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monday,may3,2004
Legacy lives on: Emily Taylor remembered
Zach Stinson for The University Daily Kansan
At the University of Kansas, the legacy of Emily Taylor is not hard
to find.
OUR VIEW Emily Taylor, former dean of women, died Saturday. She was a model for women's achievements.
A center is named in her memory. And in that center, women such as Kathy RoseMockry, its director, continue the work of
Taylor, encouraging college women to seek more.
Taylor, an icon of fearless feminism, died Saturday. The loss the community and the University feels is great; Taylor was still influential although she was no longer a University official. But her legacy lives on.
In 1956, when Emily Taylor came to the University as the dean of women, women's achievements were most commonly measured by contests such as "Prettiest schoolgirls," sponsored by Palmolive. Taylor inspired to look for more in a male-dominated work force.
As dean of women, a role that no longer exists, Taylor often served as a mentor of women in leadership roles. Taylor would take many women under her
wing during her time at Kansas and she continued to have an effect as a Lawrence resident and occasional visitor to the center that is named after her.
Before feminist was a respected word at the University, Emily Taylor was fostering women's achievements.
The University undoubtedly benefited from Taylor's influence: Women fill scores of important positions at the University and the campus is a liberated and gender equal. Still, the University community must continue to press forward.
Now Taylor's legacy is left for a new generation of women. These women don't face the same structural barriers that Taylor faced, but, as Taylor might say, the struggle continues.
Taylor, who turned 89 three weeks ago, did not sit passively as rights that were once a dream evolved into concepts that young women take for granted. Instead, even as she grew old, Taylor kept pressing for equality on all levels
It's that legacy — of continuing effort towards social equality — on which KU students should seize.
We have lost a legend and a pioneer who brought much to the world around her. Let's honor her legacy by continuing the fight.
PERSPECTIVE
Loss of relationships can leave void; be strong
You're in a relationship that you see as perfect. Both people love each other, and you think this one will last for a while. After all, this could be the one. And then, whammo! The relationship ends faster than the plot of a bad B movie.
You were dumped. It's happened to all of us. But there are easier ways to get over it than to cut off your ear and mail it to your ex.
COMMENTARY
The first thing to remember when dumped is that the other person ended the relationship. Not you. This is important when trying to figure out the balance of power in the situation. She has it, you don't. It doesn't matter how much you would like to get back together; the ball is in her court. No matter how many times you and a small band sing "Amore" outside her window, she will only come back if it's on her terms.
Kevin Flaherty opinion@kansan.com
No real quick and easy way exists to truly get over someone. There will be mornings when you wake up and just feel inside. There will be nights that
So now that you're not focused on getting him or her back, it's time to figure out how to get over that once-special someone.
you won't be able to sleep because you're so upset. Tears may flow, and your heart will feel like it's been wrenched out of your chest and stomped on. Taking time to explore these emotions is needed for total catharsis, or a purging of emotions, according to www.romanceopedia.com. If you need time to cry, take it. If you have to reminisce, go ahead, but you shouldn't try to bash your ex. This will only make you bitter, and it's easier to get over a relationship if you remember the person for the good things he did.
There are, however, ways to make the process a little less difficult.
Give yourself time. While it may seem logical that a quick physical romp
between the sheets would make you feel better, it probably won't. After the one-night stand is over, you're still in the same place you started off ... dumped. Be wary of hopping back into a relationship with somebody else. If you jump right back into the water, you don't give yourself time to recover. It's also not fair to the person you are dating.
The first step, according to www.adulthoodwonderful.com, is to rearrange your physical environment. It's important to feel like you're getting a fresh start. Move some furniture around, or just get some new decorations.
The second step is to forget about listening to pop music. The movies are right, when you're dumped, the only songs coming on top-40 radio are either love songs or breakup songs. To avoid feeling as if the world is raining on you, just move the dial or pop in a CD.
However, the most important thing is to stay busy. Make a list of things you want to do. If you'd like to start running, write that on the list. Start doing what you like doing—it will take your mind off your feelings for a little while. Whenever
you get tired of a task, cross it off and move to the next one. The object is to become so caught up in living your life, you forget about when you were dependent on someone else.
Remember what you were like before the breakup. Unless you both started dating from the second you were popped out of the womb, you were a separate person before you met. Focus on becoming what you would like to become — a strong healthy individual.
