2B = THE UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN
JAYPLAY
THURSDAY, JANUARY 24, 2002
HOROSCOPES
Today's Birthday (Jan. 24)
Today's birthday (Jan. 24).
Love is the most powerful energy on Earth and maybe anywhere. But you're a scientist, right? How can you believe that old line? What about nuclear energy? This year, you'll learn. Love will get you.
Aries (March 21-April 19). Today is a 9.
Aries (March 21- April 19). Today is Ari.
The action is fast and furious, and you're at the head of the pack. Use all the resources at your disposal to stay ahead of the competition. Let your pit crew fix whatever breaks. Keep your eyes on the prize.
Tauurus (Aeril 20-May 20) Touray is a 5.3
Taurus (April 20-May 20). Today is a 5.
You may feel like hiding out. Take care of a few odds and ends, making sure everything's working properly. If you've put the right machinery in motion, the job will take care of itself.
Comini (May 21-June 21). Today is a 9.
Gemini (May 21-June 21). Today is a day you're extremely curious. The more you learn, the more you realize you haven't seen yet. Make plans to explore the most fascinating place on earth. It doesn't have to be a fortune. For you, that place could be the library or the Internet.
Cancer (June 22-July 22). Today is a 5.
Cancer (June 22-July 22). Today it's 8:
Mercury is retrograde in your eighth house of jointly held finances. This has been going on for weeks, and it continues through the end of the month. It signals confusion and breakdowns.
It's not a good time to take out a loan. Pay something off instead.
Leo (July 23-Aug. 22). Today is an 8.
Lee (July 23-Aug. 22). Today is an 8.
Support a brilliant idea. It has merit. Point out
whatever might not work, just to be helpful.
Check for minor errors. You'll find at least one.
Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Today is a 5.
Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Today is a 5.
Let the people in charge know what you need.
You may not get a raise, but you could get new tools and equipment. If yours have stopped functioning properly, speak up.
Libra (Sent. 23-Oct. 22). Today is a 10.
Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22), Volley.
You're jet-propelled! You've got the support you need, so stretch beyond your old limits. Go for something magnificent. You're not the same person you used to be. Let go of an old anchor and soar.
Scorpin (Oct. 23-Nov. 21). Today is a 5
Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21). Today is a B.
Paperwork may seem to dominate your life.
Make sure you understand every word before
you sign anything. Put together a solid foundation that you can build upon.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Today is an 8. You're breezing through the material. It's getting hard to remember why you thought it was so difficult. Other tests will come up as you use these skills, but nothing as tough as what you've been through. Next comes a planning phase.
Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Today is a 5.
You're forced to become efficient. You don't have a moment to waste. If you had time to think about it, you'd notice that you're developing good habits. You're providing excellent service and implementing new ideas quickly. You're awesome.
Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Today is a 10.
You should write poetry. Even if you're awkward at first, the words you find will be beautiful. Stop trying to be "just friends" with everyone. Let someone special get close. Abandon your defenses.
Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20). Today is a 5.
Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20). Today's a 5:
You're still keeping to yourself. There's a lot of activity going on, but most of it is inside your head. You may start to stir things up, most likely at home. You're in the midst of a creative experience.
Ignore insecurity to realize your inner sexiness
By James Manning Sex columnist
All, celebrity Only a few short hours after my first sex column was published and distributed, I heard some complaining.
Ah, celebrity.
"Oh, this is the stupidest," said a reader sitting in Fraser Hall. "At the end he talks about hit on at the bar. Get real. This fat dork could never get laid." Ouch.
"Actually, I don't really think I'm all that fat – just dorky," I told her. And I smiled. She looked at me, smiled back as if I were joking and looked at the picture in the column again. Then came recognition. "Oh my God! That really is you! I am so sorry," she said. "You look so much better than your picture! It doesn't even look like you!"
Immediately after leaving, I examined my own copy of the paper and checked the picture for myself. After all, I didn't want people to think I was fat. I looked at the picture bewildered. While I admit the picture is not exactly flattering, I didn't think I looked fat.
I couldn't hold back. I was hurt and somewhat angry. I had to respond.
I just walked off. How do you reply to something like that?
James Manning jmanning@kansan.com
Even so, irrationality set in, and I began to mope. I was still hurt. Even worse, I felt ugly. The more I thought about the situation, the more I realized how stupid it was for me to be mad at the woman in the hall.
She said nothing about me that I had not said to myself at one point or another.
I have thought of myself as fat, and a lot of other negative things, too. I have looked in the mirror so many times and thought, "What if?" What if I could just get rid of my love handles?
What if my hair were just a different color? What if I just had a darker tan? What if I could just have a few more muscles?
I am insecure about my body and
my looks, and I am not alone. I am part of a nation of insecure people.
We all want to feel sexy. And most of us are. We just don't know it. It's this fear of not being sexy that makes us insecure.
