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sex on the hill
monday, september 15, 2003
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By Crystal Futrell correspondent@kansan.com Kansan correspondent
AARON SCHLAGEL
Two and a half years ago, Aaron Schungel did something that most people his age might find peculiar. He and his two younger sisters promised their parents that they would not have sex before marriage.
For Schlagel, Olathe senior, this was a promise unmotivated by religious beliefs.
by refuge. Instead, Schlager's choice is a personal commitment to himself and to the special gift that only he
can give—his virginity.
"When I get married, I want to be able to look my future wife in the eye and say that you are the one I was meant for," Schlagel said. "You're the one that I have saved myself for."
It hasn't been the easiest commitment Schlagel's made. As a result of his abstinence, Schlagel has had to sacrifice some relationships.
“It's hard to meet someone who has the same respect for sex as you do,” he said.
But Schlagel isn't discouraged
or shy about his commitment to abstinence. In fact, he enjoys spreading the good news about the benefits of keeping the zipperzipped.
"I'm not a preacher," he said. "Anyone can get up and say anything, but it's more important to follow your beliefs."
follow you the Last year, Schlagel worked for Training Leaders for the Community, a mentor program staffed mostly by college students who visited junior-high and high school age kids to talk to them about the advantages of choosing abstinence.
"The thought of not having sex never crossed their minds," Crawford said.
Jon Crawford, Tulsa, Okla., senior, worked with Schlagel at TLC. The most common reaction the mentors received from the students was surprise.
The mentors also talked about the consequences of having sex too soon and discussed topics like STDs, pregnancy and emotional trauma.
"It's a personal decision to yourself," he said. "You have to take a step back and ask yourself why are you doing this."
But Schlagel knows that abstinence isn't for everyone.
Edited by Erin Riffey
CURTIS DIXON
By Kristen Maxwell
correspondent@kansan.com
Kansan correspondent
Even in a big group of people. Curtis Dixon knows his personality shines through.
The Kansas City, Kan., senior who is pictured on the right, performed in the annual Brown Bag Drag Show put on by Queers and Allies during Gay Pride Week in April. The week is celebrated around the country.
"Some people don't understand why we need a Gay Pride Week," he said. "Some may think we are flashing our sexuality in their faces, but we are just trying to celebrate who we are."
Dixon has been an open homosexual since his freshman year. He said his participation in the drag show was an important part of celebrating pride. It's also important because it has been a part of the gay community forever, he said.
Patrick Ross, director of Queers and Allies, played a factor in getting Dixon involved in the
drag show.
"I think it was exhilarating for Curtis," he said. "He had a great time, and everyone enjoyed his numbers, including me."
Dixon gets into character for his drag show numbers with his personality and confidence. These two areas are examples of how to be sexy, Dixon said.
Dixon's drag show performance and involvement in Queers and Allies' other activities during Gay Pride Week mean more to him than having a good time.
"It's getting everyone in the community together to celebrate and become aware that we still don't have the rights we deserve," he said. "It's about tolerance and acceptance of others."
"Sexy is a state of mind," he said. "Anyone can be sexy if they think they are."
Dixon isn't afraid of being himself, said Christina Dick, Lawrence graduate student and friend of Dixon's, and is likeable to everyone.
Dixon credits his confidence and openness about his sexual orientation to his family.
be open to anything," Dixon said. "This is just who I am."
"Mv mom always taught me to — Edited by Nikki Overfelt
RESPECT IS SEXY!
Some ways to build respect in your relationships:
-Communicate needs and desires with each other
- Pay attention to non-verbal cues
- Obtain consent
- Avoid excessive use of alcohol
- Attend a sexual assault prevention program
- Establish boundaries and stick to them
Brought to you by:
The Emily Taylor Women's Resource Center
Room 400, Kansas Union
For more information or to schedule a workshop,
contact Corrina Beck at 864-3552.
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