker and a great teammate, so he's going to be huge for this program in moving it forward." Edited by Tanvi Nimkar Hometown: Canoga Park, Calif CRIST STATS High School: Notre Dame H.S. (Sherman Oaks, Calif.) Height: 6'4" Weight: 235 lbs | YEAR | COMP. | ATT. | PCT | YARDS | TD | INT | | :--- | :--- | :--- | :--- | :--- | :--- | :--- | | 2009 | 10 | 20 | 50.0 | 130 | 1 | 1 | | 2010 | 174 | 294 | 59.2 | 2033 | 15 | 7 | | 2011 | 15 | 24 | 62.5 | 164 | 0 | 1 | | CAREER | 199 | 330 | 60.3 | 2327 | 16 | 9 |