We see images in the media of what the perfect body is supposed to look like, and we forget the people in those ads, television programs and movies are not real. We easily forget about the airbrushing and digital editing used to make the "perfect" person.
This prohibits many of us from fully enjoying our bodies. Without enjoying our own bodies, we cannot enjoy a full sex life or even the little things life has to offer.
Think of how much better swimming parties, trying on clothes or eating dessert would be if we were more comfortable with our bodies. Even better, think of how great it would feel to be naked with someone we loved if we liked seeing ourselves naked, too.
Unfortunately, it is tough to escape the idea that we do not look good. Start by taking a dry-erase marker and writing something at the top of your mirror that makes
you feel good. It could be, "You're beautiful," "Hey sexy" or the one I have written above mine: "What a stud."
Every time you look in the mirror and see the message, find something about your looks you really do like. Say it out loud.
If these suggestions seem too touchy-feely for your taste, then go to a good friend and ask what he or she thinks is sexy about you. You will be surprised at the answers.
Getting naked in front of someone is intimidating for just about anyone. We all have our insecurities. Trust me, if you're taking your clothes off with someone, he or she probably already made up his or her mind about whether they wanted to see what's underneath.
So the next time you hear a snide comment about your looks, don't let it bother you at all. Know that you're a total hottie, and that the other person is probably just as insecure as you once were.
■ Contact Manning at jmning@kansan.com. This story was edited by Molly Gise.
Aspiring R&B artist shares his music, technique
By Louise Stauffer Jayplay writer
The walls of his room may be plain, his style of dress isn't flashy, but as soon as he begins to speak about his music, Mylin Brimm transforms into a star.
Brimm, East St. Louis, Ill., junior, has just released his third CD, Cherish Life. He said the lyrics in Cherish Life are R&B style, mainly love ballads.
"There are also a couple of songs talking about life and everyday experiences, just how I feel," he said.
"I try not to make music like everyone else does."
Mylin Brimm E. St. Louis junior
Brimm's music has gained popularity largely due to his efforts to advertise. His pockets always contain demo tapes or CDs, which he gives to people who are interested or to DJs at clubs.
He always brings a tape with him when he goes clubbing.
Mrs. E's Express, the to-go cafeteria in the basement of Hashinger Hall, also plays a part in helping Brimm expose his music. Brimm has been employed at Mrs. E's Express since 1999. He has his CDs on display and often plays his music while he works.
The Hawk, 1340 Ohio St., one of Brimm's favorite hangouts, was the first place that played one of his CDs.
"Some people might think it's selfish to ask a DJ to play your stuff, but no one's ever going to play it unless you ask," he said.
"It's an opportunity to advertise," he said. "When people see my CD and ask who it is, I tell them that it's me."
He enjoys the criticism that Mrs. E's Express-goers give, and he said students' reactions were usually positive.
"Criticism is good. I always like to hear people's new ideas," he said.
KIMBERLY THOMPSON/KANSAN
He has loved music since he was a baby and began singing in the church choir as a child. His parents have been very supportive of his efforts in continuing music but were glad he had chosen to stay in school as well.
"My parents are really proud, and my mom hopes I make it," he said. "I'm majoring in sports science because I want something to fall back on in case I don't make it."
Brimm said often the temptation to drop out of University of Kansas and work on his music full time was appealing.
"It's difficult to put all of your effort into school and music," he said. "You have to learn how to balance your time."
Mylin Brimm, East St. Louis, Il., junior, works and sells his CDs at Mrs. E's Express in the basement of Hashinger Hall. He has produced three CDs; one on his own and two with the help of friends.
Acknowledging the chance of having a successful music career is slim. Brimm admits that the competition for musicians is huge.
"I try not to make music like everyone else does," he said. "I really don't do it to make it big. I do it more for myself, to have people feel what I'm feeling."
Tommy Mathew, Olathe senior said he had high hopes for Brimm.
"It's inspiring to know that he pursues his dreams," Mathew said "People on the dance floor like it and because it's local, they appreciate it."
Brimm's friends say they're inspired by his ambition.
Before Mylin began workin solo, he was a member of the group Tri-State-Clice, with whom he released two CDs, Passionate Rage and Dead-End Blue. Surprisingly, Brimm confesses he doesn't have much technique a reading music.
"I wish I could know techniqiu along with my natural gift," he said. "I tend to play by ear, catch the tim by feeling it — it comes from th heart," he said.
Brimm took—and quit—drum lessons twice and decided readin music wasn't for him. "I'm not saying that being able to read music i bad. I just don't do it that way."
Brimm's way is best described by the method in which he writes his songs: "I try to match what I'm feeling with the mood of the music."
Brimm's music and CDs are available online a
www.mp3.com/mylinbrimm, a Hastings, 1900 W. 23rd Street,
o from Brimm himself.
Contact Stauffer at Istauffer@kansan.com. This story was edited by Anne Morgenmeier.
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