University Daily Kansan, April 14, 1983
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Domestic
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If no arrest is made, the best an officer can do is talk to the parties and try to at least temporarily ease the tension. Officers also can refer the parties to professional counselors, but they cannot order counseling. The officer's final decision to try to persuade one party to leave for the night.
Gardner, Hadi and Afaff尔 all said that no single set of guidelines always worked.
Smith said she was pleased with the way the police officers handled domestic violence.
"Overall, I'd say the Lawrence police department does a really good job," she said. "They are always supportive and never blaming. They really don't fit the old stereotype of what many people think about police officers."
EACH OFFICER STRESSED THAT the most important thing an officer could do when confronted with a domestic disturbance is to separate the fighting couple. For this reason, she said, at least two officers usually respond to disturbances.
The officers take the parties into separate rooms and talk to them about the problem.
But even the physical separation of the couple requires careful thought by the officers, Afalter
"They're in their own territory," he said. "They are less likely to go along with commands, so you have to make it sound like a good idea for them to do what you tell them to."
Officers must also be careful to choose the right room in which to talk to the man and give him his example, they avoid kitchen because they contain many potential weapons. Affalter said.
OFFICERS ALSO AVOID BEDROOMS or bathrooms, Affalter said, because those rooms are particularly personal. By invading them, officers can aggravate the fight further.
Alcohol can complicate the problem even more, Hadi said.
"The most you can do is get the situation temporarily resolved and give a referral," she said. "But it's difficult to get to that end when you are talking to a drunk."
Alcohol is involved in about 60 percent of the cases that Smith sees at the shelter, she said. But she said that number might actually be higher because the wives are often upset when they are answering questions for a report, and might leave things out.
AFFALTER SAID HE DID not get deeply involved in couples' problems but tried to understand them enough to eliminate the danger before referring them to qualified counseling services. But, he said, few couples actually follow up on referrals.
"It's not my place to get involved with their personal problems," he said. "And we don't have a lot of time to spend talking to them."
Hadi said, "You've got to strike a difficult balance. You've got to be firm and take control of the situation so that no one gets hurt, yet you you've got to allow them respect — so you don't provoke more violence. And you you've got to have more than just compassion; you have to have
"I've really been impressed with the way the officers handle disturbances without violence. I've seen them unwind a lot of tense situations." Hadl said.
UNCE THE PARTIES HAVE COOLED off, assuming the police officers were successful in their attempts at peacemaking, the officers bring them back together and urge them to settle
The three officers said they often warned couples that if the police were called again that woman would be arrested.
If a lot of animosity still remains after police have talked to the couple, officers usually try to get one of the two to leave for the night.
This too presents a problem, Gardner said. If the deed or lease is registered in the man's name, even if he has beaten the woman, police cannot ask the man to leave.
In this case, police officers then try to get the woman to go to a friend's house, or they tell her about the shelter for battered wives and arrange for her to go there.
SMITH SAID THAT SIX WOMEN had come to the shelter since January as a result of police referral. The location of the shelter is a closely guarded secret so angry husbands cannot seek it out.
Smith suggested that police officers should be able to take a crisis counselor along with them on the job.
Calling the police is not always the right decision for a woman who is fighting with her husband, Smith said.
"If a woman is in danger, she should always call the police," Smith said. "But it's her choice. She knows better than anyone how the man will react."
She said she thought that calling the police might sometimes provoke the husband to get angry.
DEALING WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE is difficult because the officer usually doesn't know what to expect when responding to one, the other, or both. For more information that the dispatcher can provide.
Officers never know the details until they arrive at the scene.
Still, the officers stressed that the only way to learn how to react to domestic violence was to actually respond to calls.
Gardner suggested that more training in the Law Enforcement Training Center in Hutchinson would benefit officers. He suggested more role-playing exercises.
After years of responding to them, the officers said they still felt apprehensive at times.
"Nothing is routine about them," Hadl said.
"You still have to approach each one with extreme caution.
"I've heard some of the most blood-curdling screams and some of the nastiest words of my life responding to domestics."
undergo to create and sustain a successful enterprise."
Hudson
HUDSON'S SPEECH WAS PART of the KU School of Business! Executive Lecture Series.
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Although she said that being a woman in the business world had advantages as well as disadvantages, she said it was not the obstacle that many had claimed it to be.
“I've never lost my femininity, a concern to any woman with ambition,” she said. “Rather, I used it to my best advantage by budgeting, setting goals and tasks performed by women for countless years.”
She said that before her first trip to Saudi Arabia for the company, others had asked her whether she was worried that the Saudis' business might make dang business with them difficult.
"Of course I took a couple of men with me," she said. "But the only thing the Saudis looked at was me."
A WOMAN WHOSE EXPERIENCE is limited to being a wife and mother might be afraid to take the risks that are necessary in the world of business. Hudson said. But that world is wide-open to anyone willing to take a risk, she said.
She also spoke about the qualities that had enabled her to work her way to the top.
"Being young at heart, youthful in ideas,
imagination, courage and faith, and possessing
the continuous passion to work will be of great value to your success," she said.
But she said that no one achieved success without the assistance of others.
"If you are under the illusion that you can make it alone, then you are not going to make it."
"Throughout my career, many people have given me a helping hand, a thoughtful suggestion, and a pat on the back when I needed it. Without such people then, and now, I could not claim the business success I have been able to achieve."
AND AFTER HE PREDICATED that gasoline prices would increase again next week, she had a
"You might want to fill up this weekend," she said.
Hudson said that because her company was privately owned she would not divulge the exact figures of sales it made last year. But she did say that it took in more than $600 million a year.
that it is no more than this job for companies. Hudson criticized the big oil companies for repeatedly trying to put the independent oil refineries and retailers out of business.
"This concentration of power is totally destructive of the competitive forces which make up the American way of doing business," she said.
Commissioner of education retires
"We at Hudson have been in business for 50 years, and given an equal chance to compete, I believe we will survive another 50 years."
By United Press International
Bolton's resignation, which takes effect Dec. 17, was accepted by the State Board of Education.
TOPEKA — Commissioner of Education Merle Bolton, who began his teaching career in a two-room school 43 years ago, announced his retirement yesterday.
BOLTON, 67. WHO WAS appointed state commissioner of education eight years ago, said he hoped to teach aspiring principals and school superintendents at the university level after retirement.
"It's been my feeling that education in this state has fared well" because of the attention legislators have given to school finance, he said.
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