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relationship researcher Mike Anderson tackles the sticky world of relationship advice, one weekly Jayplay column at a time.
In his book *The Guide to Picking up Girls*, Gabe Fischbarg has a lot of bad advice.
1) "Dancing is a big waste of time. Most straight men can't dance without looking foolish."
2) "Aerobics class is for girls and gay men.
Avoid them."
3) "Alcohol is an important part of your rap [I assume that means the ability to talk with girls], 99.9% of guys in the world need the
magic elixir of alcohol to lay a good rap."
This advice is terrible. First, dancing can be very attractive for both sexes. Trying to dance says you are outgoing and social. Second aerobics or yoga classes are great places to meet girls or guys. They're a great social environment that helps you initiate conversations and relationships. Aerobics and yoga will also greatly improve your physique and sex life by helping with stamina and flexibility.
There is a lot of bad advice out there — especially for guys. Dancing, aerobic classes, yoga, and social interactions with little-to-moderate alcohol can all help you work on initiating a relationship, or at the very least improve your sex life. Take advantage and enjoy the rewards.
As far as the last comment goes, I am at a loss for words. A drink or two is fine, but to think you need to get drunk to pick up a guy or girl is ludicrous. If you are nervous about approaching someone, alcohol can be your worst enemy. Instead, work on your social side by starting more conversations with strangers.
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