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WHY DO THE WHITE GIRLS AT THIS SCHOOL ALL TRY TO EXPERIMENT WITH THE BLACK GUY? THEY ACT LIKE THEY'VE NEVER SEEN US BEFORE, BUT HEY, I'M NOT COMPLAINING. JAMAL, SOPHOMORE
Brian: I like to think I'm not a guy who gets jealous, but — Jamal, I envy your situation. Maybe the white girls haven't been around many black men, so it's a by product of their curiosity. Maybe you're extremely attractive to white women. Whatever the reason, take advantage of the situation. Odds are you won't have girls throwing themselves at you the rest of your life. But have some standards and reasoning for engaging with her (commenting favorably on your jeans/shoes does not constitute a good reason). Just remember to use protection. You never know what diseases sluts are carrying.
Jessica: I'm guessing these girls are using you for a few reasons:
1) earnest curiosity,
2) to falsify or verify a myth, and 3) for the sake of the story,"I did a black guy once and it was "insert words of utter profundity here"." But really, I strongly suggest you buck up and get some self-respect. No one should ever be someone else's play toy. I'm sure there are plenty of black men who would never have sex with a woman for experimental purposes. Even if you enjoy that kind of thing like you claim, I'd think twice about what you're getting yourself in to; you're bound to lose a lot of respect by volunteering yourself to be used.
WHAT IS THE TRICK TO FINDING SOMEONE GENUINELY INTERESTED IN A RELATIONSHIP IN A COLLEGE TOWN? KEVIN, JUNIOR
Brian: There is only one way to find a relationship in a college town; post a flyer in every classroom on campus that gives every girl your phone number and a picture of you. Then any girl who likes you will call you up. Just be sure you make a note on the flyer that you are looking only for serious candidates for a relationship. If you are too proud for that, consider doing what everybody else does to meet girls: TALK TO THEM. If you aren't sure about a girl, just ask her if she likes you, if you ask and get shot down, you're in the same position as before; if she says she likes you, then you've found a candidate.
Jessica: The trick is finding another person that feels the same way you do. Think about how you'd like to meet someone. Where are you most comfortable? What do you like to do? Let's say you like coffee. Try studying or hanging out at a coffee shop. Maybe you're into the local music scene. Check out shows playing at the Granada. If you're a movie buff, check out what Liberty Hall or South Wind has to offer. Get involved on campus or join a youth group. Surround yourself with people with similar attitudes and interests. You'll be most likely to find these like-minded people in environments that make you comfortable, which will help you open up to meeting others who are also wanting a relationship. I would advise you to stray from the bar scene because typically, that's where people tend to want to have fun, not seek out relationships. Good luck, Kevin!
I HAVE A LESBIAN FRIEND WHO HAS A LONG-DISTANCE GIRLFRIEND THE PROBLEM IS MY FRIEND INVADES MY PERSONAL SPACE AND BASICALLY PUTS HER HANDS ALL OVER ME. HOW DO I TELL HER THAT THIS MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE? — HANNA JUNIOR
Jessica: Clearly, this girl is overstepping her boundaries and although you may not want to admit because she's a girl and you're a girl, she's sexually harassing you by giving you unwanted contact. How would you feel if it was some guy, fondling you? Creeped out in order for this to stop, you must be direct about it. If you're planning on salvaging the friendship tell her up front that you don't like her that way but that you
Brian: The only thing wrong here is that you aren't a lesbian. Imagine how much easier it would be if you just were a bisexual so your friend could put her hands all over you whenever she wanted to imagine how nice it would be
actually that's what every guy started thinking about when you and she loves to touch you if you're really have a problem with it. I tell her to stop it, if she doesn't stop, consider either telling her girlfriend or getting a boyfriend to protect you. Then you won't have to worry about her touching you with her fingers dripping in sweat softly touching your skin.
14 JAYPLAY 03.16.2006