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YOUR FIRST NAME
YOUR YEAR IN SCHOOL (circle one)
freshman sophomore junior senior
YOUR QUESTION/TOPIC SUGGESTION
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"whatever happened with you"
while learning to cook "thing".
One month ago my computer whist curis at MIT, who hadn't so much as peeled an apple before, suddenly became my cousin the amazing cook. When I asked him about the sudden turnaround, he replied. Well I just decided I would to know what I was learning from the curious knowing I can make things for myself. And it's just so easy top.
I had an epiphany. The reason I hadn't been cooking was because in my head, I had decided it was something hard so bad. I told myself I needed to learn all the cooking "theory" before I could actually start. As a result I never did make much of anything but to stock up my pantry with the recipes myself from making any progress. Cooking was far from enjoyable and that was true of my finished product as well.
"Just do it!" my friend told me when I first bought Cooking for Dummies. I told him he didn't understand. I told him I didn't know anything about cooking and I couldn't start until I knew all about the traditional uses of nutmeg and the difference between a serated knife and a paring knife. I didn't know at the
MY JOURNEY WITH COOKING HAS PARALLELED MY JOURNEY WITH RELATIONSHIPS. I HAVE SPENT COUNTLESS HOURS AND COUNTLESS DOLLARS over THE PAST THREE YEARS READING RELATIONSHIP SELF-HELP BOOKS.
— NUOIFAR SHAHMOHAMmadI
time that he knew what he was talking about.
in the past two weeks II've made four dishes and more importantly, I've had fun with them. I no longer worry about what matters to me are personal and I've even dated to substitute things in the recipe.
My journey with cooking has paralleled my journey with relationships. I have spent countless hours and countless dollars over the past three years reading relationship self help books, Why Men Love Bites, The Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know, The Rule Roles, The Women Men Adore, and many others written by counsellors who analysed my own relationships and my friends' relationships to death. And you know what? I haven't had fun in a relationship in a long time.
More importantly, my relationships haven't been going anywhere that they have that long so they spent to perfect
my knowledge of *theory* (how to be the perfect girl, how to communicate, how to react in every possible situation that might come up) that I became fearful I feared making one wrong move and blowing everything I feared reacting wrongly one time and losing a relationship I convinced myself that I first had to become the perfect girl before I could have that perfect relationship.
A few years too late perhaps,
I've realized that I don't have to be perfect. That sometimes I'll say the wrong thing. Sometimes I'll overreact. But at least something will be happening. And at least I will be reacting from my heart, not from what I read in a book.
The more thing is once let go of trying to be perfect, I stopped analyzing everything and started acting from my heart. So I'm on my way to becoming that altar I am about to build. And it will be. And yes, maybe I will screw up, but the nice thing is that I can always start over and try again.