UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN
Tuesday, November 26,1996
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Holiday break creates hassles when' Hawks go back to the nest
Parents have trouble giving independence to returning students
By Megan Jordan Kansan staff writer
Sarah Cavin can't wait to see her cat and eat homemade meals during Thanksgiving break. But there's one thing that has her apprehensive—her parents.
When Cavin went home for the first time last year, her parents were upset because she spent the majority of her time with high school friends. Cavin said it was difficult for them to see how independent she had become since leaving for college.
"It's a shocker for them that we are gone and then that's we're bad," she said. "And all of a sudden, in a period of a couple months, we think we don't have to listen to them anymore."
Cavin said she didn't think her parents were trying to give her a hard time, but that they simply were worried about her.
Cavin's interpretation was right on track, said Jim Kreider, clinical social worker for Counseling and Psychological Services. Students can expect parents to bombard them with questions about everything from sleeping patterns to checkbook balances because parents are not used to students handling these issues on their own.
When parents do talk to their children at school, they usually end up hearing about things that are going wrong, Kreider said. This makes the parents even more worried.
"That can feel like parents are trying to take away one's sense of being an adult." Kreider said.
"Make sure you tell parents about successes, not just things you are having problems with," he said.
Kreider said that once parents became accus
tomed to students controlling their own lives, they would calm down. However, parents always will be parents. And students always will have to convince parents that they can take care of themselves.
"I suspect that older students struggle with this too," Kreider said. "You'll be learning to do this your whole life."
Allison Bergant, Olathe senior, said that convincing her parents she was independent was harder now that she was older. When she was a freshman, Bergant was glad to go home and have Mom and Dad take care of her. As a senior, however, she is getting a job and moving, and her parents are having trouble adjusting.
Kreider suggested that when students go home they remain patient with their parents' questions and concerns. Angry responses will not convince them that life is running smoothly.
Cavin agreed that students should respect their parents' probing questions.
"They just want to make sure that this really is the best time of your life," she said.
Law students give those needing help an opportunity to enjoy Thanksgiving
Fundraiser brings in food and money for holiday dinners
By Stephanie Fite
Kansan staff writer
KU law students made Thanksgiving dinner a reality to those who cannot afford it.
"Once you see the amount of food, you get an idea of how serious the hunger is in this town."
"The goal was not to just feed them Thanksgiving Day. We wanted to feed families for as long as possible," said Jean Moore, Mill Valley, Ca., first-year law student. "This is a good cause and sounded like something I wanted to put my efforts into."
About 17 students from the Black Law Student Association, Hispanic American Law Student Association and Women in Law participated in the eighth annual Thanksgiving Fundraiser. The students sorted cans and put together baskets of food on Saturday. Yesterday, volunteers delivered more than 50 baskets to 10 families and six Lawrence shelters.
Rosco Howard KUassociate professor of law
The Black Law Student Association sponsors the fundraiser annually. The fundraiser produced more than $2,000 worth of canned food and more than $1,300 in donations this year. Women in Law, the Christian Legal Society, Legal Aid Society and Law Library were among 10 organizations that participated. The event is one of the only fundraisers which includes every member of the law school.
Rosco Howard, associate professor of law, said he was impressed by the Black Law Student Association's effort to raise money during exams.
"Their efforts galvanize the
entire law school. Every organization and most of the students contribute to the drive," Howard said. "The volume of food is overwhelming. It literally fills the Mock Trial courtroom on the first floor. Once you see the amount of food, you get an idea of how serious the hunger is in this town, which is a shame based on the relative comfort most of the citizens enjoy."
Last year, the organization fed more than 45 families through foodbaskets and donations. This year the organization wants to feed more than 60 families, Moore said.
Members of the Black Law Student Association began planning in September to find three student organizers, Lawrence shelters and families who needed sponsors, Moore said. The Thanksgiving fundraiser began eight years ago to create a link between the law school and the community.
"The law school is very public-interest minded and supports the fundraiser because it is a good cause," Moore said. "The boxes are set outside of the classes and emptied twice a day."
The first-year law students are divided into nine teams. The team with the most donations will have its members' names engraved on a plaque that will go in the law school trophy case.
Joyce Pearson, associate director of the law library, distributed boxes to the Ballard Community Agency.
Pearson, a second-year participant, said she learned about the fundraiser from a flier.
"Delivering the boxes to the center was very rewarding," Pearson said. "It was a good feeling to help people who needed it and to be associated with BLSA."
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