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5. "I know what you're thinking and it's not that."
4. "DUDE!! I interrupted me at the best part."
3. "Quick, get some help! My hand and penis are fighting!"
2. "Come and join in. We can race!"
1. "Let me finish off and I'll talk to you."
- Chris Moore
How we met
Friends: Grant & Chris
You wouldn't think you'd find many friends out in the wilderness. But that's not the case for Grant Zehner, Overland Park senior and Chris Rogge, Kansas City senior. Zehner was mountain biking at the Spillway in Manhattan. He wrecked his bike and bent his wheel in half. As Zehner was walking his bike back to the car, Rogge saw him and they started talking. They began to hang out and became friends. After their sophomore years, they both decided to transfer from K-State to KU.
Zehner is going to be Rogge's best man in his wedding next year.
Meghan Miller
Bitch moan&
With Brian Bratichak and Jessica Crowder
Please send your questions to bitch@kansan.com
My girlfriend and I used to have sex every day, but it's been two weeks and every time I try she isn't in the mood. Now she wants to take a break and date other guys. Is she leaving me because my lovin' isn't satisfactory?
Jessica: She's not leaving you because of your crappy love-making skills. She's leaving you because you have no idea how to love her. Most girls will attest that although sex is a major component in a relationship, the emotional connection far outweighs the bedroom business. If she's just not feeling the chemistry, the lack of sex is a moot point. You need to learn how she wants to be loved, not how she wants the pipe laid. The sex will come when you learn to care for her in the way she wants to be cared for. For future reference, no matter who you end up with, make sure you're more concerned with her and not how you measure up in the sack. Jerk.
- Garrett, Sophomore
Brian: Ahh. Already feeling like you're married and the sex is slowly dying off? Girls are much more emotionally driven than guys are, meaning that she probably isn't leaving you because you don't make her orgasm. Look back and think of all the times she has needed you at her side recently. Have you been there to help her? She wants to go out and date other people because she knows you two connect sexually but wants to see if someone else is more in touch with her emotional needs. If you want to keep her, make that extra effort. Be willing to give up friend time for time with her. Find out her deepest desires and make them come true even something as simple as cooking her dinner after a long day. It will all go a long way towards helping you get more action in the bedroom.
My boyfriend goes to the strip clubs with his friends a few times a month, and every time he comes home wanting sex. This feels so wrong since he's just been looking at other women. What should I be doing?
-Ellie, Junior
Brian: Sometimes boys will be boys. This includes acting without regard for how it will affect someone else. If he doesn't know you have a problem with this, then he is doing no wrong. You'll need to confront him about how you
Jessica: If it feels wrong, don't do it and tell him why you're not doing it. Maybe that'll change his mind about going to strip clubs in the first place when he realizes he has his very own free and private peep show to go home to. For your sake, I sincerely hope he figures that out before you find a man who knows you're the only stripper he wants in his life.
don't feel at ease with him lusting after you when he comes home. A refusal to budge at all by him will show that your relationship is destined to crash and burn anyway. His desire to conform to your needs will show that he isn't going to the strip clubs to get turned on but to spend time with his friends. As much as you need your time with your girls, he needs his time with his guys. By giving him time to be with his buds other than this monthly ritual, it will minimize the frequency of him going to the clubs. If all else fails, starting practicing your stripper routine and look into buying a pole for your house.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for eight months. My family is from out-of-state and when my parents visited last weekend, she didn't want to meet them. What's going on here? - Jim, Senior
Jessica: Either she's on a different wavelength in terms of the relationship's commitment or she suffers from a parental phobia. Explain to her that you wish she could've been there to meet them and then ask her if there was anything preventing her from doing so. Hopefully, it's just a minor fear of parental acceptance, but if you're still questioning her level of commitment you should talk with her about where you both stand. Good luck!
Brian: You might have a case of a very caring girlfriend on your hands. If you have been expressing how overly excited you are that your parents are coming up, she might have been trying to give you space for some quality family time. On the other hand, you might have a case of a relationship that isn't quite where you thought it was. Meeting parents is almost as big of a deal as Ron Burgundy and she just might not feel like your relationship is yet at the meeting parents stage. This shouldn't qualify as a reason to break up, but it gives you a better insight into her mind. The biggest mistake you could make right now is to assume anything. Talk to her and find out exactly what the deal is. Don't push the issue too heavily, but make sure she knows how you feel about this.
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