IS BIGGER BETTER?
Is There Anything Special About a LARGER Penis or Breasts?
By Brant Stacy, Jayplay writer
photo: Jeff Brandsted
The moment of truth has finally arrived. You've made out with your girlfriend for a half-hour and now you're ready to take the next step. As you fumble to unbutton her blouse you begin to feel her hands creep up your thigh. Suddenly, you both stop. You remember all those e-mails you got about enlarging your penis. You want to kick yourself for not trying them out. She, on the other hand, has just realized she is wearing a padded bra.
This scenario is becoming all too familiar as magazines, e-mails and commercials stress the importance of bigger breasts and penises. But, is bigger really better? Can men and women still have healthy relationships despite their penis and breast size?
The answer is yes, says Beverly Whipple, certified sex educator and sexologist at Rutgers University in Medford, N.J. She says no studies officially prove that a larger penis or breasts improve a relationship, but that honesty, communication and mutual respect matter most. "We need to focus
on people being themselves and disregard these images of beauty society has created," she says. Once couples realize these fundamentals, Whippe says, penis or breast size becomes less of an issue.
But it's hard for couples to look past size when they are constantly bombarded by media that imply size equals satisfaction. Dennis Detweiler, a Lawrence certified sex therapist, says it's tough for people to feel comfortable about their breast or penis size. He says it's sad when people alter
their size just because they are insecure. "People don't realize that the quality of a relationship is much more important than having a large dong or wearing a D-cup bra. Men with a micro-congenital penis, a penis that is smaller than an inch, can have just as gratifying of a relationship as those with a 10-inch penis," he says.
Detweiler says that if you are intent on
upgrading your size, you should do some research and discuss it with your partner. He says most men don't understand that only the external one-third of the vaginal canal contains sensory nerves required for stimulation and orgasm. Men don't need a giant penis to please a woman. He also says many women don't realize that all breasts have the same number of sensory neurons. Therefore, a woman with smaller breasts has a smaller surface area for neurons, which results in greater
sensitivity. If that woman should decide to enlarge her breasts, she can decrease sensitivity, while also putting herself at risk for implant leakage and nerve damage.
Whiple, who conducts neurological physical research, says enlargement procedures are always a concern. "Women who receive implants may find it difficult to conduct mammograms in later life, while men could experience decreased sensation in their penis," she says.
So will you really feel better with a big zucchini or pair of ripe watermelons? No, says Detweiler. He believes having a large penis or breasts is nothing more than a trend, and young people are the ones accepting this trend. He says until people mature, they won't realize size really doesn't matter. "In the end, intimacy, emotional connection and a strong bond will hold a relationship together," he says.
— Brant Stacy can be reached at bstacy@kansan.com.