UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN
Tuesday, November 12. 1996
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'Rules'not relevant to'90s
Book raises questions about roles of women
By Erin Rooney
Kansan staff writer
When Laura Fleming wanted to go to her sorority's Pine and Pearl formal, she asked a man to be her date.
Asking a man to her formal violated rules 2, 5 and 17 in the women's guide to dating entitled The Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. The authors are both married women from New York and New Jersey, respectively.
The book, according to it's second chapter, provides "...a simple way of acting around men that can help any woman win the heart of the man of her dreams." It outlines guidelines that women should follow to catch their dream boat and sail him into the sea of marriage.
"There's a certain amount of the rules that are true, but I don't think you should sit around forever," said Fleming, Prairie Village, sophomore. "You have to take initiative sometimes. This is the 90s."
Rule #2: Don't Talk to a Man First; Rule #5: Don't Call Him and Rule #17: Let Him Take the Lead were the rules that Fleming violated in asking her date.
Dennis Dailey, professor of social welfare, said that he thought the book was filled with antiquated ideas and that he would not pass it on to his daughters.
"Selling this book of rules to the majority of people is like paddling upstream in a wire canoe," Dalley said. "It's a throw back. I can't imagine that most contemporary women would find it appealing."
The book assumes that all women are heterosexual and that all women are looking for a man to make them whole, Dailey said. Not all women are in college to earn their MRS degree.
But there are women who are looking for a mate, and they are not only on college campuses. Some major cities now have The Rules support groups. There are phone consultations with the authors for $250 an hour and national touring seminars. Since 1995, 235,000 copies have been distributed. A sequel is in progress and movie rights have been optioned for $250,000.
There are also women who report thatThe Rules works. In the September 30 issue of Time Magazine, a 28-year-old talk show assistant in Nashville, Tenn., said that she followed The Rules for 1 1/2 years and now she was engaged.
Sull, Fleming said she thought the overall attitude of the book was unrealistic for her lifestyle.
"It seems like you wouldn't get to know somebody because you're trying so hard to be aloof and mysterious," she said.
Rule #29: Take Care of Yourself, and Other Rules for Dating in College
Don't look up his class schedule or follow him around campus.
Don't hang out in the dining hall all night hoping to run into him.
Don't have your friends talk to his friends to find out how he feels about you.
Don't purposely listen to music that he likes or wear shirts with logos of his favorite bands on it.
Don't become obsessed with sports if he plays a sport.
DON'T USE STUPID ABOUT SAFETY.
Don't help him with his homework
Don't be stupid about safety
Do study.
Do eat healthy.
Do wear make-up and read fashion magazines.
Do get involved on campus.
Do go out with friends.
Do have career and life goals.
Racist content troubles Texaco
The Associated Press
NEW YORK — A senior Texaco Inc. executive did not use a racial slur at a 1994 meeting, investigators hired by the company concluded after analyzing a tape recording, The New York Times reported yesterday.
Their analysis, based on a digitized copy of the tape enhanced by sound experts, contradicts earlier claims that former Texaco treasurer Robert Ulrich referred to minority employees as "niggers."
A transcript of a conversation between Ulrich and other executives filed in court last week has Ulrich saying: "I'm still having trouble with Hanukkah. Now, we have Kwanzaa. (Explive) niggers, they (expletive) all over us with this."
Texaco Chairman Peter Bijrj he still found the words on the tape troubling.
The investigators' transcript quotes him as saying: "I'm still struggling with Hanukkah, and now we have Kwanzaa. I mean, I lost Christmas. Poor St. Nicholas, they (expletive) all over his beard."
"The findings merely set the record straight as to the exact words spoken in the conversations," he said. "But they do nothing to change the categorically unacceptable context and tone of those conversations."
Meanwhile, The Wall Street Journal reported yesterday that federal prosecutors planned to file criminal charges against at least one individual in the Texaco case this week, perhaps as early as today.
Athletic department strives to recycle
Campus-wide systems begin to follow suit
By Dave Breitenstein
Kansan staff writer
The University of Kansas is implementing a campus-wide recycling program, but the athletic department is already a year ahead.
The athletic department's recycling program is separate from the University's program, which is run through the department of environmental health and safety. It recycles aluminum cans, newspapers and office paper.
"We checked with the University and they didn't have anything set up, so we decided that we wanted to recycle," said Jean Wulfkuhle, assistant director of facilities in the athletic department. "Our program is a little more extensive than the University's right now."
The athletic department began its recycling program in the fall of 1995. The University did not hire an environmental specialist to coordinate campus recycling until the end of this summer.
Dickerson Recycling of Leavenworth removes recyclables from
"Dickerson is doing us a big favor by coming here, and we appreciate their efforts," she said. "We didn't want a recycling program that would be too expensive, and Dickerson is not charging us anything."
central locations in Allen Field House every two weeks.
