KANSAN.COM / THE UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN / THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 18, 2010 / SEX ON THE HILL
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Myths about sex surround many college campuses
BY VICTORIA PITCHER
editor@kansan.com
Mountain Dew will lower sperm count. If the woman is on top, she can't get pregnant. Shoe size is directly related to penis size. These are just a few of the myths that pollute campuses everywhere. They may seem ridiculous and obviously untrue, but they are still believed by students. What students may not be aware of are the general feelings toward this topic
and their fictional parts. Dennis Dailey, professor emeritus of social welfare and sex therapist, sheds some light on a few different myths about sex. The following allegations are not as radical; therefore, students are often more susceptible to believing they are true.
Dailey recommends that students educate themselves about sex to keep from falling victim to these myths.
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MEN ARE HAVING MORE SEX THAN WOMEN
EVERYONE IS HAVING SEX
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It's a generalized assumption that men are engaging in sexual activity more often than women. "Men tend to show
sex"; Daily said. A survey done by the American College Health Association in 2009 showed that about 34 percent of college students reported no sexual partners within the last 12 months. Not all of your peers are having sex. Many refrain due to personal beliefs.
You hear more about the sexual encounters of others just in one siting on Wesco Beach than you want to hear in a life time
ed having four or more sexual partners within the last 12 months compared to 6.1 percent of women. These numbers are not that far apart. Another factor to consider is that women may not be as willing to disclose their actual activity.
often than women. "Men tend to show more sexual activity than women, but the gap is narrowing." Dalley said. According to the same survey done by the ACHA, 10.5 percent of men report
Beach than you want to hear in a life time. It may seem as if everyone around you is having sex, but that is simply not true." A good proportion (of students) are, but it's a myth that everyone is having
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TODAY'S COLLEGE STUDENTS KNOW A LOT ABOUT SEX
"You can be dumb as a stump and still get laid," Dailey said. For instance, many students think sex should always produce
students think sex should always produce a female orgasm. This is simply not true."A lot of college students believe that sexual intercourse should result in orgasm for female partners when in fact only
25 to 30 percent of women will have reliable orgasms," Dalley告说. Sex and relationships are not as easy as they seem. "Falling in love and getting married does not guarantee good relationships or good sex," Dalley said. "Knowledge and hard work does."
COMMENTARY
The right song can set the mood for passionate moments
Music goes well in almost any situation: exercising, partying, relaxing. The list goes on. And then there are those times when a certain situation calls for a certain song.
Sometimes musical artists capture the mood better than awkward silence or your nervous, incessant babbling. If you are uncertain how to go about having sex, just go with the flow and see what soundtrack works best.
Also keep in mind your audience. Know how fast or slow they want to go and don't scare them with a suggestive playlist. Some songs are better suited for one-night stands rather than a candle-lit night with your wife of 15 years.
Everyone knows about Barry Manilow, Barry White and Blondie. You aren't going to impress your date with staples from the past five decades. There's a lot of music out there and you shouldn't just settle with anything.
A special occasion should require a special song.
For the new generation, here are
BY COREY THIBODEAUX cthibodeaux@kansan.com
some familiar artists that have a little something for the bedroom.
SLOW AND STEADY "Insatiable" - Darren Hayes
For the most intimate experience musically and sexually possible, the former lead singer of Savage Garden weaves a silky-smooth and beautifully fragile gem. The airy backdrop suits a heavenly atmosphere and his voice furtherns your journey to intimacy. The song is, well, insatiable.
"Like It or Not"- Madonna
But when she uses lines like, "I'll be the garden, you'll be the snake. All of my fruit is yours to take," it's hard not to get that feeling. There is a seductive darkness here.
And what list would be complete without Madonna? There's a good chance this is not even a love song.
Anvthing from Robin Thicke
Robin's voice automatically makes the ladies swoon. He's a dreamy guy and his albums are erotic on such a level that it makes it hard to enjoy it as it is. They compel you to engage in promiscuous activity. If you want it narrowed down, start off with the delicate "Dreamworld" or "Sex Therapy." If you think you have the lasting power, throw on a full album.
"Making Love (Into the Night)" - Usher
Usher got the voice to make your ___ go ___. You fill in the blank. There's no need for Ush to dilly-dally. It's as simple as picking the girl and making love as long as time allows. Straight-forward and beautifully performed in the process.
"Here in My Room" - Incubus
Get away from the people and into the closest room. Here's a charming little narrative about a sexual encounter with the suggestive tag, "Your love is a verb here in my room." The party is boring and the people are uninteresting, then in walks that one who changes the whole dynamic. They just happen to be better suited unsuited.
“Wanna B Ur Lovr” - Weird Al Yankovic
Some people will find a use for this one. Weird Al pulls out all the greatest sexual innuendo in a smooth and funky attempt at a sex song. If you aren't in a serious mood or need an ice-breaker, here you go. "How'd you get through security'cuz baby, you're the bomb. I'd like to take you home right now so you can meet my mom."
If you have never seen
FAST AND NAUGHTY
pornography, this is as close as you can get, audibly. The lyrics gush with eroticism, though you might not be paying attention during the course of action. Don't worry. You won't have to pay attention to what he says to feel what the song is getting at. Warning: Juice may be involved.
“Up All Night”-Hinder
Here's the sex, booze and rock'n roll track. Maybe you aren't lowoking for an intimate relationship. Maybe you'll do something daddy won't like. Maybe you won't get to sleep before the sun rises the next day. The ultimate post-party hookup jam.
"Butterfly" - Jason Mraz
Somehow, Jason makes a raunchy sexual encounter seem so innocent. Love-making is supposed to flow and this song is pure liquid. He's even nice enough to make breakfast the next morning.
"Easter"- Janelle Monae
It's all about pace with this one. If at any time one of you are waning, the recurring "faster and faster" should fix it. Janelle delivers it in a light manner, so as not to push you too hard.
"End Transmission" - AFI
Though it would be fun, a rapturous, late - right car ride like this song depicts isn't recommended. It has a bit of Billy Idol flavor in it to accent the dark yet benevolent theme. The first line hits you with "Pull the top down, use your knees to drive." The ride just goes from there.
"Peacock"-Katy Perry
Katy Perry is not talking about the bird. The inmuendoes are not subtle at all and Katy Perry doesn't waste any time trying to get what she wants: "Are you brave enough to let me see your peacock?" Do you really want to let her down?
Edited by Clark Goble