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Q. Can you please explain why all women date jerks?
A. First of all, let's not say all women like jerks. Second, there are various levels of jerkiness. I can provide three reasons why this seems to be the case.
1. Socialization: It is considered normal for women to date jerks — it's almost expected. People have friends who date jerks and they think to themselves, "I'll try it," or "he'll be different."
2. A lot of women like the chase, and jerks can be the ultimate prize because they have a carefree attitude. Jerks, unlike nice guys, don't work very hard to get someone's affection. They're confident and let you chase them, rather than the other way around. That is very attractive to a lot of women.
3. Jerks often manage the tension between routine and spontaneity better than the average guy. And because they are jerks, whenever they do anything spontaneous or nice, it means so much more. Some women have lower esteem, or lower expectations, on what a romantic partner is supposed to do or say. These women often date jerks.
It's not that women don't like dating nice guys—they don't like dating weak guys, guys with no confidence, opinions, or ambition. All too often those guys get lumped into the "nice guy" category. You can still be nice and date beautiful, intelligent women — you just have to use spontaneity better, and express your strengths and confidence.
MIKE ANDERSON
HOW WE MET // KATHERINE DOKKO & PAUL SPECKIN
INTERESTS & HOBBIES: Singing in the shower or in my car (Disney music is my specialty), traveling, raging, shopping online, sushi, running, raging, my sorority, and my dog, Daisy.
CATCH OF THE WEEK // MEG RUGGIERI
TURN OFFS: The sense of humor of a piece of cardboard, Affliction t-shirts, pants with creatures such as whales or lobsters on them, rudeness, stage five clinger types and mouth-breathers.
> Our weekly peek at a fish in the KU sea.
NOTICES FIRST IN A POTENTIAL
PARTNER: Well that probably depends how many drinks I have had and what time of night it is ... Truthfully though, I would probably just say hair. I mean no hair gel, no receding hairline, no comb-over, no I-clearly-just-spent-60-minutes doing-my-hair-in-themirror. Just naturally good hair. Oh and also a nice smile.
TURN ONS: An appreciation for sarcasm, making me laugh, spontaneity, and a little chivalry here and there doesn't hurt.
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Dokko, Shawnee sophomore, was exiting the men's restroom in Oliver Hall, when she bumped into Paul Speckin, Overland Park sophomore. Speckin and his friend were heading to his dorm room. Confused on what room she was supposed to be meeting her friends at, Speckin asked Dokko if she would like to join him and his friend. "At first I was like, uh no. But then I thought, what the heck," Dokko says. The two watched a movie and talked for the majority of the night. "At first she shot me down, but then she decided to come along." Speckin says. "Ever since then we just started hanging out more and I eventually asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes."
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The couple has been going strong since last May and enjoy doing a variety of things together. "Eating Chipotle is definitely up there with stuff we enjoy doing," Speckin says. Dokko and Speckin also enjoy watching movies and TV.
When duty calls: Katherine Dokko had a run-in with her future boyfriend while she was exiting the men's restroom at Oliver Hall.
Katherine Dokko first met her boyfriend while she was leaving the bathroom — the men's bathroom.
> All great relationships had to start somewhere.
WHY I'M A CATCH: I'm fun, I like to have a good time and I don't read Twilight.
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Chelsea Freeman, a freshman from Wichita, helps children from the Boys and Girls Club create handmade ornaments during the Mentors in the Lives of Kids' (M.I.L.K.) annual holiday party in the ballroom of the Kansas Union. M.I.L.K. formed a new group, Girls Club, that promotes social and financial independence for fifth- and sixth-grade girls. The curriculum is designed to empower young girls and teach them that a man isn't necessary for a successful life. The group begins its lessons in January. M.I.L.K. is run by two coordinators, senior Laura Davis and sophomore Carlye Yanker.
BY SAMANTHA COLLINS
Chris Bronson/KANSAN
scollins@kansan.com
A group of University of Kansas students thinks that elementary school girls can benefit from a more practical kind of education, specifically geared toward young females.
The on-campus student group Mentors in the Lives of Kids, or M.I.L.K., created a new program, the Girls Club, this year to teach life skills and promote economic self-sufficiency for fifth- and sixth-grade girls. M.I.L.K. is run through the Center for Community Outreach. The Boys and Girls Club of Lawrence provides affordable after-school care for about 1,200 children. Laura Davis, a senior from Lawrence and co-coordinator of M.I.L.K., said the group often worked with the Boys and Girls Club and thought the new program would work well with the children there.
The 10-week curriculum addresses issues like stereotypes and how the girls view themselves, how women are viewed in advertisements, spending, credit cards, sales tax, budgeting and savings. The program will start next semester in January.
If you want to get involved with the Mentors in the Lives of Kids, e-mail: milk@ku.edu.
Carlye Yanker, a sophomore from St. Louis and co-coordinator of M.I.L.K., said she thought it would be easier to work with all
She said she believed it was important to target girls at an early age to address these issues and the truth surrounding the expectations and stereotypes, which was why a large section of the curriculum was devoted to self-image.
Devon Cantwell, a junior from Topeka and a member of M.I.L.K., said at the end of the program the young girls will hold a bake sale to use their newly learned skills. She said the bake sale would teach the
Davis said stereotypes and expectations of the "perfect woman" often cause young girls to become self-conscious.
girls because successful college women would be running the program.
"They can be part of a cool, exclusive girls club." Yanker said.
"They are constantly inundated with imagery of women that they are expected to look like or act like," Davis said.
Report: Number of international students increasing at University
"Any girl or woman who is confident and independent is bound to have a much brighter future," Davis said. "It will be the future that she chooses to have, whatever that may be."
Davis said she hoped to provide mentorship during the "awkward period" and help girls become individually stronger.
"The man doesn't always have to make the money," Cantwell said.
CAMPUS | 3A
girls that they don't need a man in their lives to be successful.
International students, who come mainly from China, Saudi Arabia Indonesia and the Republic of Korea, now make up 7 percent of the nearly 30,000-person student body.
FINALS|3A
For an'A,' do more than study
Students should also take care of their mental and physical wellbeing to succeed with finals. Student Success has launched a new website with schedules for stress-busting events and exercise classes to help students out with this stressful time of year.
ago - While she was driving, car to the shop for an oil change and tuneup.
"As a poor college student, you cross your fingers that this one didn't pop your tire or bend your rim," Strusz said.
No luck. The mechanics told Strusz, a senior from Republic, Mo., that her rim was cracked and bent. A new one cost her $150.
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"Notorious"
But search "Lawrence, KS
If you search "Eudora, KS potholes" on Google, you get 1,500 results. For Topeka, there are 15,000 results. Going east down K-10, DeSoto has 21,000, Olathe has 19,000 and Overland Park has 37,000 Google results.
SEE POTHOLES ON PAGE 3A
Kansas lucks out with late foul call
KU beat out UCLA in the final second after a controversial call sent Mario Little to the free throw line with the game tied at 76 and 0.7 seconds left. Check out our post-game coverage.
INDEX
Classifieds...8A
Crossword...4A
Cryptoquips...4A
Opinion...5A
Sports...10A
Sudoku...4A
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