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Thursday, April 26, 1979
University Daily Kansan
Rape...
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said. "It frightens me when I meet some body like that that I don't know."
"I felt like it was partly my fault, but you can't cut yourself off from everybody just to make yourself feel better."
Although estimates differ on the percentage of rapes that are reported to the police, most researchers and law enforcement authorities agree that women attackers in a social context before the assault are often reluctant to re to the police.
Sut. jeanne Longaker, KU police officer,
estimated that only 5 percent of the rapes
that occur in the Lawrence area were
reported.
"THEY DON'T report them, either for fear of retaliation or just plain embarrassment," she said. "They're just not willing to become that much involved."
The KU police handle all raped reports on campus. The Lawrence Police Department has jurisdiction over rape cases that take place within the city limits, and the sheriff's office handles cases that take place in the county.
Longaker said that two raps and four attempted raps had been reported on by police.
She said she based her low estimate of reported rapes on the number of anonymous phone calls she received and rumors she heard. She also is involved in education programs on self defense and crime prevention.
"I never plays," Longaker said. "There is
a girl there who says she was raped
almost every time I play."
The women least likely to report their assaults, Longauer said, are those who were killed in the attack.
"They're afraid of things getting out that make it look as if they brought it on themselves," she said. "It's totally unfair that you cannot go out to a social place and make an acquaintance and do things with that person." "You're going to come home the same way you left."
"SOME DEVELOP a real fear of dating." Another barrier to reporting raped and attempted rapes, Longaker said, is a victim's desire to protect her family.
"Some of them say, 'Mom would never get over it.'" she said.
Ron Lim, criminologist for the Lawrence police, agreed that of those women who do report assaults, the majority who had been arrested did not want to pursue the case in court.
Olin said that 23 raps were reported to the Lawrence police during 1970. He said that they had been on patrol.
That percentage does not reflect the Dec. 22 arrest of Charles Hunter, a 16-year-old Lawrence youth who recently was convicted of six sexual assaults during that month.
Longaker said that most of the women who had been through a rape asked her how she had reacted.
SHE SAID, "They want to know how they can continue to have a social life and not be afraid of what the consequences will be at the end of the evening.
"I guess you just take your chances."
According to one writer, a woman is raped in the United States every 14 minutes. Susan said the solution to the problem must come through education for men.
"They're the ones that have got to stop it," she said. "I 'happens all the time'—just happens."
Susan said some of her friends regarded her experience as another reason to hate men. One of those friends had bought a gun and learned to aboot. Susan has considered
"I don't hate men," she said. "I never have, I consider him (the attacker) a wild animal. That's what he was during the rape. I don't consider him another human being."
Hate may not be the word but perhaps awareness is.
"Any man can do that," Susan said.
"Every man has the ability to do that."
SHE RECTED from a poem starkly titled "Rape Poem," by Marce Piercv:
"There is no difference between being raped and being pushed down a flight of cement steps except that the wounds also bleed inside.
"There is no difference between being raped and going head first through a windshield except that afterward you are afraid not of cars—but of half the human race."
Susan's attitudes toward her experience, and her determination to let people know what happened to her and to others, are "Fighting Back." a 1798 book by Janet Hole.
In the book, a rape victim concludes her story by saying, "A body that has been raped is usually a gradual process. It has been five years since the assault. The details have blurred. No longer do they invade my daily thoughts. Yet, in quiet times, I know the most bitter truth."
"It can happen again."
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Theories on breaking up differ
This is the last in a series of three stories about dating relationships of college students. Today's story deals with learning to cope with breaking up.
By LESLIE GUILI Staff Renorter
By LESLIE GUILD
Whether it's "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do" or just "Now We've Got to Say Goodbye For The Summer" that you're hearing, the answer is a permanent end of a relationship is difficult.
Breaking up a relationship that has been important to an individual is one of the most influential decisions a couple can make. Coleman and Betty Edwards say in their book, "Brief Encounters," which is an analysis of heterosexual relationships. It is a time of decision-making that must be made with caution.
Some relationships end without a discussion of what went wrong or why. Other couples talk about the end of their relationships and how they will cope with the future. Experts have varying opinions on which is best.
"THE ONLY WAY to be able to accept the end of an important relationship is to discuss what has happened," Coleman said. "He gave me a part of your experience and it is very difficult."
"Students aren't usually that formal about breaking up," Wright said. "One person makes the decision and informs the other, leaving that person behind."
But Erik Wright, professor of psychology at KU, said students sometimes couldn't
Al Green, a psychiatrist with the Menninger Foundation in Topeka, said discussion at the breaking up point of the relationship was unrealistic.
"At that point a lot of anger is occurring."
he said. "So a discussion really wouldn't be very representative of the true nature of the world."
HE SAID, RATHER that the only representative discussions were those that Mr. Gates had made.
"It is best to modify the relationship at points along the way," he said. "This should be done by talking about problems when they occur."
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"Discussions about goals and problems that confront each partner must take place at each practice along the way." she said. "If you fail, the time of breaking up. It would be important,
Kathleen Draskovich, Lawrence senior,
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so that no hard feelings linger. That's why a discussion must come."
Amy Mortensen, Overland Park senior,
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"Neither individual can really see the other's point of view, because they feel so much pain over the end of the relationship," she said. "So such discussions usually don't happen." However, they can have some relevance, in getting both partners to talk to each other."
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"Some students ask why they ever got involved," he said. "Others just deny that the break up is occurring. They experience depression and they are just plain loneless."
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"ABOUT 99 PERCENT of broken relationships are painful," he said. "The key is a quick, mature approach to getting your life going again."
"For people who have lived together, property has to be divided up," she said. "The physical moving out makes the situation a lot more traumatic."
But she said the couple still had to deal with the emotional side of breaking up.
WRIGHT SAID, however, that students have to go for them in a broken relationship.
"Change isn't something that is easy to adapt to," she said. "So to comfort myself when change is taking place in my life, I don't really engage in some other or new activity. I just rely on my other friends and I draw from their stability."
"The simple fact that they are students and in an environment with so many people makes it difficult to learn."
Mortensen said she thought it was important not to live in the past.
But Coleman said that being a student on the rebound could be good and bad.
Drakskovic said she thought breaking up was difficult because so many decisions had to be made.
"You must train yourself not to think about things you did with your past mate or songs that were "your songs," she said. "Once you get over such things you can go on and have good memories and feelings about the break up."
Mark Lanki, Lincoln, Neb. sophomore, said he thought it was important to end the season.
"If both partners can be open and
"You are in an environment where a lot of people your own age with similar interests are," she said. "But there's no way to tell who is available. And if the school is large, that can also be a negative aspect. It can be loneliest in a crowd."
straightforward about what happened, I think you can remain friends," he said. "You have to sit back and think things out."
But, he said he thought it was important not to dwell on things too long.
"YOU HAVE TO funnel your energies somewhere else," he said. "For me that something else is sports. I get involved and play basketball, the pieces and begin looking for sorrowese pieces."
Coleman said the real problem in breaking up was rejection.
"At this time a person is feeling unacceptable," she said. "It's important to build up your self-esteem. So what ever helps to do that, be it another relationship, close friends or just laying low for a while, is what will help."
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