HOW COME WHEN I ASK A GIRL OUT AND SHE SAYS "YES," SHE CALLS ME LATER WITH A LAME EXCUSE OR TELLS ME SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND? DANE, SOPHOMORE
Jessica: I find this very offensive, Dane. I've had a multitude of complaints from close friends about girls doing this, and, even worse, girls who go on dates and have full-fledged relationships and fall to mention they're engaged. I think it comes down to dissatisfaction and/or uncertainty with the current relationship. When some people aren't having their needs met or aren't sure they're with the right person, they look elsewhere. I also think many people like to know they still "have it" or that they're making the "right" decision with their relationship/engagement. Whatever the case may be, I say wait for a girl to ask you out or get to know a girl before asking her out.
Brian: I'm sorry to tell you this, Dane, but it's because girls are heartless. It's that simple. That's why men become deeply involved in the great relationships they find; they know those outstanding girls are few and far between. The best way to shield yourself from these situations is to not jump right in. Giving your phone number to a girl is cliche. Get her phone number. Then the ball's in your court. Don't call her, but send her a text just telling her when and where she should meet you. If you find her there, pursue her. If not, continue sending her vicious text messages so you can rack up tons of charges to her cell phone.
I WANT TO HAVE SEX IN THE LIBRARY, BUT MY GIRLFRIEND IS REALLY LOUD, AND I DON'T THINK I COULD FINISH BEFORE WEWOULD GET CAUGHT. WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU GET CAUGHT ANYWAY? IS THAT CONSIDERED ACADEMIC MISCONDUCT? ANY SUGGESTIONS?
DWAYNE, FRESHMAN
Brian: Try browsing the back stacks of Watson. I've been there before (for a book, I swain) and there's rarely a soul in the area. Screamy McSreamerson could scream her lungs out and nary a person would hear. If not, I recommend bringing something to keep over or in her mouth; think socks, t-shirt, fist or just grab a book off the shelf and shove it in her mouth. If you're worried about getting caught, don't bring identification and as soon as you see someone else, run for the hills. Just don't forget to leave the library stuffed in your girl's mouth; it's evidence.
Jessica: I think you speak for all of us, so why don't you serve as the guinea pig on this one? I doubt you'll get caught if you find some stacks on the top floors (preferably one where Brian isn't) and give (don't shove) your girlfriend something to bite on so that she doesn't scream too loudly, perhaps your shoulder or fingers (not socks, a t-shirt, fist or a book). Academic misconduct? Hardly! If you should get hurt, just explain that sex makes your brain function more efficiently. Good luck. Let us know how it works out!
IS IT ALL RIGHT TO HAVE THREE BOYFRIENDS AT A TIME?
— LESLIE, JUNIOR
**Brian:** If I were dating someone and found out she had two other boyfriends, I'd be furious if you're gonna have all those boyfriends, keep them up to date on what's going on so they don't feel neglected. But if you really want to make things interesting just create a dating show like *Flavor of love* on VH1. Give the guys nicknames and wear something on your
neck that says a lot about you. For your suggest either a huge condom or just a sign that says, I have STDs. Then at least everyone will know what or whom) they are getting into.
Jessica: It's not alright.
However it's ok to be
casually dating more than
one person, as long as it
absolutely clear you re
seeing other people. But
sepiously, I gotta know how
this works. How do you keep
them all straight? How do
you keep them from finding
out about each other? Does
this mean you get three
times as much of everything
Kisses, luvn, wooing??
Who's your favorite? How do
you manage date nights? I'm
taking hotel.
OUT
J: You're touring now to promote your new album, Dying to Say This to You. What are you dying to say?
N:That title actually comes from lyrics from the song "Ego." We'd been on the road touring for two and a half years and were just dying to write songs for the fans.
he Sounds like Lawrence so much they're coming back for a second visit, "I think it's something in the water," drummer Fredrik Nilsson says. From Helsingborg, Sweden,
J: The band is known for putting on an energetic show. In past interviews, you've mentioned that you prefer performing live to the studio. Does that still hold true?
N: Definitely. You get an immediate response from an audience if you play live. Everything is in real time. You don't just play the drums, and then a couple hours later someone comes in and plays the guitar. Everyone in the band is in one spot. It's the full package.
J: Does Sweden have baseball?
N: No. We have something like T-ball we play in school, but as far as I know, we don't have any leagues.
the pop-punk band returns this Wednesday to promote their second album, *Dying to Say This to You*, after previous stints touring with Foo Fighters and The Strokes. While talking to Nilsson, I dreamily imagined him as a tall, lanky blonde Swede sitting on sleek likea furniture spooning meatballs drizzled in lingonberry sauce into his mouth between sentences. Well, he's tall and lanky, but I learn that this Swede is a brunette and his Scandinavian food of choice is licorice — the saltier the better. Nilsson taught me a thing or two about the Swedes, while I enlightened him on American 4/20 culture.
J: Does Sweden have baseball?
Jayplay: So Fredrik, where are you now? Nilsson: Right now, we're in Boston. Our venue is across from Fenway Park. I think a game is starting soon; there's a lot of commotion.
J: What do you think Americans could learn from Swedes?
N:Well, we don't have as many homicides or murders as in America. It's much harder to get weapons in Sweden. There are a lot of tall blonde people, too, but we're not all blonde. People are pretty environmentally-conscious. So yeah, there's definitely some truth to that.
J: To me, Sweden seems like a utopia with its lack of crime, statuesque blondes, and environmentally-conscious society. Is there any truth to that?
N: I don't know that they should learn anything.
We have a way of thinking that is very un-American. In America, you're supposed to have it all. Nothing is impossible. Everyone has the potential to be the president. In Sweden, we
think of each other as being all the same. If you want to be on top, you can't think like a Swede anymore. Somewhere between those two ways of thinking would be best. A lot of Americans don't have passports, so they don't necessarily know about the rest of the world. When you take a vacation, you go to California or Florida and stay within your borders. Most Americans can only compare America with America, and I think it's useful to travel and experience different cultures.
J: Do you bring anything from home on tour with you?
N:We always bring this one candy — it's a black salty licorice. It's not at all like your red licorice.I brought about a pound of it with us,but it only lasted a few weeks.
J: Are there any American products that you lug back?
N: I always try to bring some Airborne with us to bring back home. It's that stuff that helps with the immune system. It really helps. I travel with so much stuff, so I don't really bother buying much. We're in America a lot anyway, so it's never too long before we're back. I do wish we had Gatorade. If all those sporty guys and gals are drinking it, it has to be good for something.
J:This interview is going to be printed next Thursday, which is 4/20. Is it celebrated in Sweden?
N: I've heard about that, but I don't know anything about it. We don't have that in Sweden.
What is it exactly?
J;it's basically a holiday for marijuana smokers.
N: Oh, really? Anything to do with drugs is frowned upon in Sweden. It's a big no-no.
The Sounds play with Morningwood and Action Action at the Granada, 1020 Massachusetts St., on Wednesday, April 26, at 8 p.m. Tickets cost $12.50 to $14 and are available at www.ticketmaster.com or at the Granada box office.
Charissa Young
04.20.2006 JAYPLAY
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