Story by Meghan Bainum Photo illustrations by Aaron Lindberg
November 30, 2000. For comments, contact BriAnne Hassar at 864-4810 or email rayplay@kansan.com www.kansan.com/artc
An under-the-covers look at turn-ons and fetishes
DIFFERENTSTROKES FOR differentFOLKS
and whatever that physical pleasure is,
Dailey said students should open to expre-
tion.
e's name, she explains.
Katz, leaue, sophomore, nods and loads
the machines with two batteries. After a test
buzz, the woman leaves with a smile on her
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"In dominant ways, I am attracted to females. I zoom in there first," Dailey said. "But if you ask me to take note of males who possess some of the same attributes like eyes or color of hair, I could spot them."
Dailey said the attraction template worked fast even in large classes. He said he could walk into his class of 500 people and within 10 seconds spot the few who hit his attraction
templates censure.
And just because he is a heterosexual man doesn't him his attraction template directs him only toward women.
The attraction template can include anything from the color of a person's hair to the shape of his or her hands. In fact, many people are able to find patterns in what attracts them to others and they can immediately tune into the people who make them look
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Some customers at Priscilla's don't have those hang-ups. A motherly middle-aged woman who looks like she would be more at home in a supermarket than a sex store holds up two erotic videos and two large vibrators. She asks Julia Katz, the sales clerk, to install batteries in the vibrators to make certain they work. She wants to use them right when she cuts home空调
This, Dailey said, is an example of the human attraction template at work. He said the attraction template was made up of the physical things that attracted one person to another, and that the template was completely different for everybody.
White cotton panties peeking coyly out from the waistband of a woman's jeans turn on Noel Smith. Bleached-blonde hair, a lean, muscled body and the scent of Eternity cologne make Quentin does hot.
Although turn-ons can be exciting and even fun, they also serve two very serious purposes. Physical and sexual turn-ons help attract people to relationships and help them maintain them because the physical part of the relationship — sex — is supposed to be
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A Priscaillé bio bag full of sexual toys such as handicrafts and body paints provides erotic incentives for Julia Katz and her boyfriend.
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"People walk into traffic, they stumble all over, they up paint, they stare, they walk into glass doors
Hot. Horny. Turned on if happens to everybody. University of Kansas students included. And it can be anything from leather to spanking, kisses to a full body cares. These little triggers jump start the part of the brain that says, "Yowza!"
The
Dailey said turn-ons got people together and showed them that the sexual part of the relationship should contain fun, pleasure
"I think it's because what they know spooks them because we live in a sexually untight world," he said.
direction — how all of this crazy stuff begins
For students, the sparks hurt hotter in the springtime. Dailey said. This is because the months of heavy coats and layers of clothing disappear to reveal bare legs and skinny, disfigured ons and woven.
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But before the strokes can begin, attraction must be in Dailee earl
data analysis is missing.
Although lack of attraction might seem like a small thing the couple can work through, "in the long haul it's deadly as hell to a primary relationship," Dailey said.
Dailey said some people even denied they had turn-ons and that they are unaffected by anything sexual. In reality, most people know exactly what it is that turns them on but are too embarrassed to act on their urges, no doubt.
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The reason for it all
*strong user turn-ons and should try to ork through the societal message that "sex's bad, sex is dirty, sex is wrong." Dailey decries societal labels of sexual turn-ons as either "normal" or "strange/weird." "The acceptable notions about sexual intercourse are missionary position, man on top, that's the way it's supposed to be," he said. "So any other variations on positions are thought to be just a little bit strange — even though they're a lot of fun."
In when people in a relationship discover that they are not sexually attracted to their partner, the relationship suffers. They regularly counsel couples who are in relationships where the partners are best friends and they love each other very much, but the sexual attraction is missing.
"When two people find out that they have a lot of common attractions going on, it's part of the fabric that holds them together; he...
Dennis Dailey, professor of social welfare and teacher of the popular Human Sexuality and Everyday Life course and campus "sexpert," said that everybody got off on different things and that one person's turn-on could be another person's turn-off. He considers sexual variability the real命世 life of.
Although immediate attraction isn't the magic ingredient that makes a relationship perfect — or even probable — the sexual park is also of lasting importance in serious relationships. Dialy said.
Show Ellis a smaller guy dressed in preppy clothes, not piercing or tattoos, and she won't look twice. even though he might be the hottest thing in the world to somebody
If I see a really nice-looking girl in a bar, I totally would have no problem hooking up with her, like a random sort of hooking. "Odes said, 'But it couldn't really be more than friends with benefits.'"
If 's even better if the guy has tattoos on his forearms or chest or if he has body piercings nipple piercings in particular. "They are the hottest things I've ever seen," she said. "I like them in my mouth. Nipple rims kill me; they iust do."
"n-ons worked the same no person's sexual orientation is "There's such a thing as homosexual eroticism or homosexual turn-ups," Dailey said. "There's something called turn-ups." Quentin Odes, a Chicago sophomore who gay, instantly can pick out the slender, blue-eyed, blond-haired men he finds so attractive. He says women with those characteris-
"I sit there and freak out," she said. "I'm like, whoa — me and you, baby. I like the way you rock, and I like the way you
Amy Ellis, Kansas City sophomore, knows exactly what kind of guy turns her on, down to the smallest detail. It is her "punk rock boy," boxer. She likes short, black, spiky hair, short shorts and people with bigger body types and broad shoulders. Ellis said when she sees a man who fits this description, she has a hard time staying in control.
roll."
Variety is the spice of life
highly pleasurable for both partners.
However, because of individual or societal taboos, feelings of shame or guilt get in the way of effective turn-ons.
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