4C THE UNIVERSITY DAHY KANSAN
KANSAS RELAYS
THURSDAY, APRIL 21, 2005
By Jessi Crowder and Chris Tackett
Waist-line wig outs
My girlfriend overreacts about lily things such as me talking to other girls. How can I let her know it's not a big deal and that I love her so it shouldn't matter?
Jessi: Your girlfriend most likely has had reason in previous relationships to overreact, which is why she continues to with you. Assuming you weren't the one to hurt her, she needs to stop blaming you, and you both need to cultivate a reciprocated trust. Let her know that she is the only girl for you and that you are not "what's his-name" and with time, your actions will prove that to her. Be sure to avoid behaviors such as taking calls into other rooms where she can't hear them or exiting IM windows when she enters the room. These seemingly menial things can be easily misunderstood as "cheating behavior" to an untrusting girl. Good luck!
**Chris:** I once had a girlfriend who overreacted to silly things such as me making out with other girls. "It's just kissing baby! I love you!" Quite the controller, she was. Does that answer your question?
Why do guys in crowded bars always put their hand on a girl lower back whenever they're trying to walk around us? Don't they know that the last place a girl wants to be touched is where her extra flab is?
Jesai: According to my resources, they're coping a fail if they're single or merely pushing your butt out of the way so they can get to the nearest exit and outside to phone their girlfriend. It could also be a protective issue of sorts. Since you're female, men want to be more gentle when touching you (regardless of back flab) than when they shove the other guys around. It's not a big deal, but if it bothers you enough, go to the gym.
Chris: I got called out for doing this the other night and did not know that was where girls were now storing their extra flab. I had never realized why I was doing it, but as I tried to politely slide between two people to get the bar, I touched the back of the girl and she flipped. I think some people do it to test the girl's reaction. If the subtle touch sparks a smile or a conversation from the girl — bonus! But if not, it's still better than punching them in the face.
When my boyfriend and I argue, he never lets me talk. He ends up feeling better once we're done, but I always feel like crap afterward. Any tips on getting my poles up?
Jessi: Does he like food? If he likes food, then give him something big (like an apple) to chew on while you talk. Or you could always tell him (though not when you're fighting) that you would appreciate him even more if he allowed you to voice your opinion on matters. Suggest "breathers" in which you talk while he listens. Breathers are vital in relationships and also throughout lengthy loving sessions.
[Oh, you guys say some of the darndest things.]
**Chris:** Power Point presentations are a nice way to add a little pizzazz. Or giant cards that have important facts on them. For example, if you say, "you've treated me like crap for 11 months," then hold up a card that reads "11 months." The emphasis can be toxic! Or you could make sure you get in arguments when you're driving in the car, that way if he won't let you talk you can just pull into a gas station and leave him there. Better yet, leave him out in the middle of nowhere! Hilarious!
Got a burning question? E-mail us at bitch@kansan.com.
Wescoewit
Not to make you all scared, but we are eavesdropping on your conversations. Yes, we hear everything. And then we print it. But don't worry if you say something stupid, we won't identify you — unless you owe us money or beer.
Girl 1: My roommate doesn't believe in dinosaurs.
Girl 2: Really?
Girl 2: Really?
Girl 1: Yeah she thinks God created fossils.
Girl 2! I never heard of that before.
Girl 1: Yeah, it weird.
Girl 1: Everyone's looking at it funny.
Girl 1: I'm like, "what?"
Girl 1: It says, "vote no for your fellow homo."
Girl 1: Last night I went downstairs because I thought I heard someone pounding.
Girl 1: What?
Girl 2: Yeah?
Girl 1: But nope, it was just the bed slamming against the wall.
Erin Shipps
Five questions
One KU "famous," one KU not (yet) famous
Metva Landrum
Minneapolis,
Minn. senior
and Step Show
coordinator
Aubrey Toreault
Oklahoma City
fifth-year senior
Q: What's your favorite flavor of ice cream?
Landrum: Chocolate. Chocolate is my favorite food.
Tetreault: Oh, mint chocolate chip.
Q: What's the coolest place you've ever been to?
Landrum: I don't know... New Orleans. I liked flying in over the river.
Tetraout: it wasn't Oklahoma. I'll just be generic and say L.A.
G: What's the one thing you'd change about the world if you could?
Landrum: I wouldn't want there to be any prejudice.
Tetrault: I liked the first question
about ice cream the best. That was
the easiest. One thing I could change
about the world... inequality.
Q: Do you have any unusual hobbies?
**Leandrum:** I do a lot of unusual things. I don't know if it's a hobby, but I have to watch "Jewelry TV" before I go to sleep. Even if it just for five minutes, I have to watch it.
**Totresult:** like to eat cheese. Is that unusual?
G: Who was the first person you kissed, and when was it?
Landrum: Do posters count? (laughing) No. This is so embarrassing. Jeffery Lee, I was like 12, I think in his clubhouse. With our parents sitting in the living room.
Tetrault: My high school boyfriend my freshman year.
Robert Perkins
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