KU students indulge in co-ed living
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with somebody but always going back to your home base because all the clothes are there.
"It's like you're a guest," she explained, "because you're not really living there."
Another coed defined it as "staying all night with a guy. It makes no difference if it's for one day or three weeks," she said. "It's preparing ahead of time and taking some of your personal belongings," she explained. "More than just what you would need for a date."
The reasons for shacking-up are as varied as the definitions.
One male student said after a couple has been dating for awhile it just happens. They will spend the night together, he explained, and then "it becomes easier and easier until it becomes habitual."
An ex-football player agreed.
"I never made a decision to live with her or vice-versa. It just happened."
One coed said she lives with her boyfriend because it's more convenient and because they are able to study together nights. Although she likes him a lot, she said, she doesn't love him and doesn't plan on marriage.
If not marriage, strong affection for the other person seems to prevail in such arrangements.
A tall, broad-shouldered male student said, "I never shacked
with anyone I didn't truly care about. One time it was just an extended date and I was scared. Another time I was in love, I was looking for a meaningful relationship and thrills."
One couple said there is less trauma when a couple decides to break up if they are simply living together rather than married.
They added that many marriages won't work in a university environment because of the strained conditions involved. They cited the example of the wife coming home from work:
She doesn't feel like cleaning the house and wants to go out and have fun. Her husband has to do homework and tensions begin to rise. They said the couple will feel forced together and, eventually, might break up because of that feeling.
They both agreed that living together is similar to conventional marriage, the only difference being society doesn't approve.
Another campus male said "only once was I marriage-minded but for the others I had a strong affection. Marriage plans were not a prime factor, although I think the majority of kids do plan on marriage."
A couple of graduate students—both married and divorced and now living
They listed love, respect and consideration, but added that these are much easier to give if the couple isn't married. They said being married puts a strain on the relationship.
together -said there are some essential variables needed for a marriage to succeed.
They explained that if a couple is married they feel obligated to stay together no matter what happens. If a couple is just living together they continued, they can't ruin each other's lives. When one of them wants out, he can just say goodbye.
A male student made an additional comment. "If it's a one or two night stand, it's usually just for pleasure," he said.
Snorkel keeps damage down
A $62,900 snorkel firetruck prevented an estimated $125,000 fire damage to the basement of a Lawrence nightclub, Mr. Yuk, which was destroyed by fire last Wednesday morning.
This was the opinion of Otis Clemmons, a Lawrence fireman for eight years. Clemmons said the basement of Mr. Yuk, located in Hillcrest shopping center, was not badly damaged because firemen used the snorkel to stop the blaze before it reached the basement.
Fire Captain Donald Knight explained that the Inspection Bureau judges each city in Kansas on its fire protection and sets the insurance rates of the business establishments in that city accordingly.
As a result of study and inspection by the State Fire Marshal and the State Inspection Bureau, the Lawrence Fire Department has undertaken a new guise in the past year. They have added a training center, three new trucks, two new stations and twelve men to the force.
Last year the Lawrence business insurance rates went up because Lawrence did not qualify for a top rating in its fire protection, Knight said. He attributed this rise to the growth of Lawrence.
But pleasure and happy endings are not the only elements in this type of relationship. More than one student pointed out-shacking-up has its problems.
The. training center, uncompleted, is located at 20th and Haskell Streets. The other station is on US Highway 40, east of Lawrence.
The new stations were to be completed in November, 1968, Knight said.
An idea initiated a year ago for the formation of a joint police-fire department Safety Patrol has not yet been achieved. Knight said.
Lawrence has 45 men on its firefighting force, including 12 trainees, with each fireman working a 24 hour shift.
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The Safety Patrol would be composed of men trained in both police work and firefighting, Knight said. They would cruise the city as police patrol cars do now, and would carry rescue and fire fighting equipment.
"Lots of kids think shacking-up is bad and nasty," he continued, "I tried it and it wasn't. If the individual thinks it's nasty it can be the gossest thing there is, or it can be the most meaningful," he explained.
"In my case we got further apart in some ways," he said. "We couldn't stand to be around each other very much. I became nervous and got ulcers."
He went on to say that if he had it to do over again he doesn't know if he would.
"I lived with her for three weeks and decided I didn't want to get married," he said. "She was the one I thought I loved but we weren't compatible. I never regretted anything in my whole life more than that. It was just too much of a mental strain."
A coed also felt her experience with long term shacking-up had been a mistake—even though, she said, she had loved him.
"The guy, no matter what he says, is going to respect you more if you don't shack-up," she
"Living together puts you in a different relationship with each other," she continued, "It's something you can't forget."
said "In the long run the couple will respect each other a lot more.
She also cited an advantage to
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shacking-up. "You never know someone until you've lived with them," she said. "It takes a lot to be mad when you say 'good night' and to be able to smile at him the next morning."
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