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--the best thing I found in college," Greenberg said. "These towns really appreciate us coming from such a distance to help them out."
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Students work with the Cumberland Trails Conference in Tennessee during winter break. Alternative Breaks will offer a summer program this year.
Greenberg also did winter break program in New Orleans organized to help rebuild homes destroyed by Hurricane Katrina.
Greenberg said he was excited about the new summer program and would probably volunteer since he would be in Lawrence for the summer.
"The upsides are incredible," Greenberg said. "You get to see an area you may have never been to, give your time and walk away with the potential to have some good friends for life."
Sam Greenberg, a senior from Highland Park, Ill., is one of the site leaders for a spring break program in Providence, R.I. Students will work with Steel Yard, an industrial space that accommodates local artists and organizes outreach training programs to provide homeless men and women with steel-working skills.
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2010 SUMMER BREAK SITES:
"I think Alternative Breaks is
The second site is in New York City. Students will work with the Metropolitan Community Church of New York Homeless Youth Services, a non-profit organization that helps impoverished and marginalized lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender youth. Students at that site will help with the general responsibilities of running the shelter.
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going to be doing things like snorkeling and hiking, and it's totally provided for them," Barnard said.
Catalina Island Environment Catalina Island, Calif.
Metropolitan Community Church of New York Homelessness/GLBTQ New York City, N.Y. http://www.homelessyouthservices.org
Ozanam
Kansas City, Mo.
Saturday, March 6
2010 UPCOMING WEEKEND BREAK SITES:
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Ewephoria Farm
Just outside of Lawrence
April 17-18
Eagle Valley Raptor Center
Wichita
April 24-April 25
about 100 students — about 25 of them male — who came to hear Coleman, the self-proclaimed "Dating Doctor." Coleman spoke about dating, romance, healthy relationships and how to be a good partner.
Coleman said the main goal of his job as "America's Real Life Hitch," was to help people find their "hmmm."
"A 'hmmm' is someone who makes you stop dead in your tracks," he said.
Coleman was the inspiration behind "Hitch," the 2005 movie starring Will Smith. He also consulted for the many dating and advice scenes in the film. In addition to speaking at 200 events every year, he also helps 10 clients find significant others.
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The audience at Wednesday's event was extremely interactive with Coleman. Audience members raised their hands in accordance with the questions he asked, such as how many of them saw themselves as attractive and how many saw themselves as being stuck in the "friend zone."
Coleman said it's harder for men than it is for women to introduce themselves to a potential partner.
All but a few women raised their hands because, Coleman said, most women think men are only after sex.
"Please raise your hand if you don't trust men," he asked the audience.
Men also make the biggest mistake, he said, when they ask too many factual questions. This causes them to miss out on how women feel, he said, and instead they become like an accountant to her rather than grow closer to her.
He said no one would find the right person until he or she became the right person. Coleman told the audience what he thought the secret to any relationship was.
Boehner said she looked for someone who was smart, funny and athletic, as she motioned toward her boyfriend sitting next to her.
"Someone that gets me and understands me is important," she said.
"If your significant other believes in their heart that you have the capacity to walk away from them and never look back or doubt yourself, they'll never second-guess you," he said.
Katie Blevins, a sophomore from Great Bend, is single and said she came to hear Coleman's advice so she could learn where to find guys who she found desirable who were willing to approach her.
Coleman said there was only one question that needs to be answered honestly to decide the fate of a relationship: "Am I an option or a priority?"
"They're only focused on sexual intimacy, rather than finding anything deeper," she said. "It's hard to find anything."
Rachel Anderson, a junior from Manhattan and the social issues director for Student Union Activities, said she thought that there's a lot of pressure in college for people to find the person they are going to spend the rest of their lives with, and Coleman helped alleviate some of that pressure.
"Whether you are in a relationship, not in a relationship, long-term, long-distance, whether you are gay, straight, bisexual," she said, "he touches on every facet of dating."
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REALITY BITES
On his website, Coleman has a quiz about relationships. Here are some of his questions and answers:
Who controls a relationship between two people?
Who contends a relationship between two people The person who is more invested has to work harder to keep the relationship going and to keep the other person (the one least invested) interested.
What do men and women want more than anything else (and they both want the same thing)?
The minute that something is unavailable to us or potentially unattainable to us, we seem to want it more than anything else. For example, people will sometimes break off a relationship and then see their ex dating someone new and immediately want he or she back. Why? Nothing has changed, right? Because now they can't have them and don't want anyone else to have them either.
Do Women have a "G-spot" (or a secret, magical sexual "hot button")?
It is not a myth, but the truth. The misguided notion of a woman's sexual potential persisted until 1950 when an article by a Berlin gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg discussed the G-spot area. In his original work, he reported that some women had a spot on the inside of the front wall of the vagina, which, when firmly stimulated produced intense orgasms and in some women ejaculation of something thicker and slicker than urine during the strongest contractions of their orgasms. No further serious research was done until Perry and Whipple's 1978 extensive study, which confirmed the article of Dr. Grafenberg. Most sexologists now think every woman has a G-spot but it may simply be unresponsive from lack of stimulation. It can be made to learn to be responsive, however, by proper stimulation.
Does a man thinks about sex approximately every seven seconds?
According to an intense Kinsey Institute study, the average man forms a thought about sex approximately every two minutes, and men generally ponder the thought for about 50 seconds to one minute before letting go of it, so to speak.
Go to Coleman's website, www.datingdoctor.com to see how your relationship IQ stacks up.
Source: www.datingdoctor.com
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Fraser Hall's west entrance was closed Wednesday by facilities operations because of falling ice from the building. A representative from facilities operations said the department received a complaint that said the ice was sliding off the sloped roof onto the steps of the building.