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kansas in heat // SURE-FIRE ADVICE
relationship researcher Mike Anderson tackles the sticky world of relationship advice, one weekly Jayplay column at a time.
There are few universal truths in this world. Off the top of my head, I can only think of two. Gravity does exist, and Boogie Nights is the greatest movie ever made. In the world of romantic relationships, however, no universal claims can be made. Unfortunately, I cannot give one or two pieces of advice that are going to work with 100 percent of couples.
It's funny, then, that the question I get asked the most is, "What is a sure-fire way to get a man or woman in bed with me?" To be honest, I don't know if there is one clear answer. Everyone is different in what they find attractive, and how they want to be seduced. But in the interest of the upcoming summer of love, I have three ideas
for you. If you have one of these things, great;
if you have two, even better; if you have three,
call me.
1) Learn to cook. I think we all agree that food can be a major aphrodisiac. The ability to know and cook fine food is sexy, and lets the other person know you have fine tastes.
2) Know how to give a great massage. The touch and contact that is associated with a massage is highly sensual, intimate and often erotic. A great massage after great food will breed seduction.
3) Be funny. Everybody loves to laugh, and a sense of humor or smile is one of the biggest turn-ons for both males and females. We all love a good smile, and we all love when someone can make us smile.
I know you're probably thinking I'm crazy to leave out looks. Sure, if you look like Brad Pitt or Halle Berry, it's going to be easier, but the majority of seduction is mental. Only a bit of it is physical. And anyone that can do those three things listed above will build attraction and increase seduction.
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