The athletic department receives money for recycled aluminum cans, and it has used this money to purchase large recycling bins. However, some cans were stolen, and because of this, they had the lids chained down, said WulfRahle.
Marcia Bagby, secretary in the baseball office, said the department had boxes for recycling in every office and that employees took the boxes to the containers.
Victoria Silva, KU environmental specialist, said she appreciated that the athletic department recycled items that the University could not.
"We'd like to have everyone to recycle through us, but there's nothing that would prevent a department from starting their own program," she said. "I thought it was great when I came here and they already had a recycling program in place. I'd much rather see them doing that than nothing at all."
Parents paying for college has pros and cons
College students choose their classes, choose their roommates, choose their meals. But who foots the bill?
Although college often is a time of new-found independence, many KU students think their parents are obligated to help pay for their education.
Tricia Freeman, Basehor sophomore, receives complete financial support from her parents.
By Megan Jordan Kansan staff writer
Freeman said not worrying about money allowed her to focus on schoolwork.
In the long run, she said, this dedication to her studies would be more beneficial than having workexperience.
"I can't see any good coming of me working at McDonalds or Taco Bell, or even in sales like J C Penney's," she said.
But if her parents could not afford to pay for her, she would not expect them to do it, she said.
Keith Bandenoch, Topeka senior, has lived in residence halls for four years and worked as a resident assistant for two. Although his parents cover a lot of costs, he has seen several students struggle to support themselves.
"I think it's important for parents to help out, at least in the beginning years," he said. "I've seen a lot of freshman flunk out in the first year because they are trying to work and do not have time to study."
Bandenoch also said that when students were not under pressure to earn tuition money, they have time to join campus organizations and social groups. They can learn responsibility through leadership positions in these groups and make friends at the same time.
Not all students are as lucky as Freeman and Bandenoch, however. Julie Cooper, associate director for the student financial aid office, said that roughly 40 to 45 percent of the University community received financial aid.
She said there were both positives and negatives to parents not helping their children pay for college.
"If a student can support themselves without getting into lots of loan debt, it can raise their self-esteem," she said. "You are working hard and you are motivated. But I like to tell parents, 'What greater gift could you give your student than to get out of school without debt?'"
James Dayton, Overland Park junior, receives no financial assistance from his parents. He took a couple of years off school to earn money, has student loans and works 25 hours a week.
"It's stressful at times," he said. "I just have to budget my money."
Although Dayton thinks that parents should support their children until they are 21, he chose to support himself and control his own money.
"They can't boss you around when you're financially independent." he said.
Freeman said students like Dayton who did not depend on parents would have an easier time adjusting to life after college because they were accustomed to earning and budgeting money.
Cooper agreed that although some students may be forced to learn the value of money early in life, they may not be better off than others.
"It is such a consumer-oriented society, we are all kind of naive when it comes to money," she said. "Who knows what real money is?"
Reusable mugs save money and the planet
By Dave Breitenstein
Kansan staff writer
"Of course the refillable mug issue is based from an environmental standpoint," said Anne Munsterman, assistant manager of KU concessions. "It's also a value to the customer and more convenient."
Many KU students are refilling to decrease landfilling, albeit unconsciously.
Lawrence convenience stores, Wescoe Terrace and the University of Kansas Unions offer a discount on beverages for customers who bring in refillable mugs.
But she said cashiers sometimes had trouble distinguishing the actual size of a cup, so they now charge a separate price for small, which is below 20 oz., and large, which is above 20 oz. Unlike many convenience stores, the reason Wescoe Terrace offers discounts is not strictly to increase business.
"A lot of places use them to bring you into their store." Munsterman
Munsterman said Wescoe Terrace refilled any plastic cup or mug students brought in, and price varied depending on the cup's size.
Jay Glatz, manager of food services at the Kansas Union, said the Union had a refillable-cup policy as part of its recycling program. By using the same cup many times, students can cut down on the number of paper cups thrown away.
said. "If you only have to pay 39 cents for a drink, they think that maybe you'll buy something else as well. It's just like the purpose of a sale at a grocery store."
Each year, the Union refills about 8,000 to 10,000 beverage containers, Glatz said. In addition to a lower refill price, students buy mugs for
anotherreason.
"The kids like to get a new mug each year to add to their collection," he said.
But environmental concerns are the primary concern for purchasing refillable mugs, said Victoria Silva, KU environmental specialist. Students can conserve natural resources that are needed to make paper cups, and less waste is created because fewer paper cups will be produced.
getting passed down to students, so it will save them money in the long run if they use a refillable cup."
Margaret Stafford, Kansas City, Kan., senior, said price was the main reason she used refillable cups, but said the environment also was important.
"There is a cost involved with the Union ordering another set of paper cups," she said. "The cost ends up
She said she filled her refillable Jayhawk mug twice a day at the Kansas Union and Wescoe Terrace.
"I don't live in Lawrence, so I'm on campus all day," she said. "It's not like I can run back to my apartment and eat lunch."
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