SEX ON THE HILL
6B THE UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN
TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 14, 2004
Sexual pleasure can come from unusual sources
BY KATIE MOYER
correspondent@kansan.com
KANSAN CORRESPONDENT
The question isn't always who is the object of your affection, but sometimes, what it is.
Sometimes a blow-up doll, a "used" leopard print G-string or other inanimate objects, is how people could get off.
Blow-up doll lovers may have fetishism, one of eight abnormal sexual disorders, or paraphyllas, identified in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Someone with a paraphilia frequently achieves arousal that is associated with one of three major symptoms: nonhuman objects, suffering or humiliation or non-consenting individuals.
individuals. David Holmes, professor of abnormal psychology, said that reports of paraphilias are relatively rare, but it is believed that they are actually quite common. This is assumed partly because there are hundreds of catalogs and Web sites containing paraphiliac paraphernalia. EBay is one Web site that has had problems and has had to enforce new regulations against auctioning used undergarmets.
The most common nonhuman objects used to obtain arousal in fetishism are articles of women's clothing such as bras, panties, shoes and socks. Fetishists will often fondle, kiss or smell the objects for sexual stimulation. The individual's sexual partner is involved in some cases and will wear the fetish object of choice during sexual encounters. This way, the fetishist is enabled to participate in otherwise normal sexual behavior while still being provided
with an arousing stimulus
an abusing This disorder is not diagnosed when an individual gains sexual pleasure from objects that are designed to stimulate sexual arousal, like vibrators.
Another type of paraphilia is exhibitionism, which involves having fantasies about or actually exposing the genitals to a stranger in order to achieve sexual arousal. Commonly known as "the flasher," the classic example of an exhibitionist is a man who suddenly exposes his goods to an unsuspecting woman.
Frotteurism is a lesser known paraphilia in which sexual arousal is obtained by rubbing against or touching a non-consenting individual. The thrill of the rub usually takes place in crowded public areas or on public transportation where bumping into someone is no big deal, such as the campus buses. While the person being bumped is thinking some jerk should watch where they're going, they're having a circus in their pants. In more blatant cases, a man might rub his package against a woman's thighs or butt. Sometimes a frotteurist will even fondle a woman and then take off when she realizes what's going on.
A paraphilia limited to male heterosexuals is transvestic fetishism. These males gain sexual pleasure from dressing in women's clothing, often referred to as cross-dressing. A transvestic fetishist will masturbate while dressed in women's clothes and may fantasize about other men being attracted to him.
Those who have binoculars in order to get a good look at the hottie undressing in the apartment across the street may have a paraphilia
called voyeurism. A voyeur gains sexual pleasure from observing an unsuspecting individual who is naked, undressing or engaging in sexual activity. Those with voyeurism are supported by an industry that supplies them with pornographic magazines and movies. Viewing for sexual pleasure is often an important component of normal sexual behavior and it is considered a disorder only if it results in distress for the viewer.
Sexual masochists derive pleasure from being abused or from suffering. This can be verbal and involve humiliation, but it is usually physical and involves beaten, bound or tortured. On the other hand, sexual sadists are individuals who are pleased by abusing their partners during sexual activity.
sexual activity.
It seems there is a paraphilia for just about anything strange or disgusting. For example, formicophila is an obsession with small creatures and beastality is when someone has sex with animals. Some other odd disorders: urophilia, a fetish with urine; coprophilia, feces; and vomerophilia, vomit. A necrophilic enjoys having sex with corpses, a gerontophilic with elderly people and an acrotomophilic with amputated people.
There is no effective treatment for paraphilias. But because many paraphiliacs are secretive in their unusual fantasies or behavior, treatment isn't something that is highly sought after. And as long as their actions aren't hurting anyone, Holmes said that paraphiiliacs should be able to practice their desired sexual behaviors as they wish, however abnormal they may be.
Edited by Neil Mulko
By JESSI CROWDER AND CHRIS TACKETT (We can get dirty, we just have to clean up afterward.)
0. My boyfriend and I are very affectionate with each other, but when I'm around other attractive guys, I downplay the PDA. Why is this? —Layla, sophomore
Chris: You want other guys to still find you attractive and available, and making out with another guy dampens both qualities.
Jessi: More than likely, you're afraid of shoving your un-singleness down their throats, which is respectable. On the other hand, you might have hidden motives like not wanting them to think you're completely committed to your honey. Do what makes you comfortable within reason. Hand holding is precious. Pecking is fine. Screwing on Wescoe beach is not hot.
0. I'm 6 ft., 145 lbs, and my longtime girlfriend constantly calls me "skinny". It's starting to wear on my self-esteem. I try working out, but can't build muscle. What can I do? — Jonathan, junior
Jessi: Everyone can attest to the fact that calling a guy skinny is the equivalent to calling a girl fat. Her comments are unacceptable, and you need to let her know they're wearing on you. If she fails to change her ways, assess your priorities and figure what's more important to you.
your self-respect, or your weekly lay
Chris: I'm not sure what the root problem in your question is. If you're wanting to know how to gain lean muscle, eat meat and do push-ups. If you're upset about the name-calling, just tell her to stop. And remember, being skinny makes your penis look bigger. Seriously.
Q. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and one of my quirks is that I have to wash myself after every sexual act. My boyfriend thinks it's because I think he's dirty and it offends him. What should I do? — Amy, Sophomore
Jessi: I'm assuming he knows of your disorder, but if not, explain to him that everyone has strange idiosyncrasies, and yours happens to be cleanliness.
Chris: I have some weird quirks as well. I like my shirts to be hung according to color. But if my closet attendant doesn't hang up my shirts correctly and I haven't explained to him that I like my gray shirts separate from my white shirts, then I'm truly the one to blame.
You can find bitch and moan every Thursday in Jayplay. E-mail Jessi and Chris at bitch@kansan.com with questions.
Dear Captain RibMan,
Why is sex referred to as the "birds and the bees"? It makes no sense. Why isn't it called the "worms and the snails" or the "gila monsters and the babcats"??
—Confused!!
near Confused,
had no time, in a little forest dell, lived a tiny bee named Tony. He was a happy beetle. He would fly from flower to flower and from hive to hive spreading bees around it. But, he always felt small in such a big, big world. One day, Tony wanted to climb a could fly. He knew it would make him feel like he was inside the buildings! Then, waaay up in the top of the trees -- to the top of
He gubped because, because you can do it!* And he did! Tony flow higher than him,
sold me, you can do it!* And he did! Tony flow higher than him,
like he was the biggest creature that lives in and with the bee that she took him to her nest and had kinky sex with him.
no eagle was so impressed with the bee that took him to her nest and
Good luck
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