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--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
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--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
So, what's with all the signs on campus about finding Jesus? Is there a scavenger hunt going on?
I took something out of your apartment this morning, not because I want to keep you near me, but it's because I am getting payment for all of the time I have wasted with you.
To the kid in front of me in Geography: get off the Taco Bell website, those gorditas look amazing.
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
Do you like staring at them too?
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
It's a miracle.
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
I get anxiety from magnets and can't even touch them.
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I just packed my 3-layer pb&jamwich in my shark lunchbox. Today, I am a man
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
I'm proud to say 100%, never had a job in my life which means I'm living the good life.
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
I got the notion to drink tea while urinating. When I put the thermos back under my arm it fell into the urinal. Two guys saw it happen.
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
Just so everybody knows, I'm in love with a stripper.
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
Slassy: slutty with just enough class
Foam Finger + Coozie =
FOOZIE!
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
I may only be young once,but I can be immature forever.
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
No way, I'm gonna be on that T-Bell website every time I come to class from now on, just because this class goes longer than noon!
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
Oh my God, look at the double rainbow!
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
I'm all for loving Jesus ... but don't show it in my face while I'm trying to walk to class!
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
I miss yo face.
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
I take my adderall when I'm too lazy to cook for myself ...
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
That's what I call a sack lunch, num num num ...
--time. I was 14, and fully convinced I needed to hear that reassurance for my confidence to boost. We started dating immediately after he began to show interest. Looking back, our relationship was dysfunctional from day one. I used to think it was dysfunctional because he was controlling, negative and degrading towards me. But now I blame my insecurity as the central source to our problems.
RELATIONSHIPS
When it comes to chivalry Chapelle's words ring true
In response to my columns about chivalry last semester, one of my friends sent me a video of Dave Chappelle's intriguing answer to the question of controversy: What happened to chivalry?
Chappelle explains:
As much as I hate to admit it, Chappelle is right. As someone who has写了 columns blaming technology and disrespectful men for the rare existence of chivalry in today's society, I took Chappelle's standup into serious thought.
Unfortunately we live in a society in which, according to The National Eating Disorders Association, 80 percent of women are dissatisfied with their appearance. The truth is that we can't expect men to respect us unless we respect ourselves first.
For a majority of my life, I was a part of that 80 percent. I grew up with a wider figure, light skin, an abundance of freckles and bright red hair. As far as I could see, my appearance was pretty much the opposite of what the media dubbed as male's "ideal woman": skinny tan blondes.
I'll never forget the overwhelming relief I felt when I heard a boy tell me I was beautiful for the first
Texts in the City
BY MANDY MATNEY
mmatney@kansan.com
It seems to be a reoccurring theme in dysfunctional relationships. My happiness was completely dependent upon his affection. I needed to hear I was beautiful from him to think I was. And what was sad was that I actually thought that meant we were in love.
Until I analyzed my own dating patterns over the past 6 years, I never realized that self-confidence is crucial for respectful relationships. I used to hopelessly search for a boyfriend in hopes of fulfilling my happiness. I used to blame my inability to find true love on about the lack of gentlemen in college. While in reality, I know my lack of confidence heavily interfered with my dating struggles.
It took a lot of time being single for me to find out what I wanted out of a relationship. The more time that passed that I actually enjoyed my life as a single, the more my expectations grew for my own Mr. Right, and I refused to settle for anything less.
I wrote a few columns about my high expectations, urging girls across campus to do the same. A couple times I was told that my expectations were too high and I would never find the man of "modern day chivalry" I wrote about because apparently they don't exist.
I didn't care though. I'd rather be alone with high expectations than stuck settling in an unsatisfying relationship.
My waiting turned out to be worth it. Recently, I met someone who meets my high expectations. He actions have proved to me that "modern day chivalry" does exist. He consistently treats me with the level of respect I have come to know that I deserve. He boosts my confidence, but definitely isn't the central source of it.
Now, more than ever, I realize that true happiness within relationships starts with self-confidence. If women want men to work for their affection like they did in the old days, we have to work at respecting ourselves first.
Matney is a junior from Shawnee in journalism.
CARTOON
NICK SAMBALUN
CULTURE
Phrase distasteful and offensive
"Dude, I love you guys. No homo."
As I was walking across campus (University of Nebraska-Omaha) the other day, I couldn't help but overhear a conversation between a few guys. They were talking, laughing and discussing how excited they were to have an upcoming class together. Then I heard the aforementioned phrase.
Maybe I'm not as informed as everyone else, but that was the first time I'd ever heard someone declare "no homo" after a statement. So I did the natural thing and Googled it.
Seriously?
Apparently it stems from the early '90s rap scene, where it entered the hip-hop lexicon thanks to rappers like Camron. It became more mainstream in songs with the help of Lil' Wayne.
Nowadays, it's commonly uttered by people (usually men) all over the place, including some men on this very campus. As soon as I took note of the phrase, I began hearing it in more and more places. My own brother admitted it's a common statement in his high school. When I asked him why that was, he responded, "It's just something everyone says"
something that may have given a homosexual impression? Assuming the person you're talking with knows you well and is your friend, why would they need clarification that something you just said was not meant in a homosexual context?
I just don't get it. A YouTuber I ran across in my online research by the name of Tessa Violet makes a very good point. It's not like when I'm rubbing my dog's belly I say, "Boo, you're just the cutest little thing. No bestiality." Isn't that something that is just implied?
