2B= THE UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN
JAYPLAY
THURSDAY.FEB.7,2002
HOROSCOPES
Todav's Birthday(Feb.7).
Your challenge this year is finding a balance between your home life and volunteer activities.
Aries (March 21-April 19).
Today is an 8
You'd better start thinking about getting serious soon. This is a warning. An influential person is about to ask some tough questions. Be prepared.
Taurus (April 20-May 20).
Today is a 5.
Money that's been withheld should start showing up, much to your relief. Don't complain to the person in authority. Wait a couple of days until the check clears, then say thank you.
Gemini (May 21-June 21)
Today is an 8.
An anchor you've been dragging around is about to slip away. You can do without it. Maybe you pay off an old debt, leaving more money for you.
Cancer (June 22-July 22).
Today is a 5.
Do you have to do everything?
Are there more people asking for favors than you could ever hope to oblige? You're a nice person, but you don't have to be a doormat.
Leo (July 23-Aug. 22).
Today is a 10
Today is a 10.
Doing what you're told doesn't have to be all that bad if you're obeying somebody you admire — somebody who has your best interests at heart. If you're not in that position, find a way to get there.
Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22).
Today is a 5.
It's hard to imagine the finished project when you're in the middle of a huge mess. Your luck is changing for the better. Keep at it.
Libra (Sept. 23-Oct 22)
Today is a 9.
You're lookin' good! You're attracting the attention of important people. Someone you knew years ago could reappear to tip the scales in your favor.
Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21).
Today is a 5.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21).
Today is an 8.
You have talent as a philosopher You understand lofty concepts and explain them well. Now, let's see how practical you are.
You may start out working harder, but you'll be working smarter before long. Whatever it takes to keep the money rolling legal, of course.
Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19).
Today is a 6.
Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18).
Today is an 8.
Feel like you've been pushing against a locked door? Well, something just shifted because of circumstances beyond your control. Try again.
Tuesday is all G.
The feedback you get from friends is highly supportive and with good reason. You go to a lot of trouble to think of everything that might go wrong. Before it accept their compliments.
Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20). Today is a 6.
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Make the necessary changes to achieve your goal as quickly as possible. Your imagination should be working well, so use it.
Kegels increase sexual endurance
Here's something for you to think about the next time you head for the john. While peeing, try to stop the stream. Can you do it? How 'bout one more time? If you're really feeling wild or have been drinking heavily try to keep stopping and starting. Feel the burn?
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Well, Tiger, even though you might have sounded like a defective faucet, you're actually giving one of the most important muscles in your body a workout.
You see, not only does your pubococcygeus or "PC" muscle help you hold in the weekly specials at your favorite watering hole, it also does really important things for vaginas, penises and their owners.
David Strovny, the sex education correspondent for AskMen.com, www.askmen.com, is all about the exercises. According to Strovny, you'll know you have a PC muscle of steel if you can make your erection jump using only your muscle strength.
Guys, if you exercise your PC musc cle, and do it religiously, you can expect results like having an increased hang time and — when you finally get there — having better, longer orgasms.
You also be able to amaze friends and relatives with your stream-stopping prowess at the urinal. And, come on now, that's pretty cool.
SEX COLUMN
Meghan Bainum mbainum@kansan.com
Ah, but the lovely ladies of the University of Kansas aren't left out of this sweet PC muscle deal either.
A strong PC muscle can help you increase your grip on whatever you decide to put in your vagina - be it a penis or otherwise. A PC muscle of steel also can help with increasing orgasm intensity. Can I get an oh, OH yeah for that?
an all or other year. A little less erotic benefit for women is better bladder support as well.Having a strong PC muscle can be especially useful to women after childbirth to help bladder control.
So, are you ready to have a PC muscle to die for? Well, then get on the Kegel exercise train. Kegel exercises are the technical term for giving your PC muscle a good workout by squeezing and flexing. And even though Kegel exercises may seem to be too good to be true, they do work — if they are done consistently and right.
Like with any exercise, form is important. Kegels only do their job well
Women can check their form by inserting a finger or two into the vagina and feeling for the vaginal walls to squeeze.
when the PC muscles are the only ones doing the squeezing.
Guys, try to get a feel for the muscle by stopping the flow when you go. If that doesn't work, you can also locate your PC muscle by sticking a finger in your anus and feeling for contractions there.
After locating your muscle, the real fun begins — the exercises! Try doing them for just five minutes, twice a day. Not a big commitment, huh? But, guess what: Unlike most other exercises, you can do them anytime, anywhere — and nobody will know! Not the hottie in the next seat, not your professor, not even your roommate. Well, not unless you're doing the Kegel marathon and start grunting or sweating. And, another word of caution, they can sometimes cause some — uh — arousal. So, Kegel exercises before a big presentation might not be the best idea.
With regular exercise, you should feel your PC muscles getting stronger and stronger. Try flexing a little bit to see what happens — give your partner a nice surprise. Or, if you both are Kegel freaks, try a little mutual exercising. Whatever you do, just keep those PC muscles flexing.
Sample Kegel Exercise
Here's a Kegel exercise routine from the lovely folks at AskMen.com. See the website for more. Never fear, these routines work for men and women. Do them together with your partner, or alone at home whatever feels better.
