By Elizabeth Blasco and Chris Tackett
[Advice that comes with free air conditioning and a pool.]
Do girls ever say "it's that time of the month" when they're hooking up with a guy to keep him from moving any further?
Jay, Freshman
Elizabeth: If a girl doesn't want to go any further, she will usually let you know. How she clues you in is generally up to her. If you think she's just telling you that it's her time of the month as an excuse, don't try to go any further. Whether she is or isn't, really doesn't matter, but what does matter is that she may not feel comfortable, and you should definitely respect that.
**Chris:** Although it is possible she's telling the truth, this is one of the oldest girl tricks in the book. It's an easy, conflict-free excuse to keep guys from trying anything below the belt that guys have no rebuttal. **NOTE TO GIRLS:** This trick doesn't deter drunk guys.
I've been "friends with benefits" with my close guy friend for a while, but I recently met a guy I want to start dating. How should I break this off without hurting my friend?
-Sarah, Sophomore
Chris: When friends sleep together, there's a good chance someone will get hurt. You should just be honest and straightforward with your friend and tell him what's up. If his feelings for you have grown past those of a friend, don't be surprised if he doesn't want to hang out anymore. He definitely won't want to see you with the new guy, so try to keep them apart for a while. But hopefully, in a month or two, things should be back to normal.
I'm not into bestiality, but seeing an animal eat another animal gets me really horny. What do you think this means?
Catherina, Junior
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Elizabeth: I'm not sure what exactly it is that you find erotic about that type of material, but there is nothing wrong with the way that you feel. If you are bothered by this, you could seek the advice of a professional in order to uncover the possible reasons why it makes you feel the way that you do.
Chris: I imagine you're turned on by the control the dominating animal has over its prey. And it means you should watch lots of Animal Planet.
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