BEAUMONT CLUB
4050 Pennsylvania, KC, NO
WED 11/29
Kottommouth Kings
BOONDOX PARKS
BEAUMONT CLUB
4050 Pennsylvania, KC, MO
WED 11/29
Kortommouth Kings
BOONDOX DEMANDE
Granada
Mon 10/3
The Esoteric
Super Black Market
Architects
The God Project
Last Caress
Tue 10/31
HALLOWEEN
NIGHT!
particle
Del tha Funky
Homosapien
BEAUMONT CLUB
4050 Pennsylvania, KC, MO
WED 11/29
Kottonmouth Kings
BOONDOX POPULARY
Uptown Theatre
TUE 10/31
HALLOWEEN MOTHEY
GOV'T MULE
Donavon Frankenreiter
Granada
Mon 10/31
The Escape
Super Black Market Architects
The God Project
Last Caress
LIBERTY HALL
642 Mass. Street
SAT. NOVEMBER 11
Tickets on sale.
MARGARET CHO
TUE 10/31
HALLOWEEN NIGHT!
particle
Del tha Funky Homosapien
Bettencourt
717 New Hampshire Avenue
all ages Wed 11/1
7 pm
Alexisonfire
Moneen
A Change of Pace
Cancer Bats
all ages Thu 11/2
5:30 pm
Lovedrug
Brandkson
The Myrtad
12→ JAYPLAY 10.26.2006
Uptown Theatre
1700 Broadway, Kansas City, MO
Tue 10/31
HALLOWEEN MASSTY
GOV'T
MULE
Donavon Frankenreiter
I'M IN LOVE WITH MY BOYFRIEND OF ONE YEAR, BUT I’M WORRIED BECAUSE HE HAS A FEMALE FRIEND WHO HE’S KNOWN FOR A LONG TIME (SINCE BEFORE HE MET ME), AND THEY ARE ALWAYS SENDING RANDOM TEXT MESSAGES AND E-MAILING EACH OTHER. HE SAYS THEY’RE JUST FRIENDS AND SENDING EACH OTHER GOOFY, SOMETIMES EVEN FLIRTATIOUS, MESSAGES IS JUST “WHAT THEY DO” AND IT’S NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. SHE DOESN’T LIVE IN KANSAS, BUT IS THIS SOMETHING I SHOULD WORRY ABOUT? DOES HE HAVE FEELINGS FOR THIS GIRL?
— KELSEY, JUNIOR
Chris: I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Worst case scenario, your boyfriend is in love with this other woman because she fulfills his needs in ways you never can. She’s funnier, smarter and much prettier. And more interesting than you, which is why he’d rather communicate with her via text message than listen to your stories about this week’s episode of Grey's Anatomy and how you just can't believe what a jerk McDreamy is, but you'd like, totally still sleep with him because, come on, he's hot! Your boyfriend thinks about this woman when he's with you. He imagines he's with her when he's sleeping with you, and every morning he wakes up with you is another disappointment. He's counting down the days until he graduates and can move away from Lawrence to be with his true love, leaving you here to pick up the pieces of your shattered heart. But relax, that's just the worst case scenario. I'm sure it’s just harmless flirting.
Niloofar: Unless you want your boyfriend to end up dumping you, then don't worry about it. Look at the facts: he’s been your boyfriend for a year, she doesn’t live in Kansas, and he knew her before he knew you, which means he picked you over her. There’s probably some sort of underlying attraction there, but it clearly hasn’t been strong enough for either of them to act on it. You won. You have him. If you start worrying, getting jealous and turning into a psycho bitch, you won't have him much longer. Accept that he has other people he likes to joke with and that it probably doesn't mean much of anything. Now, if she moves here and the texts turn into hanging out without telling you or you catch them in bed together, that's when you leave the bastard and register him on Dontdatehimgirl.com. Until then, though, don't worry. And maybe you could send him a flirtatious text message or two yourself.
MY GIRLFRIEND KEEPS SAYING THAT I'M NOT AS FUN AS I USED TO BE AND THAT SHE FEELS LIKE I DON'T CARE ABOUT HER. SHE EVEN ASKED ME IF I WAS THINKING ABOUT BREAKING UP WITH HER. THIS REALLY PISSES ME OFF BECAUSE IWOULDN’T BE WITH HER IF I DIDN'T WANT TO BE. I’M STARTING TO THINK MAYBE SHE HAS SOME INSECURITY ISSUES AND HER COMPLAINING IS REALLY STARTING TO GET OLD. HOW CAN I GET HER TO SEE THAT THINGS ARE FINE BETWEEN US AND I DON'T (DIDN'T!) HAVE ANY PLANS OF GETTING OF RID OF HER?
— MARK, SENIOR
Chris: Try to see the big picture. This girl wants to break up with you, but she doesn't want to be the bad guy, so she’s trying to nag you into doing it. Chances are she met a real dreamboat at the bar this weekend and realized how much she’s missing out by being tied down to you, hence the "you're no fun anymore" crap. If she just dumps you to be with this guy, she’ll get the "bitch" label. But if she can annoy the hell out of you until you can't take it anymore, she becomes the pitiful victim, and you become the dickhead who didn't know how good he had it. At this point you have two choices: start looking for a new girlfriend yourself, because she's not staying with you much longer, or find a good hiding place for a video camera, have one more night of "fun" and blackmail her conniving ass. I know what I'd do, but that's only because I can't afford a video camera.
Niloofar: Your girlfriend may have insecurity issues. Ask yourself what you've done to contribute to the problem. If you're annoyed with her and disappointed in the state of the relationship, then you need to take responsibility for the way you're feeling and figure out what you can do to fix it. Here's a little tip: girls like surprises. It sounds like you've been together a long time, and in your mind, now that you've trapped her in your cage, so to speak, you don't need to hunt her anymore. But women love to be pursued. Every woman wants to be adored, and I think deep down every guy wants to make his girl feel good. So basically, I'm telling you to get off your ass, stop playing video games and buy her some flowers. Start actually dating her again. Call her randomly between classes and leave her a voice mail just to let her know you were thinking about her. I guarantee your girlfriend will be pleased and that means she'll stop nagging, which means you both end up winning. If this sounds like too much effort on your part, then you need to seriously consider whether you really do care about her, and if not, free her to find another man who'll treat her how she deserves to be treated and go back to a lonely love affair with your X-box.
Uptown Theatre
710 Broadway, Kansas City, KD
Tue 10/31
HALLOWEEN MOON!
GOV'T MULE
Donavon Frankenreiter
LIBERTY HALL
642 Mass. Street
SAT. NOVEMBER 11
Tickets on sale NOAP?
MARGARET
CHO
Brittleneck
717 New Hampshire, Lawrence
all ages
7 pm Wed 11/1
Alexisonfire
Moneen
A Change of Pace
Cancer Bats
all ages
5:30 pm Thu 11/2
Lovedrug
Brandtson
The Mydad
MARGARET
CHO
Brittleech
127 New Hampshire Avenue
all ages
7 pm
Wed 11/1
Alexisonfire
Moneen
A Change of Pace
Cancer Bats
all ages
5:30 pm
Thu 11/2
Lovodrug
Brandtson
The Myriad
BITCH moan
Niloofar Shahmohammadi
Chris Raine
Please send your questions and concerns to bitch@kansan.com
Please send your questions and concerns to bitch@kansan.com