2C THE UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN
WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 14,2005
FROM THE EDITOR Welcome to the 2005 edition of Sex on the Hill. Sex permeates our lives as college students more and more every year. Whether
SEX on the HILL
in the media or in our personal lives, sex—or the lack thereof—is a constant companion. Inside this issue you can find quintessentially sexy Jayhawks, what it's like lusting after your professor or TA and the answer to the age-old question: Is she faking it?
Ross is a Topeka senior in journalism
We hope you enjoy this annual romp into the spicy, sometimes controversial, always riveting world of sex and sexuality at the University of Kansas
INDEX
Columnist Ryan Kusmin discusses the pros and cons of having random one-night stands.
What do Allen Fieldhouse, Mary Klayder and KUInfo all have in common? They're all quintessentially KU and they're all sexy!
You know you've had a crush on a teacher before.
Photo Illustration by Candice Rukes
Unsure how to back up your buddy when he's making a move? Eric Jorgensen and Matt Sevcik have got your back.
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Photograph by Ginny Weatherman Models Brandon Lundgren Jen Mitchum
Put your 'O-face' forward
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KANSAN CORRESPONDENT
Faking it keeps future pleasure at bay
You thought you had it right,but you had it oh,oh,OOOOH! so wrong. Most women have
faked an orgasm in the bedroom at least once, according to a 2000 Orgasm Survey. Some women are habitual violators. But as guys are gradually catching on, is falsifying a dramatic end to a midnight rendezvous even worth it?
There are different reasons for a woman to fake it beneath the sheets. She could be uncomfortable physically or emotionally or she might just want to end the action as soon as possible.
At the beginning of a relationship things don't always mesh perfectly. Sometimes stretching the truth in the sack can help the relationship have an opportunity to evolve.
"With my ex-boyfriend, I faked it every time in the beginning. He seemed very inexperienced. Faking it made it easier so we could continue moving on in the relationship," Nicky Androes, Wichita senior, said.
Regardless of the situation, most women think their partner expects them to orgasm, so they feel obligated to do so, according to slate.msn.com. When she knows there is no way she is going to climax, she feels sympathetic and the need to act like she finished to spare his ego.
But do guys really care that much if the encounter ends with a finale? Not really. A misconception among women is that their partners think they should reach orgasm every time. Even though they wish for the best, most guys realize that a woman is not going to get off every time they hit the sack.
Women are less likely to fake it with someone they are in a committed relationship with. When in a relationship honesty is a better route.
Being truthful can leave room for improvement in the bedroom.
"Faking happens way too often. I believe the female is selling herself short. By faking an orgasm, she is not asking for the effort that is actually needed to get her off," Cal McConnell, Lawrence resident, said.
But if the hook up is merely a fling, like a one-night stand, guys say it doesn't phase them whether she fakes it or not.
"I really don't care if she fakes. If she wants to fake it to feel good about herself, more power to her. But if I care about her, I'd be kind of mad if she lied to me." Rusty Nelson, Omaha senior, said.
Guys are catching onto the little secret. Most say they can spot a fake out, according to the survey. It is easy to tell whether a woman is experiencing a real orgasm after having sex with a her on a regular basis.
All women show different signs of climaxing.
Common signs she's experiencing the real deal are having a full-body blush and blood rushing below the belt. Facial expressions can also be a sign.
"Well, your face probably looks a lot cuter when you fake it," said Jenni Zammit, Overland Park senior.
Doctor Jo Ramberg has been a sexologist since 1988 and she says communication is key to acquiring a breath-taking end to a midnight romp.
"Having to fake it means there is a lack of knowledge by both partners of how to stimulate each other to a climax," Doctor Ramberg said.
Sex is still pleasurable for a woman, even if she doesn't reach orgasm. Despite this, there are things you can do next time so she won't have to fake it.
Relax. Your partner can sense your nervousness and this can make situations
uncomfortable.
Don't leave out emotional gestures. Kissing is important and is often forgotten when action gets really intense.
Y ou know what they say:
Different strokes for different folks. This should be taken literally in the bedroom.
Different women get excited in different ways, so pay close attention to what feels good for her. Let her know you are open to being shown how it's done.
A mis conception among women is that their partners think they should reach orgasm every time. Even though they wish for the best, most guys realize that a woman is not going to get off every time they hit the sack.
Can the tables be turned?
Only on rare occasions do guys fake it. Yes, this is possible by acting like he just came, and then scurrying away.
And it's even easier if there is a condom invoiled. For guys, it's easy to admit that it's just not going to happen, especially when alcohol has been consumed. But they don't feel the need to portray a dramatic ending.
Bottom line: Ladies, keep it real. Guys, keep your ladies interested beneath the sheets.
— Edited by Patrick Ross
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