If the situation becomes a little bit too much for you to handle on your own, talk to your friends. If it gets past that stage Counseling and Psychological Services can help.
Getting over being dumped is almost always difficult, and there will be plenty of roadblocks along the way. Just take your time and try to stay positive.
Trust me, I would know. I was dumped about a month ago by someone whom I thought I would eventually marry. It hurts, but if you give yourself time to heal and follow these steps, it should make the process a little bit easier.
Flaherty is a Lenexa senior in journalism
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'Blender' song list comes up short; some songs forgotten
COMMENTARY
I'm a cheesy kind of guy for the simple fact that I love music from the 1980s. Love it. I own scads of it. And why not? It's the music I grew up with. To prove it, I popped in my We Are the world cassette from 1985 just the other day. Yes, that's a cassette. Tina Turner's a real show-stopped on one that
So it distressed me a bit when I saw that Blender magazine chose quite a few '80s tunes near the top of the list of 50 worst rock songs ever for its May issue. The 1990s and the present decade weren't immune either, but 12 of the top 25 songs on the list come from the '80s.
Granted, some of the dishonors were deserved. Eddie Murphy's foray into the music business with the deplorable Party All the Time got its just recognition at No. 8. And, although its opening synthesizer riff is instantly recognizable, the pouty-lipped Corey Hart's Sunglasses at Night clocked in at No.23 and is an exercise in songwriting stupidity.
("Don't mess around with a guy in shades, oh not") he warbles. Wouldn't
Alex Hoffman opinion@kansan.com
But some of my beloved groups from the era slipped into the list. My boys Huey Lewis and the News got supremely shafed when Blender chose 1984's The Heart of Rock & Roll as the sixth song. This is a little harsh. Don't these people know the heart of rock and roll is still beatin'? Also, Chicago is also one of my all-time favorite bands, and yet its 1984 hit You're the Inspiration took the No. 18 spot.
THE 10 WORST SONGS FORGOTTEN BY 'BLENDER'; REMEMBERED BY HOFFMAN
10. Walk the Dinosaur, Was (Not Was) (1888)
9. Afternoon Delight, Starland Vocal Band
(1976)
1. Endless Summer Nights, Richard Marx (1987)
8. Making Love Out of Nothing At All, Air Sunny (1983)
8. Dops!...I Did It Again, Britney Spears (2000)
8. Feelings, Morris Albert (1975)
9. Somebody's Watching Me, Rockwell
(1964)
2. Heartbeat, Don Johnson (1986)
2. Macarena, Los Deli Rio (1986)
3. Wannabe, Spice Girls (1997)
News' hit Hip to Be Square from 1986 is a lot more irritating. I'm just begging for the song to end as the chorus of San Francisco 49er football players tries to sing over and over, "Here, there and everywhere/Hip, hip, so hip to be
5. Feelings, Morris Albert (1975)
Hedgehog and And then there's Starship
And then there it was. The group took home the prize for worst song ever with 1985's We Built This City. Yes, the lyrics to this song are pretty awful ("Who rides the wrecking ball/into our guitars?"), and points should be taken off for including a radio clip of a traffic report during the instrumental bridge.
But I don't think it was Starship's worst effort of the 1980s. That dubious honor would go to the insipid power ballad Nothing's Gonna Stop Us Now, which inexplicably rose to No.1 in 1987. I'm still mulling over which was worse;
And if the magazine has something against mega-producer David Foster's Chicago collaborations, or something against Foster alone, there are other clunkers from which to choose. Man in Motion from the film St. Elmo's Fire, anyone? Or the ultra-schmaltz Hard to Say I'm Sorry from the Chicago 16 album, probably my least favorite Chicago hit.
The debate will surely continue about the songs Blender missed. For one, why didn't the editors include a song from the creative bankruptcy of one sappy, mullet-haired Richard Marx? All he wrote in the late '80s were slow dances often played at junior-high mixers and rhymed "pain" and "insane" in almost every song. Maestro Marx took trite writing to Himalayan heights with such lyric gems as "It don't mean nothin' till you sign it on the dotted line" and "Time was all we had until the day we said goodbye." A true wordsmith.
But all of this is what I enjoy most about '80s music. It was good, clean fun no matter how silly it seems today. Now leave me to my Hall and Oates greatest hits album, please.
KANSAN
Hoffman is an Overland Park senior in journalism.
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