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Thursday, February 25, 1988 / University Daily Kansan
Students should enjoy sex without fear but also know the dangers, experts say
Bv lames Buckman
Kansan staff writer
Preoccupation with teaching the problems sex can cause leaves students unprepared to fully enjoy sex now and after graduation, a KU expert on sex said yesterday.
But another sex expert warned that the risks that accompanied sex, such as venectual disease and unplanned pregnancy, were too important to ignore.
The two experts, Dennis Dailey, professor of social welfare and sex therapist, and Henry Buck, gynecologist at Watkins Hospital, spoke to about 75 administrators yesterday in the Kansas Union. The session was part of the division of student affairs' Wednesday Wellness series.
Dailey said that although education on sexual problems was essential, it shouldn't be the only focus.
"If we spend all the time talking about the pain instead of the essential pleasures of sex, it will be difficult to talk into a bigger context." Dalley said.
The bigger context, he said, was that students should learn to appreciate the pleasures of sex and not let the problems it could cause stand in
He said he told his students, "The next time you elect to express your sexually, and that is your choice. I want it to be really, really good.
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Students often are surprised to hear him say that, he said, because most often the message they receive is, "Don't do it."
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Employees at the University of Kansas should not preach to students, but they should be prepared discuss sexuality with them, he said.
"We need to do something about reducing the pain and increasing the pain."
Buck, who spoke after Dailey, said his occupation often made it difficult not to be jaded about the problems associated with sex.
But he said those problems were
too important to ignore.
"Sex can become sort of like walking on thin ice," he said. "Education is extremely important. I think these things are to know what's out there lurking."
"Maybe that's an unpleasant side of sexuality, but that is part of it."
Buck said educating students about the serious side of sex should be more than telling them to use condoms and not present sexually transmitted diseases.
“Is this message being heard as a quick fix? It doesn't really get to the basis of the problem of sexuality and how it can occur in sexual exposure,” he said.
“Are we perhaps not emphasizing enough basic behavior alterations, like responsibility to oneself and responsibility to others?”
Bill would extend child support collection time
The Associated Press
TOPEKA — A Hutchinson lawyer urged the House Judiciary Committee yesterday to endorse a bill that would extend by two years the period during which unpaid child support could be sought.
Thomas D. Arnhold, the lawyer, who said he handled an extensive amount of family litigation, said the bill would save the state money by providing more time to track down
absent parents to make them pay the child support they owe.
The bill, introduced by State Rep. Donna Whitman, D-Hutchinson, would extend the life of judgment in child support cases from five to seven years. Lawyers now can revive claims for lost wages after five years have elapsed by filing motions. But Arnhold said it was a difficult procedure.
"Once the child support payment is over seven years old, then it can no
longer be revived unless it has been revived by a garnishment, an execution or a motion to revive." Arnhold said.
Arnhold said the difficulty in getting a motion to revive was locating the absent parent.
"If the absent parent has no job or no bank account, then I cannot keep the judgment alive," he said.
If the absent parent cannot be found within the state for a seven-year period, he said, it is difficult to
secure child support payment.
The child support is lost forever if an absent parent can avoid paying child support for seven years.
"It simply is not fair to the parent who raises the child and also to he child itself that his absent parent, by birth, get out of paying child support."
Arnold said he would like to see the period of time unpaid child support payments could be pursued extended to 15 or 20 years.
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