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/ **SPORTS** / THURSDAY, DECEMBER 9, 2010 / THE UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN / KANSAN.COM
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KANSAS IN HEAT // > Tackle the sticky world of relationships.
0. What happened to casual dating? It's ridiculous for women to assume we're exclusive after one or two dates.
A. There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating more than one person at a time. In fact, it's not a bad idea. The more people you date, the more experienced you are. That experience can translate into more knowledge of romantic relationships, or give you a better idea of what you want in a relationship and suitor. Within the first couple months of dating someone it is reasonable to expect that the other person might be seeing other people. As long as you are honest about your intentions or your other relationships, I see nothing wrong with casual dating. For example, anyone who dates online knows that both of you are probably seeing other people online. But when a single person meets someone at the bar on Friday, and another person on Saturday, we call that person promiscuous.
The decision to become exclusive in a relationship is a major decision, and it should be. But until that point, you and your partner should realize what the situation is: a getting-to-know you period where you spend time together to see if you want a future with that person. If I can't go on a different date after I meet someone once, then I lose out on a lot of potential suitors and experiences.
You are at the age where casual dating until the point of exclusiveness should be the norm. It seems unreasonable to get angry at someone you just met for the fact that they are dating other people they just met. That is casual dating — something I see as being potentially healthy.
MIKE ANDERSON
CATCH OF THE WEEK // JOSH GALLENTINE
> Our weekly peek at a fish in the KU sea.
INTERESTS & HOBBIES: I love to run, but I love dancing more. The thing I love to do most is joke around with my friends. Making people laugh and have a good time is the best thing in the world! I also can't be without music. Adam Lambert is a huge idol because he is an openly gay musician. Lady Gaga is an idol because of her amazing music and support for gay rights. Plus, both of these artists' songs usually have amazing dance beats.
NOTICES FIRST IN A POTENTIAL
PARTNER: The things I notice in a guy are his smile, eyes and hair. A guy with well-kept hair shows they care about their appearance and hygiene. I look for someone who is happy, smart, outgoing and loves to have fun.
TURN-ONS: White teeth, good fashion, guys who are taller than 5'6", cuddling and blue eyes. To me, good fashion consists a lot with how clothes fit a guy. If you have a good body, you should showcase it with great-fitting clothes. I absolutely hate when guys wear
baggy clothes (especially saggy pants). I also love when a guy is assertive and makes the first move. It shows he has a lot of confidence and that is a big turn-on. A guy's mouth is probably the most important turn-on to me since I love smiling and seeing others smile.
WHY I'M A CATCH: I'm a very happy person. I thrive off of making people smile and laugh. When I walk into a room, I light it up with my bubbly personality.
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