Monday, October 12. 1998
The University Daily Kansan
Section A·Page 3
Program discusses dating woes
Anthony Hersey, Kansas City, Mo., senior; Quincy Garner, Olatee junior; Floyd Cline II, St. Charles, Mo., senior; Michael Bell, Detroit senior and Terrell McTyer, Kansas City, Mo., senior, members of the Uplion chapter of Alpha Phi Alpha, perform at the Black Greek Leadership Conference step show. The show in the Kansas Union Ballroom ended the two-day conference. Photo by Jeff Sewerin/KANSAN.
By Kelli Raybern
Kansan staff writer
Men and women vented frustrations and offered solutions to the perennial quandaries of dating Saturday in the Kansas Union.
At a presentation called "How Stella and Fella Got Their Groove Back," part of the Black Greek Leadership Conference, about 30 KU students and visitors from the Midwest tried to increase the common ground between men and women in relationships.
The presentation also focused on communication and miscommunication in relationships.
Lewis emphasized that women often struggle with interpreting male behavior. When a man is quiet or shrugs his shoulders, a woman may assume he's not listening, she said.
"These problems have been around for ages." said Adrian Franks, Manchester, Mo., senior. "Adam and Eve probably sat back there saying 'You never listen to me.' There's always a need for discussion like that. You don't have to come up with solutions, but we can get a better understanding."
"Communicate to understand and to be understood," she said. "Seek to find out what is going on before making assumptions. If we're not getting what we want, we can't just be passive about it."
Page said men and women often went wrong in discussions by over-scripting.
The search for understanding was led by Tammi Lewis, assistant director of minority affairs, and Robert N. Page Jr., assistant director of admissions.
Participants said the presentation was useful.
"Relationships are a big part of my life, and I've got to get it right," said Patricia Iga, Lawrence junior. "It was interesting to hear the males' perspective because females a lot of times generalize from our own experiences. To hear from others opens your mind."
The leadership conference was the first held at the University.
and the 11th since the program started at Central Missouri State University in 1987.
"We had excellent, dynamic speakers," said Lewis. "I think we all received a wealth of knowledge and wonderful messages to take back to our respective chapters."
The conference offered solutions to the obstacles faced by historically Black Greek organizations including hazing, academic success and re-establishing the organizations' founding principles.
"It is important so that we can learn ways to alleviate barriers and promote the success of our Black greek letter organizations." Lewis said.
About 85 people participated in the conference, which was open to non-greeks, Lewis said. The cost was $30 for KU students and $50 for others.
Robert N. Page Jr., assistant director of admissions, discusses the differences between men and women as he speaks with Tammi Lewis, assistant director of minority affairs. Page and Lewis gave their presentation, called "How Stella & Fella Got Their Groove Back," Saturday morning at the Jayhawk room in the Kansas Union as part of the Black Greek Leadership Conference. Photo by Jeff Severin/ KANSAN.
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