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Wednesday, January 26, 1994
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Distances can pose problems for romance
For Heather Collier, the awful memory of that day two years ago remains in her mind.
By Kevin Hoffmann Kansan staff writer
"It was the worst day of my life," said the Clearwater, Fla., junior. "I cried and cried and cried."
No, Collier didn't suffer the death of a loved one, nor did she endure a horrible personal attack. She did, however, leave Florida and her boyfriend of two years behind to attend KU.
When students leave home for a far-off university, they often must leave a significant other behind. Those students then find themselves thrown into a long-distance romance.
Collier's move became necessary when her father told her he would pay for her college if she came to Kansas City to live with him. At first, she and her boyfriend, Tony, were unsure how their relationship would survive the distance between them.
"We really didn't know what was going to happen," Collier said. "We didn't talk about it."
But Collier and Tony soon found 1,000 miles could not end the love they felt for each other.
"I never met anyone like him before, that could take care of me like he does," Collier said. "As we continued to talk, it became obvious that we still had a relationship."
Continuing a long-distance relationship has a price though, Collier said.
"It's hard being alone," she said. "It's like not having anyone at all. When you come home and have something important to tell someone, there's nobody there. You can't tell your roommates everything."
"You can't think about it much," she said. "You have to have a lot of good friends and neighbors to keep you company."
Collier said handling the loneliness took time to get used to.
Besides loneliness, couples involved in long-distance relationships also must face uncertainty about each other's faithfulness.
For Collier and her boyfriend, that wasn't a problem. "We had a lot of trust in each other," Collier said. Julie Westhoff, San Diego sophomore, said long-dis
tance romances took more than trust. Westhoff and her boyfriend, Darryl, have survived several different moves and more than five years of separation. A successful long-distance relationship requires that both parties be allowed a certain degree of freedom.
Westhoff said she and Darryl had agreed to see other people while separated.
"We were honest with each other," she said. "We're both human and realistic."
Westhoff said she knew certain sacrifices had to be made when she first moved to Houston and her boyfriend stayed in Boulder, Colo.
"I knew he was going to go out with other women, but as long as we talked about it. I could handle it," she said.
"There were about five or six times when we weren't sure if it was going to last or not," Westhoff said.
Westoff and her boyfriend found their relationship could handle even the distance between Kansas City and the Bahamas when Darryl transferred to a computer firm.
Besides the emotional hardships of long-distance relationships, a financial hardship also exists.
Phone bills combined with the costs of visits have proven expensive for Collier and her boyfriend as well.
"My phone bills have been as much as $200 a month," Westhoff said, "They average around $80."
"It's about $300 to $400 dollars each time I go back," Collier said.
Paul Kramer, Des Moines senior, found long-distance relationships didn't always work. Kramer and his girlfriend were together for two years before he left for college. Their relationship lasted for three more years before it ended.
"I needed to see what else was out there," he said. "We needed to step back and see what other people are like."
Kramer said that when he went to Des Moines to visit his girlfriend, he found they often had mixed emotions.
"Sometimes we were uncomfortable and other times we were like old friends," he said.
Kramer said long-distance relationships weren't for everyone.
"It all depends on the people involved," he said. "If they argue all the time, or they are only happy when they can have sex, they should move on."
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