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By Jessi Crowder and Chris Tackett
How far does the apple fall from the cheating tree?
My boyfriend only wants to have sex once or twice a week. When we have sex it's usually pretty good, but I want it more often. He never seems to show much interest. Is it me? Or is he cheating? Or what?
—Leslie, freshman
Chris: It sounds like he has a case of the "lames" — as in "he's lame." It is possible he's so tired from boning other girls he's too tired for you. It's also possible he just doesn't have much of a sex drive. it's also possible he's gay. If he is more important than sex with him, you may have to go manual to meet your needs. Or find someone else that likes the morning quickies, nooners and all-night romps us normal people enjoy.
romps us normal people enjoy. Jessi: It sounds like you two just have different libido levels. I know plenty of girls who would be thankful to find a man like yours who isn't constantly consumed by sexy thoughts. However, I have a few suggestions in mind: You could introduce some new moves/items in the bedroom to up the randy-factor. You could use your handy-dandy vibe for some quality you-time. Or as a last resort, you could take him for a walk on Mass and point at every single guy walking by and say "look, I bet he'd do me," but that's only if you're into guilt-tripping and making him feel like absolute crap on a stick.
My boyfriend's dad has cheated a lot. It's got me worrying. Do you think cheating is genetic or am I crazy? Mel, sophomore
Chris: Your boyfriend may have learned a lot from his father's cheating — like how damaging it can be. Just because his father was less than faithful doesn't mean he will follow that path. Sure he may turn out to be a cheating douche bag too, but that will be his choice, not his father's. Geez, I'm just not funny today! Sorry for the letdown.
father's. Geez, I'm just not really busy right. Jessi? Yes, Mel, dear. You're absolutely right. Cheating is genetic... as genetic as favorite pizza toppings. I'm kidding you! Although there have been studies conducted regarding whether or not philandering has a genetic basis, there is no real truth as of yet to that theory. However, learning, imitation and acceptance may have some influence over a person's moral upbringing. Children learn from their parents, and in many cases adopt their parents' relationship strategies like confrontation versus passivity. That said, I do believe that people may see infidelity as more acceptable than others depending on their experiences with it growing up.
After graduation, my boyfriend of six months will be moving four hours away to work. Would it be smarter to keep dating or break up?
—Nita, junior
Chris: With gas prices as high as they are now and predicted to keep growing this summer, it's not only smart to break up, it's also smart to sell your car and buy a bike. If being four hours away has you questioning your relationship, I'm guessing this isn't something you expect will last long anyway. Ending it before would be better if that's what you think both of y'all want. But if you care enough for this guy to give it a shot, try it out, see what happens and be sure to communicate your feelings along the way.
cate your feelings along the way. Jessi! I only support long-distance relationships in the case that the couple a) sees a possible future together, b) have already been together for a while, and c) are in love and devoted to sticking it out. I think you'll see all three components are necessary in order to keep this type of relationship together.
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