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University Daily Kansan Thursday, May 17, 1956.
Guests' Attire Determined By Ceremony
You've read the engagement announcement, you've seen the bride-to-be's picture in the paper, you've admired her ring, and now—now, you've received an invitation to her wedding.
Being a guest at a wedding is undoubtedly the next best thing to being a member of the wedding party, but it also brings up that old problem: what should I wear?
Before exploring your closet, consider what type of wedding it is to be. Is it highly formal, moderately formal or informal? Once this is determined, the following guide will tell you the proper dress.
Highly formal;
Women—before noon, street length dresses or suits; hats and gloves; after noon, dresses may be a little longer and more dressed-up in character; guests other than relatives may wear black; hats are a requirement.
Men—at big formal weddings in conservative communities men wear grey stroller coats or cutaways with striped trousers; in more casual areas, dark conservative business suits are correct.
Women—evening, dressy late-day clothes, mid-calf, ankle or floor length; headcovering if church requires it.
Men-in formal communities guests are expected to wear tailcoats as do the men in the wedding party. Where formality is less the rule, men usually wear dinner jackets; and in simpler communities, the dark suit is worn for "dress" occasions.
Moderately formal:
Woman-daytime, street length dresses, suits or ensembles; hat and gloves.
Men—business suits or the stroller coat.
Women-evening, dress-up cocktail-type gown, or floor length dinner dresses.
Men—dinner jackets, or dark business suits.
Informal:
Women—daytime, simple smart dresses; hat and gloves.
Men—business suits, white shirts; conservative ties.
Men—same as daytime.
There's your cue. Now you can go to the closet and pull out the right garment without the least hesitation.
Remember, the bride will outshine everyone, but people will still notice what the other guests are wearing.
—(Photo by Estes Studio)
MORAL SUPPORTERS—Louisa Hall of Lawrence and Paul William Bartsch of Topeke pose
with their wedding party before the altar in St. John the Evangelist Catholic Church.
Romans Had Ten Attendants, Today We Need Only Two
By DARLINE MONTGOMERY
[Of, The Daily Kansan Staff]
In ancient Rome every bride was required to have 10 witnesses at her marriage ceremony.
Today's bride and groom are required to have only two attendants. But, whether there are ten or only two at the marriage ceremony, these attendants and especially the maid of honor and the best man have many duties.
Attendants Provide Costumes
The bride chooses her best friends as her attendants. If she has a sister of suitable age she asks her to be maid of honor. The groom chooses his brother and or his best friends to attend him. Bridesmaids have no official duties but they often can give assistance to the bride by arranging gifts, packing trunks, and relieving the bride of tasks which have to be done.
(Photo by Josef Scott)
Each girl who is asked to be a bridesmaid must provide her own
costume which is selected by the bride. Bridesmaids pay for everything they wear except their flowers which are paid for by the bride.
The best man and the ushers also provide their own costumes. They should wear suits which are approximately the same color and texture.
During the ceremony the maid of honor holds the bride's bouquet while the groom places the wedding ring on her finger. If it is a double ring ceremony, the maid of honor bends down and adjusts the bride's train after she turns from the altar and before she starts up the aisle with her husband.
Bridesmaids and ushers pay their own transportation expenses to the wedding. If they are from another town the women are guests of the bride and the men guests of the groom during the wedding.
IT'S OVER!—Mr. and Mrs. James Joseph Dodd hurriedly leave the church after the marriage ceremony. Dodd and the former Maryellen Glanville of Kansas City, Kan., were married January 28 in St. Peter's Cathedral in Kansas City.
Best Man a Manager
If the couple is going to stay in a nearby hotel the best man picks up the luggage of both the bride and groom and takes it to their destination. He registers for them and gets the key which he gives to the groom.
Before the ceremony the best man must be a valet, nurse, general manager, and adviser. He arranges all the transportation, hotel reservations, and luggage.
If the couple is traveling on a train or bus, the best man checks
If announcement parties for engagements are the custom in your community, you may wish to have one in addition to the announcement in the paper.
Announcement Party Is Nice Custom
You may have a tea, a dinner, or a large cocktail party. At this type of affair it is not necessary to make a public announcement, but the prospective bride and groom may stand in an informal receiving line.
luggage before the ceremony. He takes it to the station and sees that it is put on the right train or bus if an automobile trip is planned he places all luggage in the car and takes care of the car until he delivers it to the couple.
The best man is also responsible for the wedding ring, the marriage license, and the minister's fee. The fee is usually placed in an envelope and given to the minister immediately after the ceremony.
The best man and ushers do not stand in the receiving line. At the bride's table the maid of honor sits at the groom's left and the best man sits at the right of the bride.
There is, of course, the traditional toast at an announcement party at which the father of the bride rises, tells of the news, and drinks a toast. The fiance then drinks to the bride and her parents.
Another method is for the bride's father to introduce the flance around the bride.
"Timekeeper" At Reception
There are no rules governing the method that you use and there are many other methods. By using one's imagination one can come up with many ideas. Use ideas which are sweet or amusing but not a series of cupid decorations which cause embarrassment among guests.
The best man is both toastmaster and timekeeper at the reception. He may toast the health and happiness of the bride and groom.
Where To Go On Honeymoon Is A Problem
Traditionally, planning the wedding trip has been the bridegroom's private life and duty. Where to go, how to get there, how long to stay, what activities and entertainment to plan and how to keep within budget are all part of planning the "high time," as Europeans call it.
right chair.
Sometimes the groom plans the wedding trip as a surprise for the bride—and as a secret from would-be pranksters.
Depending on the time of year of the wedding, trips to California, Florida, Texas, New York, Hawaii, Cuba, the Bahamas, Mexico, Canada, South America and Europe have romantic attractions for the newly-weds. But spots nearer home are not to be discredited. A cabin in the woods with a lake or stair nearby and few people around a charm all its own.
The national parks and forests have been popular as honeymoon spots to the couple with rustic taste. Not far from Lawrence is a lake with a 1,300 mile shore line. The Lake of the Ozarks has much to offer in the way of good accommodations, isolated hideaways, water sports, horse-back riding and sea-plane riding.
"How to get there" is not hard to answer, but should be carefully considered. "Should we fly, go by rail, drive or will we have to go by sea?" are all possibilities. Of course some are ruled out by the destination of the trip, but preparations should be well-planned.
Money—how long may we stay? Finances and length of time the couple can practically stay away from jobs and other obligations deserve careful thought and planning. If a honeymoon trip is carefully planned as to time and budget it will be more likely worryfree and therefore more completely enjoyable.
What activities and entertain-
ment to plan on the honeymoon
should be considered when
route of the trip is planned. "Do
we want people around or not?"
Usually the answer is "take 'em or
leave 'em"—so that crowds and
seclusion are both accessible.
With all that a bridegroom already has on his mind, he must remember title things like transportation tickets, reservations, keys to luggage and a copy of the marriage certificate, plus 101 other things which will help make the honeymoon a "high time" to be remembered for life.
—(photo by estes studio)
STEADY NOW—Mrs. Allen Long Kauffman wants her husband to have the first piece of wedding cake at their reception in the Pine Room of the Student Union. The former Elizabeth Moran of Danbury, Conn., and Kauffman were married January 25 in St. John the Evangelist Catholic Church in Lawrence.