THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 8,1996
THE UNIVERSITY DAILY KANSAN
NEWS 864-4810
THE STUDENT NEWSPAPER OF THE UNIVERSITY OF KANSAS
SECTION A VOL.102.NO.92
ADVERTISING 864-4358
TODAY KANSAN
SPORTS
Future football players
On the first day of Spring signings, Jayhawks sign 24 recruits, including Dariss Lomax. Page 1B
CAMPUS
A Lawrence man wants the City Commission to repeal a law banning street musicians. Page 6A
A musician on every corner
WORLD
Charter jetliner crashes
NATION
Rescuers work among sharks and debris looking for the 189 passengers. Page 7A
Senate passes farm bill
The 64-32 vote gives farmers fixed and declining payments. Page 8A
WEATHER PLEASANT
High 65° Low 42°
(USPS 650 640)
Weather: Page 2A.
INDEX
Opinion ... 4A
National News ... 7A
World News ... 8A
Sports ... 1B
Scoreboard ... 2B
Horoscopes ... 4B
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Fighting for a relationship
Couples learn from arguments and strengthen mutual respect
By Heather Kirkwood Kansan staff writer
Katie Paletta, St. Louis sophomore, sometimes argues with her boyfriend about how little time they spend together. But rather than screaming at him, she tries to see things from his point of view.
"I try to understand that we both need to do our own thing, that he needs to spend time with other people," Paletta said.
But unlike Paletta, many people don't look at arguments as opportunities to learn. Instead, they want a quick-fix list of ways to resolve conflicts in a relationship, said Francis DeSalvo, director of KU counseling and psychological services.
DeSalvo said resolving differences seldom was easy, but he offered advice for couples who found themselves in an argument
First of all, don't approach arguments from the standpoint of trying to win or lose, DeSalvo advised, because if one party won, it meant the other had lost something and would likely be hurt.
Photo illustrations by Matt Flickner
Jason Carr, Lawrence senior,
said he learned that lesson in his
own life. Carr said he loved a good
debate, but learning to know
when to back off was important.
"Otherwise you will end up hurting the other person's feelings," he said.
When arguing, DeSalvo said many people tried to formulate a
rebutal before their partner had finished talking. But this only resulted in an escalation of the problem, rather than an understanding of what was being said.
Instead, DeSalvo said the best way to turn an argument into a learning experience was to hear people out. If the person arguing starts repeating himself, stop him long enough to tell him what has
been heard and ask if he has more to say. If so, continue listening.
As the person talks, try to walk in his shoes, DeSalvo said.
"That doesn't imply that you have to agree with their position," he said. "Simply focus beyond your position."
After a partner has finished talking, DeSalvo said to feel free to respond, but not to be afraid to take a minute to think about what had been said.
"The idea that someone is thinking about what has been said changes the whole complexion of the thing," DeSalvo said. "Things become more of a discussion."
Once both partners have heard each other out, DeSalvo said they should examine the situation to find a resolution that would appeal to both parties.
"Where people get into trouble is when they agree to something that they really don't want to do," DeSalvo said. "Then they make sure the other person really knows that they aren't having a good time."
Finally, after both partners have listened to each other and have respect for the other's position, DeSalvo said they could use what they had learned about each other to develop their own style of dealing with differences.
"It is that kind of uniqueness that makes couples feel very special," DeSalvo said.
Students again drop Freeman courses
By Jason Strait
Kansan staff writer
Students eager to attend Bryant Freeman's classes on Haiti this semester are again out of luck.
For the second consecutive semester, students will have to drop the courses because Freeman will be in Haiti.
The department of African and African-American Studies has canceled the courses Elementary Haitian I and II and Haiti Today that were to be taught by Freeman, professor of African-American studies.
Linda Wiley, secretary in African-American studies, said Freeman's teaching status was uncertain until after enrollment this semester, so some students may be unaware of the cancellation.
The canceled courses were posted in Strong Hall, and Wiley sent notices to all students enrolled in the classes, but she was unsure if all students got the word.
"Students who have addresses that are different from the directory may not have gotten it," she said.
Wiley said she would work with them to find replacement courses.
None of Freeman's classes were scheduled to begin until Feb. 20.
Freeman, who is considered an expert on Haitian language and culture, said his status for this semester had been uncertain because he didn't know until the last minute if he was going to receive a grant to go to Haiti.
Freeman said that although the cancellation was last minute, it was not unusual to take leave from the University for other opportunities.
"It happens all the time with the faculty here at KU," he said. "I would say about 5 to 10 percent of the faculty take leave each semester, so it's not all that unusual."
Freeman will not receive a salary from the University while he is absent. He will work on a national literacy program while in Haiti.
Freeman said he expected to teach at the University next fall.
Makin'a break for Haiti
Bryant Freeman's cancelled classes:
HAIT 110, Elementary Haitian I
HAIT 120, Elementary Haitian II
HAP 120, Elementary Haitian II
AF S 320, Studies In Haiti Today
KU recreation fee could be tops in Big 12
But KU officials say $77 fee increase needed for center
By Nicole Kennedy Kansan staff writer
The proposed $90 per semester student fee to pay for a new recreation center may seem steep — because it is.
If the proposed recreation center is approved, KU students' recreation fee would increase from $13 to $90, which would be more than recreation fees at other Big 12 schools. KU's recreation fee increase would be phased in during a four-year period if passed.
Students at Kansas State University pay $30.25 per semester in recreation fees, even though the university recently built new facilities similar to the one being proposed for the University.
In contrast, the proposed $21-million KU facility would be completely separate from Robinson Center.
K-State's new facility is only an expansion, at a cost of $7.9 million, Chappell said.
But Mary Chappell, KU recreation service director, said there were
several reasons why the proposed center would cost KU students more.
The KU Recreation Center Planning committee considered expanding Robinson to cut costs, but Jade Shopp, a committee member, said an expansion was not feasible.
Rec Center Plans
A new recreation center would raise recreation fees by $77 per semester. KU's ranking in comparison with other Big 12 schools:
UNIVERSITY ENROLLMENT REC. FEES
Kansas (today) 26,000 $13.00
Kansas (with 26,000 90.00
new rec center)
Colorado 23,000 61.00
 Iowa State 26,000 24.55
 Kansas State 19,000 30.25
 Missouri 24,000 30.36
 Nebraska 24,600 41.65
 Texas 48,555 40.53
 Texas A&M 43,000 70.00
 Texas Tech 24,000 28.50
Oklahoma and Oklahoma State calculate their fee based on credit hours. Baylor
Shopp said adding to the center would make it impossible for the center to expand later because of limited parking and space near the gymnasium.
Derek Walters, facility manager of the K-State recreation center, said K-State's complex included 10 gymnasium courts, two running tracks and a free weight, circuit training and cardiovascular area. The expansion opened last summer.
and Iowa Streets. It would include seven gymnasium courts, a free weight, circuit training and cardiovascular area, an aerobic center, a four-lane jogging track, a combative room and a rock-climbing wall.
Oklahoma and Oklahoma State calculate their fee based on credit hours. Baylor would not release its fee information.
The proposed KU center would be similar to K-State's facility. The center would be located on West Campus at the corner of Clinton Parkway
Shawn Beach, San Bernadino,
Calif, junior, said he would be willing to pay the recreation center fee.
The proposed recreation center will face Student Senate on Tuesday.
"I think it would be worth it," he said. "It would be a lot nicer than a lot of the clubs around town."
Andy Rohrback/KANSAN
If approved, it would go to a student vote Feb. 27 and 28.
If the student referendum passes, the center would then have to be approved by Chancellor Hemenway, the Board of Regents and the Legislature.
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