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kansas in heat (print edition) // GETTING YOURSELF "OUT THERE"
Relationship researcher Mike Anderson tackles the sticky world of relationship advice, one weekly Jayplay column at a time
Mike Anderson, Dellwood, Minn., graduate student, is the host of Kansas in Heat, a talk show about sex and relationships that airs Weekdays at 8 p.m. on KJHK, 90.7/im and at kjhk.org.
*THE OPTIONS OF THIS COLUMNIST DO NOT NECESSARILY REFLECT THE VIEWS OF JAYPLAY, KANSAS IN HEAT IS NOT TO BE CONSIDERED AS A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL HELP
I hope that your 2010 is one that is filled with all the romance you want. If you are single and looking for a romantic partner, you may have made some new year's resolutions about exercising to look better, quitting smoking to smell better or taking singing lessons to sound better.
While all of these resolutions are good, I'm not sure they are the most important resolution if you are looking to find that someone special.
In 2010, I want your resolution to be different. I want your resolution to highlight your social side.
I think your resolution should highlight your quest to "get out there" and meet more people. Though not everyone you meet will end up being the man or woman of your dreams, you will end up meeting interesting people that might lead you to Mr. or Mrs. Right, or at least expose you to new experiences.
Joining a club or organization is a great idea to become more social, but I have something else in mind: I want you to host at least two parties in 2010.
There are few better places to meet people than at a party. A party allows you to display your social
side in an environment that is fun and positive. In this environment, you have the comfort of your house or apartment to help build your confidence in approaching and talking to people.
Being the host gives you many more openers and gambits to use when approaching others. You also get to indirectly impress anyone with the food you serve or with the items in your house. Research has shown that social desirability skills are a major component of what people look for in a mate. Hosting a party will help enhance your image as a social individual. If people end up having a good time at a party, they will partly associate their good time with your hosting.
I also recommend themed parties that include a game. How about a high-school themed party where everyone wears his or her letter jacket? Or a musician party where people dress up as their favorite musician? Anything that will allow the memories of your party to stick in people's minds is a good thing.
If you are hesitant to approach individuals, hosting a party is one of the best things you can do because it provides an environment where people are coming to you. The simple fact is
this; Hosting and attending parties places you in an environment that is ripe for meeting new people and getting more numbers. According to relationship expert Tracey Cox, only four out of 100 individuals will end up marrying or enjoying a long-term commitment with someone they meet at a club. A club atmosphere doesn't allow your social side to be enhanced as much as hosting a party does.
So in 2010, make your resolution to be more social by hosting more parties. You will also be helping others find someone special, too.
In the end, enhancing the social aspects of your life will do more for your romantic life than the gym or singing lessons ever could.
// MIKE ANDERSON
five questions // LANE CASADONTE AND ADI GOVINDARAJAN two people, five questions, see how they stack up. // KATY SAUNDERS
LANE CASADONTE
WTVR CBS 6 Sports Director and Broadcaster, Richmond, Va.
I actually never miss WWE Raw on Monday nights. And while I do watch Spongebob with my kids, I have to admit I really like iCarly too!!
I like to sing,but never in public. I also like to cook which is good because I really like to eat,too!
This is a hard question because I've wanted to be a broadcaster since I was 7. I've been thinking about it, and I guess I can't come up with an exotic answer. I would probably be in the business world, but what I'd really like to do is either play centerfield for the Yankees or drive a car for Rick Hendrick in NASCAR.
This is another hard question because I've gotten to meet so many of the heroes of my youth. I was extremely nervous interviewing Reggie Jackson, had a great time talking to George Foreman and was always somewhat intimidated talking to the late Dale Earnhardt. If I ever need some good insight on a number of sports topics I love talking to author John Feinstein, and if I ever need the straight truth on things in a totally non-PC way, I love talking to Charles Barkley.
I'll give you two. The present athlete is obviously Tiger Woods for reasons both on and off the golf course. The past athlete would have to be Babe Ruth to find out just how many of the stories and myths about him were actually true.
WHAT ARE YOUR GUILTY PLEASURES?
ANYTHING YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT?
DO YOU HAVE ANY UNUSUAL HOBBIES?
WHAT PATH IN LIFE DO YOU THINK YOU
WOULD HAVE CHOSEN IF YOU HAD NOT
GONE INTO BROADCASTING?
WHAT/WHO WAS YOUR MOST
MEMORABLE INTERVIEW?
IF YOU COULD PICK ONE ATHLETE TO IN-
TERVIEW PAST OR PRESENT WHO WOULD
IT BE AND WHAT WOULD YOU ASK THEM?
ADI GOVINDARAJAN Kansas City Senior, KUJH-TV reporter on Jayhawk Sportstalk Sunday
Guilty pleasures, huh? I've got to say that I'm pretty guilty of being a Justin Bieber fan.
I play piano and record music. I also write rap songs. They're really awsome.
I looked at going to acting school for a long time. After that, I decided I preferred doing broadcast and I could do entertainment marketing as a back-up if things didn't pan out.
I was interviewing Amy Hall-Holt, the University of Kansas women's tennis coach, this past semester and it was disaster on my part. For some reason I kept tripping over the words I was trying to say and I knew she could barely understand what I was saying. As I made this realization I just got more nervous and blurted out another misprased, dumb question. Luckily for me, she somehow understood what I was trying to ask and went ahead and just answered the question I should have asked. Maybe she felt bad for me or maybe I just got lucky. Either way I look at that interview as an all-time low.
I'd interview Muhammad Ali in the present. I want to know his take on boxing in the recent years and the direction that it has gone in. Plus, I want to know where he thinks current boxers stand against Ali in his prime.
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