I have only one question then. Why?
Why is it necessary for a guy to say, "No homo!" after he says
Maybe there's some macho, testosterone-fueled aspect at play here. Perhaps some guys are afraid that declaring something that could be misconstrued as homosexual somehow diminishes their manliness. Cue the "No homo."
And I would just like to digress for a moment and point out here that a gay male is still a man. It's not like he magically transforms into a woman or anything. I know homosexual men that are superior athletes, eat mountains of food, watch SportsCenter and do whatever else falls under the definition of being a "manly" man
Whether it's insecurity or just a derogatory pop-culture phrase that's being mindlessly tacked onto a sentence, I just don't like "No homo". It baffles me.
Telling someone you're familiar with that you love him or her shouldn't need clarification. Based on your already acknowledged relationship, it should be obvious what kind of love you're exclaiming. Plus, you don't see gay couples walking around telling their significant other "I love you. No hetero." That just sounds stupid, because their relationship is obviously not of that nature and it needs no clarification.
So, next time you find yourself about to utter "No homo!" just think about why you're saying it. What exactly are you afraid will happen if you don't? Will your reputation be corrupted forever if you don't add those two little words? Will you "defend your manliness" and let your homophobia and insecurities get in the way? If you decide to say "No homo," just remember this article. If it doesn't make any sense in the context of your conversation, then don't waste your breath.
In addition, "No homo" is terribly offensive. It has a homophobic ring to it, almost like it is derived from a fear of being associated with homosexuals.
Simple as that.
— Kristen Beal for The Gateway at The University of Nebraska at Omaha
HEALTH
Many alternatives exist to chemically-altered dairy milk
For those of us who grew up in America we have been taught from an early age that we need dairy products in order to be healthy. The "Got Milk?" campaign is famous for having celebrities model a milk mustache, with a catchy slogan asserting that milk is essential to be healthy.
Claiming that rbST (which is in all milk unless it specifically states otherwise) is safe based on these facts alone, however, is misguided. According to an article published last year in the Ice Cream Reporter, a industry publication, rbST is banned in Canada, Europe, Australia, and New Zealand, and is also opposed by groups including Breast Cancer Action, American Nurses Association, Ben & Jerry's and Walmart, to name a few.
One of the most troubling controversies (that is heavily disputed) is whether or not it is safe to use rbST (recombinant bovine somatotropin), which according to an article published in Hoover Digest, a magazine published at Stanford University, is a protein that increases the amount of milk each cow produces by nearly a gallon a day. The author, Henry I. Miller, asserts that over 120 studies have been conducted stating that the hormone is indeed safe.
In the past several years, however, milk has become the target of several controversies, causing many health-conscious consumers to turn toward organic dairy or dairy alternatives like almond milk, soy milk, rice milk, or hemp milk, (all of which are excellent substitutions and can be found at any grocery store nowadays).
Is it logical to think that America is right while four countries and numerous organizations are wrong? Is it worth it to risk your health just to have a cheaper glass of milk?
If you have your doubts regarding the safety of rbST why not avoid the controversy
The Conscientious Consumer
BY SARAH GROSS
sgross@kansan.com
all together and opt for dairy substitutions, which are actually much healthier. The nutrients found in cow's milk can be easily replaced with non-dairy substitutes. (Not surprising as 75% of the world is lactose intolerant, and if it were indeed true that we needed cow's milk to be healthy that would mean that 75% of the world would simply be out of luck).
Silk's almond milk is my favorite substitute, because it tastes delicious while providing essential nutrients such as calcium, vitamin E, and vitamin D. Silk's original flavored almond milk has only 60 calories per glass and has no cholesterol, saturated fat, or pus (yes, pus is in the typical glass of cow's milk), and has 7 grams of sugar, opposed to $1\%$ cow's milk's 13 grams.
Another big bonus for students is that almond milk has a much longer shelf life, lasting for a month or longer, opposed to about a week for cow's milk.
Other good dairy substitutes include Almond Dream Ice cream, Daiya Cheese (which tastes great melted), tofu汁 sour supreme, and Smart Balance Lite butter substitute.
Rather than jumping on America's "Got Milk?" bandwagon, with celebrities modeling their creamy white milk mustaches, try buying a non-dairy alternative. If you just can't do without traditional cow's milk, buy organic milk that states it is rbST-free.
Gross is a sophomore from Lindsborg in journalism and international studies.
Responses to the news of the week on Kansan.com
Chatterbox
"Mr. Katz, did you by chance look up the number of gun deaths that result from suicide? You'll be surprised to find out that the majority of US gun deaths are suicides. Does having a gun make someone more likely to make that decision?"
How about the annual number of gun deaths that are acts of self defense?
How about the number of murders in Britain rather than the number of murders by gun? I understand that this is an opinion piece, but you clearly have no interest in being objective and are more interested in supporting your opinion with statistics than letting the statistics shape it."
— "connerm" in response to "Restrictions could cut gun violence" on August 27.
"The Freshmen enrolling class for the Fall of 2008 was the highest ever in KU's history. Part of the reason for this was KU Athletics Orange Bowl in football and NCAA National Championship in basketball. So, before you start criticizing Athletics, realize the high publicity of the department can be a plus as well."
— "Savage" in response to "Athletics continues to impact KU's reputation" on August 30.
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