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kansas in heat // DARE TO HAVE INTENSE SEX
relationship researcher Mike Anderson tackles the sticky world of relationship advice, one weekly Jayplay column at a time.
Mike Anderson, Dellwood, Minn., graduate student, is the host of Kansas in Heat, a talk show about sex and relationships that airs Thursdays at 7 p.m. on KJHK. 90 7fm and at kjhk. ogl
*THE OPINIONS OF THIS COLUMNIST DO NOT NECESSARILY REFLECT THE VIEWS OF JAYPLAY KANSAS IN HEAT IS NOT TO BE CONSIDERED AS A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL HELP.
A former teacher of mine used to say that sex is sometimes AL Green and sometimes Peaches — meaning that sometimes, the night calls for slow and sensual sex, and sometimes raw, exciting, crazy sex is more in order.
Though both have their place, 1 think
intense crazy sex does not appear enough in relationships. 1 always get questions about how to improve someone's sex life or get their partner wanting more sex. Well, the answer is simple — enthusiasm. If you and your partner are really enthusiastic about sex, you'll both enjoy it more. Combined with spontaneity, enthusiasm and intense sex is just the thing to keep passion in a relationship.
Generally, men want women to initiate sex more, and women love when men take charge (just not all the time). Some of the time, we would love for our partner to playfully tackle us and rip our clothes off. I don't know about you, but, to me, that sounds like a great evening.
I want both you and your partner to go to town on each other — enjoy some animalistic qualities and show some enthusiasm toward intense, passionate love making. I don't care if it is oral, vaginal or anal sex, or intense kissing
— bring the passion and intensity back into sxv.
Do you have a question for Kansas in Heat?
E-mail to kansasinheat@yahoo.com.
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catch of the week // RANDY THOMPSON
**Turn-ons:** The first thing that attracts me to someone is the person's eyes and lips. The person I'm with has to have a sense of humor or I'll get bored.
Turn-offs: I can't stand guys who don't know how to take care of themselves.
Hobbies: I love to shop. And I spent most of my time hanging out and having fun with the guys of Delta Lamda Phi, KU's fraternity for gay, bisexual and progressive men.
Ideal first date I like to keep it simple. Maybe just go to a nice restaurant where we can talk and get to know each other.
Worst date: A guy asked me out on a date and then made me pay for my own meal. Call my ass old fashioned, but if you ask me out, I think you should pay.
Typee I'm a sucker for tall, dark and handsome.
I usually go for the bad boys but not so bad that you're going to pull a Chris Brown on me though, because I'll fight back. I love guys who are tan but I don't discriminate — you can be black, white, latin, blue or green, as long as you're confident.
Favorite quote: "I can't color enough. I would color all day, every day. If I had my way, I would use every crayon in my box."—Samantha Jones. Sex and the City
Dream job: I want to work in advertising and I want to travel.
// LINDSAY CLEEK
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