Vibrators. dildos and creams... oh my!
By Jayme Wiley, Jayplaywriter
The new definition of sex education
The toys and creams are strategically placed according to edibility on the table in the living room. About 30 people gather near the table, anxious to hear what the hostess is going to say next. Every 20 seconds there is a spurt of laughter, mostly from the males, as a joke is made about the human body and its sexual desires. This is the typical scene at a "Passion Party," or as they're sometimes called, "Sex Toy Parties."
Passion Parties give a spin on the typical sex education class. The obvious difference is that instead of teaching adolescents about puberty, they teach adults how to enhance their sex lives.
They're like a Tupperware Party but with love toys. The important thing for non-party-goers to remember is that they are not raunchy, but tasteful in-home presentations.
"Sex is not evil. It's a normal human experience, and I think the more people are informed of their anatomy makes people's relationships better all around," says Bridget Remer, a 35-year-old passion consultant.
Remer has been hosting Passion Parties since February of 2004 after attending a party where she realized how easy this would be for her. She is a junior high sex education teacher in Topeka, and she took up party hosting after viewing the poor job the hostesses did at the party where she was a guest. She says they weren't covering topics such a
wanted to change that and provide women with this important information.
weren I covering topics such as maintaining relationships or the different moods people are in. Remer says that she
Passion Parties have been around for 10 years and the trend is spreading. They were originally started to help married women open up the lines of communication
Interested in a toy?
Here are some fun facts about the toys that get the most action at Remer's Passion Parties.
between themselves and their spouses. Remer says most of her income from these parties comes from married, monogamous women who are 25-years-
- Most sold item among college students among the edibles is "Tasty Tease" which inhibits gag reflexes. This is a great thing for men and women. The selling price is $3.50.
- Best selling vibrator for young women is the "Jackrabbit". It runs around $50 and its batteries will last for at least two months if used twice a week.
- For women who are 30 or over, a favorite is the "C-Rings" which will keep your man loving longer for only a few bucks. These run anywhere from $10-$ 20.
old or older; but she also says that today these parties are a hot topic with college students as well.
Meghann Hesse, Wichita senior, recently hosted a party at her house in Lawrence. Thirty people attended, with a mixture of males and females. Hesse says she thought it would be fun to do, and her and she friends are always looking for ways to have fun even if that means doing it on their own. Among the toys offered were vibrators and dildos. Women can experiment with these toys to find out what they really like before engaging in sexual acts with their partner. Hesse's first experience with a party of this sort was at her house. One of her friends who is well acquainted with
Passion Parties talked her into having it. She says it was a great experience and will
who is well acquainted with
probably do it again.
"If I can get women to please themselves, especially on campuses, STD's would go down and the use of condoms would go up from them being properly educated," Remer says.
Many college women who attend Passion Parties are just out to have a good time and to buy products that they might be embarrassed to go to somewhere like Priscilla's and buy.
Pliscia's and boyfriend Jessica Sands, Ozawkie junior, attended Hesse's party. This is her second sex toy party, but this time she brought her boyfriend along to participate in the fun. Sands was a good sport and agreed to try out the products that are meant to instantly bring women to tingles. Her boyfriend tried out a few of the products with her; she applied creams to her arms and he licked them off. Later, she chose to apply the "Pure Satisfaction Enhancement Gel" to her clitoris and report back to all the females what she was feeling. The gel is supposed to give the female a warming sensation as well as plump her clitoris like it would do naturally if she were getting ready to engage in a sexual act. She says that the gel did just that. Sands says it also gave her the warming sensation and it felt great. She says she would recommend it to others who enjoy clitoral stimulation of any kind.
Some say sex toy parties are a generational thing,but this isn't necessarily the case. All women can enjoy the atmosphere and products that are offered regardless of their age.
Jeff Lane, a sex therapist in Wichita, says that he first heard of Passion Parties from his 19-year-old secretary.
"Frankly, I think it's a wonderful idea...there was none of this when I was a kid," Lane says. "Girls at that time didn't even admit they masturbated — that was supposed to be a guy thing." Those who attend one of these events will become less shy and more educated about their bodies, while becoming more comfortable with their sexuality. Lane says.
Passion Parties may be a fairly new trend, but will probably stick around for decades to come. Women are no longer afraid of their sexuality. They are owning it and embracing it as opposed to shying away from it in fear of the unknown.
Remer says that she hopes to see every women attend one of these parties someday and open their hearts and minds to new experiences.
Want more info?
To learn more about passion parties, visit their Web site at http://passionparties.com. Their Web site will give you additional information on what these parties are and how to set up your very own passion party in your area.
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— Jayme Wiley
Jayplay 10.28.04