12 THE UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN
THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 26, 2002
Please yourself alone or with a partner
Getting a partner in on your sexual action is always a fun way to spend some quality time with your genitalia.
But, sometimes, even if a partner is readily available for you to play around with, there's nothing like taking matters into your own hands, yanking your crank, rubbing your love button — in other words, masturbating.
Yes, the big M is not just for frustrated teen-age boys anymore. In fact, getting down and deliciously dirty with your own bad self can help increase your pleasure in ways other than having an instantly gratifying, completely selfish orgasm, which everyone should experience at least every once in a while.
Masturbation is an important way to figure out what gets you off. Without knowing how to get yourself off, you won't be able to help a partner ring your bell. Getting directly involved with your penis or vagina also will help you get comfortable with the unique unit you're packing.
Meghan Bainum mbainum@kansan.com
In a way, your penis or vagina should be your best friend. It's there for life (unless removed), won't ever cheat on you and is almost the only cool toy left that doesn't require batteries. Basically, you can play with yourself anywhere, anytime (at your own risk, of course), and for an orgasm you need only yourself and a sense of erotic adventure.
But what happens when your erotic adventure is stifled by an unwelcome companion, such as a roommate? Masturbating in a group-living situation does pose some problems, but where there is a
will, there is a way. There's always the option to wait until your roommate is asleep or to hit the showers. If it's a real emergency, and you own an automobile, be aware that plenty of nearby country roads are perfect for a little "drive." Just be careful because a wreck might leave you explaining all to the authorities — maybe even your parents.
If you're already in a relationship and want to get freaky with yourself, you can choose to take your needs to the shower, wait until your significant other has left or gone to sleep or start with him present. In fact, watching someone masturbate is a huge turn-on for women and men. It's awesome to see someone really giving it to himself, and it can add a huge level of intimacy to the relationship. If your partner feels left out, simply invite him to join in.
Masturbating is also handy when your boyfriend or girlfriend is too tired or not in the mood to get it on. You win whether he
In a way, your penis or vagina should be your best friend. They're there for life (unless removed), won't ever cheat on you and they're almost the only cool toys left that don't require batteries.
perks up and decides to join in or leaves you to your own devices.
Getting it on with yourself is not a sin or something to be ashamed of. Almost everyone gets privately freaky even though it's hard to get people to admit to the deed. Masturbating is safe, sexy, fun and healthy, so quit denying it! Being the master of your domain is worth being proud of.
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