6D SEX ON THE HILL
THE UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN
THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 18, 2008
Alternative form of sex provides favor for partner
BY BARBARA PLATTS
bplatts@kansan.com
Next batter is up to bat. The pitcher throws the ball. The batter swings the bat and hits it clear to outfield. He heads to first base, then second and hits third. When looking at the situation in a broader scale, oral sex is like baseball in numerous ways.
The third base wonders are exciting in either circumstance, though slightly more passionate when it comes to oral sex.
Whether giving or receiving, it is important to keep this type of foreplay as enjoyable as possible. But unfortunately at this third base, there is no umpire to tell you if you're safe or about to strike out.
Oral sex for a woman is a great way to give pleasure - if she is in the right mood and comfortable enough with it.
In lan Kerner's novel, "She Comes First," he writes about how important oral sex is to help the female orgasm.
"The clitoris is a great place to get oral because with more than eight thousand nerve fibers you're bound to do something right," he writes.
Kerner also wrote that numerous studies showed that a woman could get more pleasure out of oral sex because regular sex wasn't always enough to satisfy.
The clitoris is a much more temperamental organ than the penis and so the tongue is a good tool to use down there because of its soft texture and generally pain-
free effects.
"I love it, but it is very possible for a guy to be bad at it," she said.
The tongue is the strongest muscle in our bodies, so take advantage of its uses — women will generally respond well.
Photo illustration by Jon Goering/KANSAN
Kristen Shehan, Wichita sophomore, is a fan of oral pleasures when they are done correctly.
Shehan said there was still hope for boys that might not be particularly skilled in that area.
"It is important to communicate. It's different for every girl so talking about it is good," she said.
Fellatio is a common name for the act of giving of a blow job. The word comes from the Latin word fellare, which means to suck. Men are generally big fans of receiving fellatio because of all the external nerves on their penis and genital area.
Another reason is because a mouth feels very similar to a vagina. It's warm and wet so it is very pleasurable for him. There are many ways to go about giving one, but certain strategies make it much more enjoyable.
One tactic is to mix up speed and pressure. It's always important to keep him guessing. Variety is key and although it may be tempting, try to keep teeth use at a minimum.
Certain accessories can make a blow job even better.
"Pop Rocks are definitely fun,
I like Altoids too," said Tyler
Jarman, Coffeeville, Kau, junior.
The giver is also more entertained if fun textures and tastes are used.
"When they actually suck as opposed to going up and down," said a Kansas City, Mo., sophomore. "Using the tongue is also important."
A problem with oral sex that
often comes up when two are geting intimate is that it's often considered to be gross or not worth the time and effort.
A Kansas City, Mo., freshman said she didn't mind giving a blow job but she preferred the real thing.
"Regular sex is a lot better because both people are being pleased," the freshman said.
People's opinions about giving oral may not always be the best.
but it does mix things up in a relationship and, if done correctly, both genders can achieve much pleasure.
"Giving your partner oral sex is important for a relationship because it's a good favor," Shehan said. "It's like picking up dry cleaning for someone. They are grateful and enjoy it."
Co., freshman said.
"It feels good to give someone you care about that much pleasure," Damien Turujillo, Pueblo,
Lisa Thomas, a certified sex therapist from Denver, agreed.
"Foreplay is really good to have in relationships because it gives couples a chance to feel desired. It's the only part of a sexual experience where we take turns," she said.
So take your turn, sit back, relax, and enjoy third base before reaching home plate.
Communication prevents STIs as well as contraceptives
BY MICHAEL HOLTZ mholtz@kansan.com
The percentage of sexually active college students who have contracted a sexually transmitted infection may be surprising. Fifty percent will have contracted an STI by the age of 25, according to Ken Sauber, health educator at Watkins Health Center.
As students become sexually active, they face potential life-changing consequences such as an STI or an unwanted pregnancy.
"Students are really interested and want to know what they can do to be safer and take the precautions,"
Sauber said. "Students who choose to engage in sex want to be safe"
Sauber helps present weekly safe sex talks on campus as an adviser to Peer Health Educators, a student organization that advocates and promotes safe sex. The talks are used to provide students with safe sex kits, information on STIs and demonstrations of how to use a condom.
"A large percentage of students don't know how to use condoms," Sauber said. "Condoms have a 15 percent failure rate because they are used incorrectly."
Whitney Franken, Troy sophomore and president of Peer Health Educators, said condoms were the No.1 way for sexually active students to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STIs.
"Birth control pills are very effective if used in the correct manner, but do not contribute toward protecting one against STIs," Franken said.
Jill See, Shawnee junior, said she found condoms to be uncomfortable. She has been on the pill for four years as her only form of contraceptive, and she said any measure of birth control was a good thing.
She said it was surprising that some students were too embarrassed to get checked for STIs.
"What's more embarrassing?" See said. "Getting checked or actually having one?"
Despite the countless contraceptive methods available, Sauber says only one is 100 percent effective abstinence.
"Students feel they can use a condom and be safe," Sauber said. "But that's not always the case."
Sauber also encourages sexually active students to have a healthy and active relationship with a doctor.
"Get your partner tested and get yourself tested." Sauer said. "Better safe than sorry down the road."
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