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kansas in heat (print edition) // GETTING FIT FOR SEX
Relationship researcher Mike Anderson tackles the sticky world
relationship advice, one weekly Jayplay column at a time
Mike Anderson, Dellwood, Mnn., graduate student, is the host of *Night at Nostalghia*, a talk show about sex and relationships that airs 10/6am
*THE OPINIONS OF THIS COLUMNIST DO NOT NECESSAR-
ILY REFLECT THE VIEWS OF JAYPLAY. KANSA IN HEAT IS
NOT TO BE CONSIDERED AS A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFES-
SIONAL HELP
If you are looking to increase your libido and the amount of pleasure you get from sex,you should think about adopting a lifestyle that is fit for it. Being great at sex often requires a lot of work outside of the bedroom, but the extra effort will benefit you as well as your partner. Here some tips to improve your fitness for sex.
1) You'll need to exercise and keep a fit body. A healthy body means better sex. Exercise will increase bloodflow, reduce stress, make you feel sexier, increase your stamina and even enhance your orgasm. Also, I recommend that both genders exercise their PC muscles. The PC muscle contracts during an orgasm and a stronger muscle makes for a more pleasurable experience. By doing a few simple PC exercises, known as Kegels, one can greatly increase the amount of pleasure he or she derives from an orgasm.
2) Be sure to get at least seven hours of sleep per night. Fatigue will certainly have a negative effect on your libido, as well as add to your anxiety.
3) Stop smoking. Smoking can ravage your body in countless ways that will affect bloodflow in men and perceived physical pleasure in both sexes.
4) Avoid excessive amounts of alcohol. A little is good but a lot can hurt sexual responsiveness, not to mention affect your decision-making abilities.
5) The major thing you can do to reach your sexual peak is to watch what you eat. Junk food is a libido killer. High cholesterol levels are associated with erection problems. Here is a list of some foods, herbs and minerals that will get your libido going.
Chocolate: It contains two compounds that have sex-enhancing effects. Plus it can be used in a very sexual way.
Caffeine: Believe it or not, people who consume caffeine are more likely to be sexually active. Men who drink coffee also have lower levels of erectile dysfunction.
Licorice: The smell is supposed to help men increase penile bloodflow.
Fish: The omega-3 fatty acids found in fish help men raise and keep erections and help women with their ability to produce vaginal lubrication and become aroused.
Oysters: Yes, the myth is true. Foods rich in zinc such as oysters can help combat issues that
deal with infertility and libido loss in both men and women.
I've also read that the herbs ginko and ginseng can help restore lost sexual desire, but the research on this is sometimes shaky.
The last couple of lifestyle changes that might help you reach your sexual peak are making sex a priority and being a little more adventurous. If you want to maintain an active and strong sex life you must make sex a priority. And don't let the sex get stale. Dare to be sexier. Add some adventure and spontaneity in your sex life. If I asked you to name your most daring sexual experience, would it be g-rated or x-rated? A sexual relationship plagued with predictability will wreak havoc on a libido.
// MIKE ANDERSON
catch of the week // KAYLA BENNET our weekly peek at a fish in the KU sea.
Photo by Hailey Osterhaus
or: Communication studies
Senior
Tested in: Men
What would be your ideal date?
I prefer to stay away from the dinner-and-a-movie routine. The best dates are the ones that you don't fully realize that you're on until you're getting kissed at the end of the night.
What are you main hobbies?
I like concerts, pumpkin-patch adventures and dressing like a pin-up girl.
Favorite Foods?
Pad Thai, avocados and lemon-berry slushes.
Favorite Quote?
"The one thing I do know is that we did it
What is a major turn off?
harder, we did it faster, and we definitely did it with more love, baby. You can't take that away from us." — SLC Punk
Negativity is super lame. I once went out with a guy, and as I asked him questions about himself, it became clear that he wasn't happy about anything. I had to secretly text my friend to have her make the "save me" phone call an hour early.
I like guys who are passionate about creativity: art, music, writing, whatever — it's hot.
Major turn on?
What's the first thing you notice about someone?
I know this is cliche, but I always notice a genuine smile, even from all the way across the room.
Dream job?
My dream job is definitely to be a tour manager, because it combines three of my favorite things: music, traveling and telling people what to do.
Where do you like to go to get away?
Where do you like to go to get away?
My favorite place to go get away from everything is Cape Cod. I was born and raised here in Lawrence, but Massachusetts has always felt more like home. Everything is better oceanside (and all of the restaurants serve ginger ale).
// HAILEY OSTERHAUS