with Niloofar Shahmohammadi
I MET THIS GUY TWO WEEKS AGO AND WE HUNG OUT EVERY DAY FOR A
WEEK. THIS WEEK, WE ONLY HUNG OUT THREE TIMES, BUT I'M CERTAIN
IT'S BECAUSE HE HAD A LOT OF HOMEWORK. WE TALKEDAbout DOING
SOMETHING THIS PAST WEEKEND, BUT HE NEVER CALLED. I CALLED HIM AND
HE APOLOLOGIZED AND THEN WE MADE TENTATIVE PLANS — BUT THEN
BROKE THESE PLANS. WHAT'S GOING ON? I'M FREAKING OUT. HE TOLD ME
HE LIKES ME, SO WHY IS HE ACTING THIS WAY?
ELIZABETH. SOPHOMORE
Eizabeth you need to pull over 'cause you're doing 80 in a 25. You've known the guy for two nearly weeks and you don't mind day with him? Put on the brakes.
Instead of agreeing to see him every time he calls you, force him to set dates with you. That way you're not waiting by the phone wondering if you have plans tonight or not. Train him to book you in advance. He'll place a greater value on you and you will also rest easier. And also, if you hear him call you when he needs to break them, as opposed to just leaving you hanging because your plans were tentative anyway.
OK, so now that you've slowed down, the next thing you need to do is stick your butt in a bucket of ice water because you're right, you are freaking out. There's no need — you only had trouble getting together
with him for two days. That's another reason why hanging out too much too soon is a bad idea it really screws up your perception of timing. Who knows what could have been going on for him this weekend?
Relax. He'll call
But by if Monday or Tuesday you haven't heard from him, then you can start to let go of the loser. If he does call, which he probably will say, "Oh, don't worry about this weekend. It's no big deal." Hell probably want to hang out that same night, that's when you say 'Sorry!' actually have a ton of room for it. It's a really busy week, but either Sunday or Thursday would be good.' Then he picks a day. Then you pick a time. And then you have a date.
Keep it nice and slow from now on
and you'll have more time to figure
out if you want to be dating this guy
at all. Good luck.
I REALLY HOT FOR MY BIOLOGY PROFESSOR, AND HE'S INTO ME TOO. HASN'T I DONE ANYTHING about IT, BUT I HAVING TROUBLE CONCENTRATING IN CLASS. DAYDREAM ABOUT HIM ALL THE TIME. I'VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT GOING TO OFFICE HOURS AND ASKING HOW I OUT. I KNOW IT'S A LITTLE TABLE, BUT WE're BOTH LEGAL ADULTS SO IT'S NOT A BIG DEAL, RIGHT?
Yea, you really both adults, so use your adult brain and think about the consequences. KU has clearly laid out the policy on relationships of students and online at www.kueu.ku/policies/procedures/orient.Consent.Relation.pdf.
LISA, FRESHMAN
Basically, don't start anything,and if you do,the University community
wont support you. You could also be screwing your grades (no pun intended) and doing a lot more damage to a lot more people than you realize. If this is true love, it can wait until the end of the semester.
Please send your questions and concerns to bitch@kansan.com
03. 15.2007 JAYPLAY <09