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kansas in heat (print edition) // KEGELS: SEXERCISE TO INCREASE YOUR PLEASURE
Relationship researcher Mike Anderson tackles the sticky world of relationship advice, one weekly Jayplay column at a time
Mike Anderson, Dellwood, Minn., graduate student, is the host of Kansas in Heat, a talk show about sex and relationships that airs Thursdays at 7 p.m. on KJHK, 90.7fm and at kjhk.org.
*THE OPINIONS OF THIS COLUMNIST DO NOT NECESSARILY REFLECT THE VIEWS OF JAYPLAY KANSAS IN HEAT IS NOT TO BE CONSIDERED AS A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL HELP
What exactly are Kegels and do they actually work? Some of my friends claim they get too sore from doing them. Are they not for everyone? — Tonya
Few people realize that your sexual organs are just like any other part of your body: They need to be exercised to perform at their fullest.
Kegels, named after Dr. Arnold Kegel, are a way to strengthen your pelvic floor muscle, otherwise known as you Pubococcygeus (PC) muscle. Your PC muscle plays an important role in bladder control and is the muscle you use to stop urinating or to squeeze out those last few drops.
You can do Kegels by flexing and then relaxing your PC muscle. Pretend like you are trying to stop yourself from urinating, and then relax.
You should practice both slow and fast Kegels. Slow Kegels involve contracting your PC muscle and holding it for a slow count of three and then relaxing. Fast Kegels involve contracting and releasing your PC as rapidly as you can and then relaxing.
Originally Kegels were developed to help
women who leaked urine when they coughed, sneezed or laughed, but they can do so much more.
Kegels can actually increase pleasure from orgasm in both men and women. Research has also shown that for men Kegels can help with erectile dysfunction and even premature or involuntary ejaculation.
There is a bit of a catch, though. All of these benefits will only start to show themselves about a month or two after doing this exercise.
It is also very important not to do Kegels excessively, or soreness may result. Most sexual experts agree that Kegels should be done in moderation to begin with and then increase in number gradually.
Men and women should begin by doing five slow contractions and five quick ones three times a day. Each week the number of contractions you do should only increase by five. Castleman says the ultimate goal should be to do 50 slow and 50 fast contractions three times a day for a total of 300 contractions a day.
Just like any initial exercise program, you may feel a little soreness in the beginning. The beautiful
// MIKE ANDERSON
thing about Kegels is that it is difficult for others to tell when you are actually doing them. You can practice your Kegels driving in your car, when you are eating dinner, or even when you are sitting in class. Just remember, it takes a month or two to notice the orgasm enhancement. But stick with it — the payoff will be great. Promise.
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five questions // MICHAEL GRUBBBS AND CASSIE RUPP two people, five questions, see how they stack up. //LESLIE KINSMAN
MICHAEL GRUBBS
Michael Grubbs plays "Grubbs" on the CW's One Tree Hill. He is also the lead singer of Wakey! Wakey!, a band from Brooklyn, New York. Wakey! Wakey! released a new album, Almost Everything I Wish I'd Said The Last, which came out Feb. 2.
Cheese. I live for cheese. I don't know why, but I just need it. I went to Paris where it's totally okay to eat cheese for breakfast and I almost never left. Cheese on pizza, nachos, by itself, on a sandwich or just really good brie on a cracker with some spicy jelly ... Oh god, I just got so hungry.
It would be Cindy Morgan in 1980. She plays Lacey Underall in the movie Caddyshack. The scene where Chevy Chase gives her the massage and does the fake shot. I was too young to see it when it came out, but I remember the first time I saw that scene a few years ago, thinking to myself, I want to live in this scene. I heard they totally improvised it. Chevy Chase was a charming devil in his day! I'm not one of those guys that's super into Caddyshack. I've never even played golf. But the one time I saw it, I was all about that scene.
Fifth grade and it was a doozie. Her name was Gwen. I bought her a ring and asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes. It lasted a few hours. It's painful and I don't want to go into it, but we really had something (haha). It's a good thing it was a good kiss, because I was a super nerd and didn't get kissed again until high school.
I would really like to wear ripped-up T-shirts more, but I'm really pale. Like, glow in the dark pale. It's hard to sleep at night with all of the glowing light emanating from my baby-fine Irish skin.
I love zombies so much. 28 Days Later remains in my top five movies of all time. I want to be the guy running from them, though. Maybe surviving quietly off canned food with a great haircut and some killer boots. I also need a really hot, special lady to sport those killer boots for, reproduce the human race with and eventually sacrifice myself for in a heart-wrenching scene where I stay behind to slow down the zombies.
WHAT FOOD OR DRINK ITEM CAN YOU NOT GO A DAY WITHOUT?
IF YOU COULD PICK ANY CELEBRITY TO
GET TOGETHER WITH, DEAD OR ALIVE,
WHO WOULD IT BE?
TELL US ABOUT YOUR FIRST KISS, DISHI
WHAT STYLE OR CLOTHING ITEM DO YOU
WISH YOU COULD PULL OFF?
WHAT ROLE WOULD YOU PLAY IN A POST-
APOCALYPTIC ZOMBIE WORLD?
CASSIE RUPP
Cassie Rupp is a Dighton senior majoring in journalism. She was the cover model for the 2009 "Women of KU" swimsuit calendar.
Crystal Light because it helps me stay hydrated and goes great with vodka.
I'd choose Justin Timberlake because it's Justin Timberlake. I don't really think that answer needs any explanation.
It was with my first real boyfriend, Brad. I was in high school and we were at a "party" in the middle of a country road because that's what you do in super small towns. So romantic.
Old school Britney Spears. I can't pull it off because I'm not as awesome as her and it really would not be cool in 2010.
I'd be an ass-kicking heroine so we could get everything back together and normal again.
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