Clench and unclench your PC muscle for 5 seconds with a 5-second break. Do this 10 times in a row.
Quickly clench and unclench your PC muscle for a 10-second period, then take a 10-second break. Perform three sets, then take a 30-second break.
Tighten your PC muscle for 30 seconds and release for 30 seconds. Do three times in a row.
Repeat the first step and you're done for the day.
Check out Kansan.com for other Kegel exercise routines
Shouting wrong name reveals deeper problem
RELATIONSHIPS COLUMN
Earlier this week I read a question from a female reader in the Free for All dealing with yelling out one guy's name while having sex with another guy. Specifically, I was asked how I felt about it.
Let me tell you, it is something I pray will happen each time I have sex. I wait for the ultimate moment of passion and pray that instead of "Oh! James! Yes!" I hear "Oh! Billy! Right there!"
Seriously, many of my friends have confided in me about their excursions into imagination while in the bedroom. They tell me about exes who appear in their dreams. They tell me about celebrities with whom they would love to get naked. They tell me all about different people, and it makes me sad.
Never have I imagined myself being with someone else in any context. Whether I'm attending a movie or spending the night at a love interest's
James Manning jmanning@kansan.com
house, I always know — and do not pretend otherwise — that the person I am with is the person on my mind.
"Liar!" my friend Kara claims.
"We've all done it, Just be honest."
I am being honest. And I think the honesty is allowed because I always make sure I am truly with the person with whom I want to be.
Research done by the Kinsey Institute in 2000 shows most fantasies involving imagination of a different person almost always center on a previous sex partner. This means people are reliving past sexual experiences through a new one with a less desired partner.
It goes without saying that this is unhealthy. If this is happening to you, you most likely have either entered a new relationship too quickly and were not able to displace issues from the old relationship, or you think your new partner is boring in the sack. The latter is almost always easier to fix. It is the former that is tough.
When we don't have this,we feel like something is wrong with us.The truth is,though,that virtually everyone reading this column could have a new sex partner if he or she wanted.As humans
Our nation is comprised primarily of co-dependent people. We almost always want someone else around whether it be while watching television, going shopping or going to bed.
we have standards, though, and will not simply take what is there. Unfortunately, many of us grab the next best thing and use him or her as a sexual substitute until someone else comes along.
The only answer I can provide to fix that problem is not to flirt with, date or get naked with someone unless you are sure you are ready.
So, to the inquisitive reader who called the University Daily Kansan, I suggest breaking up with your boyfriend - if he has not already dumped you. Next, hold off on initiating a relationship until you are ready. This will avoid embarrassing situations, and it will allow you to move on with your life.
Smile, be brave, get over it. Easier said than done, but all relationships that have come to an end eventually heal. Yours will be no exception.
'I am Sam's scores with music, Beatle references
By Brad Weiner Jayplay writer
The recent release I Am Sam may not be a film critic's best friend, but from a music standpoint, it is one of the most emotional films ever to land on the silver screen.
The Beatles' story plays a very subtle back beat to the main plot which involves a custody battle for the daughter of Sam, a mentally disabled man played by Sean Penn.
tles.
In the opening scene, Sam names his daughter Lucy Diamond Dawson after the LSD influenced song Sgt. Pepper's. During the film there are ample references to the fab four and their supernova career that burned brightly for eight short years, such as Sam's apartment being adorned with posters and memorabilia from the Bea-
I Am Sam is so interesting because Sam's mental disability applies to everything except the band. Often in the film he is flustered for the words to describe a particular emotion. Sam resorts to metaphorical comparisons to the Beatles in these situations.
For instance, when the courts treat him like an expendable entity, he describes how George Harrison was never recognized until he wrote "Here Comes the Sun," the tune that many fans consider the highlight of Abbey Road. Michelle Pfeiffer responds that Harrison was always her favorite.
In another scene Lucy — played by the adorable newcomer Dakota Fanning — testifies about her father while he watches via closed circuit television
The state attorneys ask whether Sam can give her everything she needs. She responds coolly. "All you need is love."
But best of all is the music. The original score was composed by John Powell, whose surreal melodies can be found in Shrek and Antz. The soundtrack consists of entirely Beatles songs covered by recent artists.
I Am Sam is a testament to the beautiful songs of the Beatles because parts of the film would be emotionally empty without the music. The most poignant moment in the movie is when Sam watches Lucy paint with her newly appointed foster mother, played by Laura Dern. He is so saddened he turns away and runs the other direction. In the background is the soulful tenor singing of Eddie Vedder belting out the classic You've Got to Hide Your Love
Another tear jerker was when Sam communicated with his daughter by dropping a pink Origigi bird from a tree. Lucy picks it up and understands the message while vocal goddess Sarah McLaughlin belts out Blackbird.
Other performances include I'm Looking Through You, by the Wallflowers, Across the Universe, by Rufus Wainwright, and a funky Strawberry Fields Forever, by Ben Harper. Hard-cores may be disappointed since the Beatles are not actually in the film, but to such fans, here are a few suggestions: Take it easy. Let it be. Life goes on.
Contact Weiner at bweiner@kansan.com.
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